hearts12 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Hey! Am fed up with living with my own mental thoughts about my ex-boyfriend and quite honestly just wanted to rant a little and maybe get some thoughts/advice? I was with my ex for 4 years, our relationship ended 10 months ago. We broke up due to it just not working out. I had anxiety issues and honestly wasn't in a great place. We tried going on a break (initiated by me) but a month later, I didn't feel any better and ended up calling things off, although it was more of mutual thing, as we both were aware it wasn't working out. He text me a few times after we initially broke up, saying how he wanted things to work out and for us to try again, but I knew that we needed space - something we had discussed when we broke up (and even discussed maybe having a few months apart and maybe would try again in the future). We didn't speak for a few months, and maybe 2/3 months later we started talking again - via facebook chat. I had overcome the most of my anxiety and was feeling much better in myself - although still really missing him. We talked almost everyday for about 3/4 months like this, and even met up on a few occasions. He told me he missed me and we planned to hang out a little more. Then he stopped initiating conversations with me, I asked why, and he said he was busy and wanted to spend time with his friends etc, which I understood. However, I had a feeling he was seeing someone, but he never brought it up in our discussion. So about two weeks later, I found out that he was seeing this girl, thanks to the joy of nightclub photos on facebook! Heartbroken, I asked him and he told me 'It's nothing serious, we've been talking for a while. I don't see what it's got to do with you'. At this point I stopped talking to him. He didn't seem bothered but I clearly was. 2 months passed and now him and this girl are in a relationship on facebook. Heartbroken isn't even the word. He had consistently been telling me how he missed me and maybe we could be together in the future, and I was up for that. I wanted us to be together as two adults, not the teens we had originally been when we got together. I deleted him on facebook, unfollowed him on twitter and instagram - I don't need to see this new relationship! A few days later I saw him at the pub, and he came over to me and we had a chat about how he was sorry about how it all happened and that he wanted us still to be friends. I felt the same. He hugged me a good 3/4 times and it felt normal, but we have so much chemistry. Later that night when he walked past, he held my hand briefly. The next morning he text me saying 'Thanks for our chat last night, really appreciated it. Hope you're okay and see you soon x' I was pleased and quite honestly had false hope. 2 weeks later, I have seen him at the pub again, we had a normal-ish chat and he said bye when he left. For the past few weeks, I have been trying not to but keep finding myself looking at both of their twitters etc to gauge their new relationship. I found a tweet saying 'had the best day with my girlfriend ' so clearly my false hope is quite clearly that, false. It's been 10 months, I can't shake these feelings. I want him back, but he's moved on.
FredJones80 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I was with my ex for 4 years, our relationship ended 10 months ago. We broke up due to it just not working out. I had anxiety issues and honestly wasn't in a great place. We tried going on a break (initiated by me) but a month later, I didn't feel any better and ended up calling things off, although it was more of mutual thing, as we both were aware it wasn't working out. Its sad that you had issues at the time but I guess that's the risk people take who dump or agree on splitting up, by the time you've realised you made a mistake or made it through your issues they could have moved on. Sad but not much else to say sorry!
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