faithfully Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 (edited) Hi Guys, I don't even know where to start this, right I went through a really bad break up end of sept 2013, where I was dumped by who I thought was the one. I am in strict NC with my ex been there for 5months now and have no intention/plan to break it whatsoever. (we have nothing to say to each other) 8months now, I've worked soo hard on myself. I have a nice penthouse I live in all by myself. I have my job which I love, good friends, a new car. Got 2 hol booked this year and my biggest achievement I have lost over 25lb in weight and planning on losing more- I am not fat/obese UK size 12 now. I don't know how to put this without tryna come across desperate but I cant seem to find any decent guys, when I said decent- I went on a date with a guy about 3 weeks or so ago and I drove to his to pick him up to go for a drink. he then told me he forgot/lost his bank card and didnt have any money so I ended up paying for the drink (I was not impressed) and after I dropped him off home, he farted really loud in my car then started laughing, Urrgghhh nasty it was!! I am on a few dating site but the guys I find attractive don't approach me but I am old fashioned in a way where I wont approach men 1st. When me and my friends go out clubbing, its usually drunken men who want sex or end up annoying me. And now i dont go out as much because i am trying to save I go to the gym 4/5 times a week but I don't go gym to look/chat to men, I am there for 1 purpose only which is to sweat. when I say sweat its like I got in the shower with my gym clothes on. Has anybody got tips or advice to please give. I am willing to try something new and I will listen to you guys too. I am 27 years old too Thank you Edited May 4, 2014 by faithfully dpelling mistake
Frank2thepoint Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I don't know how to put this without tryna come across desperate but I cant seem to find any decent guys, when I said decent- I went on a date with a guy about 3 weeks or so ago and I drove to his to pick him up to go for a drink. he then told me he forgot/lost his bank card and didnt have any money so I ended up paying for the drink (I was not impressed) and after I dropped him off home, he farted really loud in my car then started laughing, Urrgghhh nasty it was!! Real classy guy. No money and no manners. Where did you meet him? Why did you choose to go on a date with him? I am on a few dating site but the guys I find attractive don't approach me but I am old fashioned in a way where I wont approach men 1st. When me and my friends go out clubbing, its usually drunken men who want sex or end up annoying me. And now i dont go out as much because i am trying to save Ah, lurking on dating sites. So you are chasing after good looking guys? Is this your criteria? Is there anything else that you may like a guy to have, some kind of values? Also meeting a guy at clubs is the same venue as online dating. Most people go there for hooking up. Has anybody got tips or advice to please give. I am willing to try something new and I will listen to you guys too. I am 27 years old too Thank you Are you sure you are ready to try something new? Well here goes then. From your post I gather your criteria for men is they have to be good looking. Yes physical attraction is great, but it should be your ultimate quest. You did not mention anything else. So going by that, try to figure out what is it you want in a man, the quality stuff. Do you want him to be affection or not? Do you want him to be educated and to what level? Do you want him to like kids? What about pets such as cats and/or dogs? What kind of interests should he have? Do you want similar interests or completely opposite? Once you figure out what you want, look at what you can offer. You said the attractive guys you liked were not interested in you. Are you reserved? Do you smile? Do you have your guard up at all times? Do you give off signals to men so they can approach you? Have you though about taking a little initiative and just saying "hi" first? Another advice, find another venue for finding decent men. Have you tried the grocery store? Coffee shops? What about trying at the gym? You are passionate about exercise, wouldn't you want a guy to be the same as well?
