Should I stay or should I go?

[BlockedThenADDED]

So I will start off by saying sorry for the long story. Just so everyone knows she is 23 and I’m 27. We have dated for about a month or so and everything was ok for a while. Until one night when she said she has this app where anonymous people can text and told her that I cheated on her and that I am a drifter and to be careful. Which I clearly have never cheated on her and haven’t even thought about it.

 

I also have a few issues with how she treats me and maybe it’s because she is young but I can’t figure it out. She calls me weird, immature, ******* and a few other choice words once in a while. I sometimes don’t even like texting her or hanging out with her anymore as I feel like I’m going to get criticized for parking too far away or other actions.

 

As of recently when I try to text or talk to her she doesn’t text back much or ignores me for a long period and then will get back to me saying she was sleeping, busy or something along those lines. I asked her best friend and told her not to tell my girlfriend (believe me if she had told, my girlfriend is the type who would confront me about it). Anyways her friend said to try not to smother her. Which I haven’t texted much( I feel sometimes like i'm talking to a brick wall and don't know what to say).

 

Also she only texts or wants to see me when she is bored, or wants something. I mean I don’t mind paying for things but it seems like she only wants me when it’s convenient for her.

 

She says she has always been this way and has never been a big mushy person. As when I try to say I miss her or want to see her she says that’s the kind of stuff that is pushing her away. I mean I really do care about her and want to make this work (I mean I see warning flags, I see the signs but foolishly blow past them thinking I can do this). I have talked to other friends about this and they say to run or to just ignore her. I just am on the ropes of what to do.

[J2911]

So I will start off by saying sorry for the long story. Just so everyone knows she is 23 and I’m 27. We have dated for about a month or so and everything was ok for a while. Until one night when she said she has this app where anonymous people can text and told her that I cheated on her and that I am a drifter and to be careful. Which I clearly have never cheated on her and haven’t even thought about it.

 

I also have a few issues with how she treats me and maybe it’s because she is young but I can’t figure it out. She calls me weird, immature, ******* and a few other choice words once in a while. I sometimes don’t even like texting her or hanging out with her anymore as I feel like I’m going to get criticized for parking too far away or other actions.

 

As of recently when I try to text or talk to her she doesn’t text back much or ignores me for a long period and then will get back to me saying she was sleeping, busy or something along those lines. I asked her best friend and told her not to tell my girlfriend (believe me if she had told, my girlfriend is the type who would confront me about it). Anyways her friend said to try not to smother her. Which I haven’t texted much( I feel sometimes like i'm talking to a brick wall and don't know what to say).

 

Also she only texts or wants to see me when she is bored, or wants something. I mean I don’t mind paying for things but it seems like she only wants me when it’s convenient for her.

 

She says she has always been this way and has never been a big mushy person. As when I try to say I miss her or want to see her she says that’s the kind of stuff that is pushing her away. I mean I really do care about her and want to make this work (I mean I see warning flags, I see the signs but foolishly blow past them thinking I can do this). I have talked to other friends about this and they say to run or to just ignore her. I just am on the ropes of what to do.

 

 

 

I agree with your friends .

Ignore her and run away

[soccerrprp]

I mean I really do care about her and want to make this work (I mean I see warning flags, I see the signs but foolishly blow past them thinking I can do this). I have talked to other friends about this and they say to run or to just ignore her. I just am on the ropes of what to do.

 

Don't become a victim. You see that she doesn't give you what you want and she has outright told you that she is not able to or want to. Walk away. Too many people, in the face of the obvious continue to stay in relationships that are destructive. Don't be like them. Don't tolerate having to do more than the other person is willing or capable of giving or doing at your expense. Back off and get her to change to accommodate you, meet you half way at least. Otherwise, just walk.

[torturedartist]

So I will start off by saying sorry for the long story. Just so everyone knows she is 23 and I’m 27. We have dated for about a month or so and everything was ok for a while. Until one night when she said she has this app where anonymous people can text and told her that I cheated on her and that I am a drifter and to be careful. Which I clearly have never cheated on her and haven’t even thought about it.

 

I also have a few issues with how she treats me and maybe it’s because she is young but I can’t figure it out. She calls me weird, immature, ******* and a few other choice words once in a while. I sometimes don’t even like texting her or hanging out with her anymore as I feel like I’m going to get criticized for parking too far away or other actions.

 

As of recently when I try to text or talk to her she doesn’t text back much or ignores me for a long period and then will get back to me saying she was sleeping, busy or something along those lines. I asked her best friend and told her not to tell my girlfriend (believe me if she had told, my girlfriend is the type who would confront me about it). Anyways her friend said to try not to smother her. Which I haven’t texted much( I feel sometimes like i'm talking to a brick wall and don't know what to say).

 

Also she only texts or wants to see me when she is bored, or wants something. I mean I don’t mind paying for things but it seems like she only wants me when it’s convenient for her.

 

She says she has always been this way and has never been a big mushy person. As when I try to say I miss her or want to see her she says that’s the kind of stuff that is pushing her away. I mean I really do care about her and want to make this work (I mean I see warning flags, I see the signs but foolishly blow past them thinking I can do this). I have talked to other friends about this and they say to run or to just ignore her. I just am on the ropes of what to do.

 

Oh the way technology improves our lives! Her smartphone app and your ability to connect to your current romantic prospect by simply pressing buttons, without the need to look her in the eyes, touch her, or even be in the same physical space.

 

Can you imagine how much differently Shakespeare's work would have read if cellphones were a part of his culture? Juliet might have texted Romeo: "Im not really dead, LOL."

 

I think you should stop texting her. See what happens when she goes an entire day without hearing the tone unique to your texts. She has assigned you your own ring tone, hasn't she? If not, I say get rid of that bitc* and find someone who will give your cold, digital attempts at romance the merit they deserve.

 

Or maybe you've already found such a person. Maybe you've found someone whose heart rate doesn't increase with the notification of a new text message. Maybe you've found someone who wants you to take her hand, look her in the eyes, and tell her the way you feel about her, with your own voice, like a man.

 

And maybe not. But at this point, you don't know. All I'm hearing is how butt-hurt you've gotten because of her lack of response to your text messages.

 

Go see her in-person. Tell her how you honestly feel about her. Tell her you'd like to spend some time with her, in person. Look her in the eyes. And if that doesn't have the desired effect, move on.

Edited May 5, 2014 by torturedartist

[Assasda]

I'll come at this another way.

Its not her fault. Its you.

Stop being needy, and get her down from the pedestal.

 

Thats the problem