FredJones80 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Just wondering if anyone suffered any physical ailments post break up? I know they can't all be linked but I find it coincidence, your emotional well being probably comes out physically too. I've pretty much been a dribbling mess for 4 weeks, in those four weeks I've been extremely tired (waking up at stupid hours, although less so now but still bad quality sleep) plus I also seem to have some sort of abscess in my mouth and now my ear inside is sore, I think possible ear infection. Usually I'm pretty healthy and don't get more than a cold. Anyone else experienced anything like this?
sooshi Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through physically. I suffered from a broken heart. And then when I found out my ex-fiance was pursuing my best friend shortly afterwards, it was worse. It was worse when he decided to cut me out and continue to pursue her. Although this might not go under a physical ailment, I also craved junk food. I eat very healthy and for two years had not desire to stray. But then the breakup came and when I went to the store, I would linger over the junk food section. I still had the self-control to not get anything though. A broken heart remains.
ebt100 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 My ex had insomnia, diarrhea, vomiting, headaches, some other stuff I won't list. She blames it on me and something I said (not the BU itself). I myself, in this breakup, have had absolutely terrible emotional responses. So far, they've remained emotional. But it has been so bad a I cancelled a vacation, had two lack-luster dates, don't want to do things, etc.
Author FredJones80 Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 I also craved junk food. I eat very healthy and for two years had not desire to stray. Yeah, I guess thats a physical reaction, comfort food. I tend to find I don't want to eat anything that is "nice" in a way. Like stuff you might treat yourself with, chocolate or whatever, I'm just eating normal food for the sake of eating it. I don't tend to want to eat food that might give me "joy" - Guess it just mirrors my depressive mood atm.
sooshi Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I'm sorry for what you're going through. You were together for a decade. She was surely your best friend. It's so saddening that these things happen, but I do believe that it only means that better things are coming. I know it's hard to believe that now on an emotional level, for both you and for myself but I believe it in my heart. <3
Author FredJones80 Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 I'm sorry for what you're going through. You were together for a decade. She was surely your best friend. It's so saddening that these things happen Thanks Sooshi, that meant a lot. Yep, she was my best friend without a doubt. I know there are worse things in life, but this is absolutely horrible to go through and I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone. Who would think one person could mean so much to someone that they have to go through this turmoil when they're gone.
Tressugar Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 My whole top part (crown) of my hair turned stark white. I never dyed my hair. My color returned after while. It gets better with time Fred. Hang in there.
elseaacych Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Well, I had a depressive episode that triggered pretty extreme weight loss, mental sluggishness, nausea, eating issues, soreness, lack of motivation to do things I liked to... Ooh, and I had panic attacks for a while too. Those were not fun. Yeah. I am still slowly getting over it. Hang in there everyone, it gets better!
jt27 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I am suffering from physical ailments indeed. I have no appetite as food has loss it's appeal to me. This is ironic because I love to cook. I feel sick to my stomach everyday. I get headaches from the stress of it all. My legs go weak and feel like jell-o often times when I think of her. I am often physically and mentally exhausted. It really really sucks. Hang in there buddy. I am trying too as well. 1
Haydn Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I went through all of these things Fred. Weight loss, no sleep, sick through grief. It will pass in time. Take care. 1
KaliLove Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 My ex had insomnia, diarrhea, vomiting, headaches, some other stuff I won't list. She blames it on me and something I said (not the BU itself). I myself, in this breakup, have had absolutely terrible emotional responses. So far, they've remained emotional. But it has been so bad a I cancelled a vacation, had two lack-luster dates, don't want to do things, etc. Err..are you sure she's not pregnant? Have to ask...
KaliLove Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I feel like in general men lose weight and women gain weight after a break up. Dammit, it's so unfair! Except my ex. He's put on a good 30lbs. HA! I had uncontrollable crying jags and days where I was too upset to get out of bed. Depression definitely has physical symptoms. 1
Zahara Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I think it's normal that you hit a slump in terms of your physical welfare. You're not eating right, not resting, body is feeling the shock, anxiety and turmoil. I remember not eating for a couple of weeks. I'd eat a cracker here and there. Some water. My stomach started hurting so bad I had to go in to check if I had an ulcer. My throat kept getting sore. My blood pressure was sky high. I lost weight rapidly and my hair started falling out. My legs were cramping every night probably from being dehydrated. From crackers, I moved on to sweets. I couldn't eat anything else. Headaches were unbearable. It was a two month crash.
Virgin26 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Extreme appetite loss, weight loss, nausea, depression, irregular sleep patters, panic attacks, eyes became very sensitive and sore, etc. I'm pretty much going through the worst time of my life on every single aspect of my life!! It's crazy how one person can have so much effect on my mental and physical health!!!
Sunbathe Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I am an anxious person by nature, and the break up definitely has not helped with that. Surprisingly I have been sleeping okay, but I have not been able to eat very much which is concerning because I am already underweight as it is. I try to eat but it just ends up upsetting my stomach. I have also noticed from this break up and also from arguments when we were still together, when I get really stressed out and anxious I wake up feeling very nauseous in the mornings. So much so that I actually begin dry heaving. It certainly is interesting how closely emotional and physical well being are tied together.
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