Author faithfully Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Real classy guy. No money and no manners. Where did you meet him? Why did you choose to go on a date with him? I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, I didn't know he was going to fart in my car or come on a date with no card bank/ money. was disappointed with that one and never spoken to him again. My friend hooked it up, she started going out with this guy so hooked me up with his mate. Ah, lurking on dating sites. So you are chasing after good looking guys? Is this your criteria? Is there anything else that you may like a guy to have, some kind of values? I am not just going for good looking guys. I have only ever had 3 boyfriends and the 1st 2 were older and wasn't attractive but I looked above it. Looks are not always everything and I have over looked it but actually I always give people a chance who aren't very good looking and later sometimes actually find them attractive like my current ex, but Obviously it does help if I find them physically attractive. Well here goes then. From your post I gather your criteria for men is they have to be good looking. Yes physical attraction is great, but it should be your ultimate quest. You did not mention anything else. So going by that, try to figure out what is it you want in a man, the quality stuff. Do you want him to be affection or not? Do you want him to be educated and to what level? Do you want him to like kids? What about pets such as cats and/or dogs? What kind of interests should he have? Do you want similar interests or completely opposite? yes I do like all them things you mentioned, would not date a guy that already has kids, done it before and don't really want to do it again. Once you figure out what you want, look at what you can offer. You said the attractive guys you liked were not interested in you. Are you reserved? Do you smile? Do you have your guard up at all times? Do you give off signals to men so they can approach you? Have you though about taking a little initiative and just saying "hi" first? Another advice, find another venue for finding decent men. Have you tried the grocery store? Coffee shops? What about trying at the gym? You are passionate about exercise, wouldn't you want a guy to be the same as well? I don't go to the gym to look pretty nor to find a husband/boyfriend. I go there purely to train, sweat, stink, lose weight so I guess you are right in what you said about smiling, because I am sooo focused on my workout I always look angry so than you, will try smiling abit more at the hot guys. I usually stink after my work out that I don't really want men talking to me coz sweat smell is not attractive especially on a woman lol
babycakees Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 and after I dropped him off home, he farted really loud in my car then started laughing, Urrgghhh nasty it was!! Uhhhh GROSS!! What is wrong with men?
Valen Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Uhhhh GROSS!! What is wrong with men? Women don't fart? I don't think he had a choice, sometimes it can sneak up on you. Now if he intentionally roll up the windows, then farted and started fanning the scent toward OP. Then I would give him huge props.
babycakees Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Women don't fart? I don't think he had a choice, sometimes it can sneak up on you. Now if he intentionally roll up the windows, then farted and started fanning the scent toward OP. Then I would give him huge props. He could of held it a few more minutes until he got out of the car. Seriously. That's not a good ending to a first date.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Women don't fart? I don't think he had a choice, sometimes it can sneak up on you. Now if he intentionally roll up the windows, then farted and started fanning the scent toward OP. Then I would give him huge props. Really shouldn't be laughing but I have tears running down my face. What does one say to a car farter "hey scronger quit ****ting in my seats" :lmao: 1
Valen Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Really shouldn't be laughing but I have tears running down my face. What does one say to a car farter "hey scronger quit ****ting in my seats" :lmao: At least someone has a sense of humor. On a serious note, OP so far you are doing the right things. You are getting in good shape and have your life together. One question I have for you is how would you describe your personality? Sometimes girls who have their life together can be too serious at times or doesn't know how to be playful, cheerful, or don't know how to make the guy laugh. Also some girls don't know how to flirt with their body language (like the deep gaze, the little smirk they do when they tease, the little wink, etc). Just bring out your inner child when you are around a guy instead of being a serious intellectual. But just remember dating suppose to be about having fun as well as getting to know that person better. But most importantly it's about finding someone who is just as into you as you are into them. If you have to work at it to keep someone interested then they are clearly not the right person for you. But meeting the right person is all about being at the right place at the right time. Just go out there and socialize as much as you can so one day you will meet that right guy. Good luck!
Author faithfully Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Uhhhh GROSS!! What is wrong with men? I know i was disgusted when he farted really loud after paying for his drinks and dropped him home and when i said did u just fart in my car, he then started laughing like it was funny, ewww was not impressed. Never seen him again. Thank god!!!! x
Author faithfully Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 At least someone has a sense of humor. On a serious note, OP so far you are doing the right things. You are getting in good shape and have your life together. One question I have for you is how would you describe your personality? Sometimes girls who have their life together can be too serious at times or doesn't know how to be playful, cheerful, or don't know how to make the guy laugh. Also some girls don't know how to flirt with their body language (like the deep gaze, the little smirk they do when they tease, the little wink, etc). Just bring out your inner child when you are around a guy instead of being a serious intellectual. But just remember dating suppose to be about having fun as well as getting to know that person better. But most importantly it's about finding someone who is just as into you as you are into them. If you have to work at it to keep someone interested then they are clearly not the right person for you. But meeting the right person is all about being at the right place at the right time. Just go out there and socialize as much as you can so one day you will meet that right guy. Good luck! To describe my personality, I love life at the min, I am still young. I am a lil bit of a joker, love to laugh, but can be serious too, maybe too serious when it comes to working out and the gym too. oh trust me I know how to flirt once I know a guy is interested in me but I don't want to flirt in case of rejection. I think that might be my problem. maybe I am thinking too much of it, but just a lil bit lonely guess why am moaning
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