unagedtiger Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 I just got off the phone with ex after 2-3 weeks of NC on Sunday morning. She is not angry at me anymore and I asked if she wanted to get back together. But she says she doesn't know what to do and doesn't think she'll make a good girlfriend(only to me I guess). She wants to be friends again first and go from there. She is doing all this idk crap in the midst of all the online dating, etc. Why not reject me strongly? What's my next move? I'm keep meeting new people and ladies and don't want to get hopes too high. Maybe she wants to check out a few different men and make a decision? I should do the same also.
FortunateSon Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Going NC is your best option. It doesn't sound like she is interested or committed to getting back together. I am guessing the last thing you want is to do is be her "friend" while she explores options with other guys. Do you want to be her back up plan or fall back crutch? If your ready for it, explore some other options yourself.
Author unagedtiger Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Going NC is your best option. It doesn't sound like she is interested or committed to getting back together. I am guessing the last thing you want is to do is be her "friend" while she explores options with other guys. Do you want to be her back up plan or fall back crutch? If your ready for it, explore some other options yourself. Shall I ask for a definite answer?
FortunateSon Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 You can but you will likely not hear what you want and it will probably leave you with more questions. Anything other than "yes, let's get back together" from her essentially means no, keep that in mind.
Author unagedtiger Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 You can but you will likely not hear what you want and it will probably leave you with more questions. Anything other than "yes, let's get back together" from her essentially means no, keep that in mind. Thank you. I guess all sparks died off somehow. Starting to think whether I called too late after all the feeling died off. I just wanted to give extra time 2-3 weeks to cool down.
BC1980 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 My rule is to walk away from anyone who is waffling, confused, doesn't know, ect. I went through this with my ex, and it doesn't end well. It's likely to pull you into a sick cycle of confusion.
barky2 Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 You sir are a backup plan. Not pushing you away fully incase something that she's working on doesn't work out. Once it does it'll turn into " let's take it slowly". While she's still doing the online dating. Which then will turn into I can't do this. Tell her you don't want friendship, that if she's ever willing to commit fully 100% then contact you, but you might not be available then. Then walk away and don't contact her. Barky 1
Author unagedtiger Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 You sir are a backup plan. Not pushing you away fully incase something that she's working on doesn't work out. Once it does it'll turn into " let's take it slowly". While she's still doing the online dating. Which then will turn into I can't do this. Tell her you don't want friendship, that if she's ever willing to commit fully 100% then contact you, but you might not be available then. Then walk away and don't contact her. Barky That is a great insight. Thank you sir/ma'am.
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