marycc Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Me and my boyfriend won two free tickets to a concert that will happen in a few days. I was really excited to go with him, just the two of us, mainly because we live in different cities and when I get to see him we spend a lot of time with his family. However, yesterday he told me that some of his friends are coming too and that made me change my mind. The thing is: My exams will start and I'll have A LOT to study, I also would have to travel and spend two days there since it will happen in another city, but I was willing to give up my study in order to be alone with him...but if his friends are going I know that I won't feel as comfortable as if I were just with my boyfriend and I'll probably not even enjoy the concert as much since I'm very very shy whenever I'm with someone new. To be honest I wouldn't even mind if I didn't have so much work/study to do, if I were free, however, since I have a lot to do and I think I won't enjoy the concert that much, I'm afraid that in the end I'd regret the time spent there and get frustrated because I could have been sudying for my exams. However, I can tell that my boyfriend is sad that I'm not going... so I don't really know what to do. Should I take the risk and go even when I know there's a chance that I won't enjoy the concert and that I'll have a lot of work to do? What would you do in my situation?
d0nnivain Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 If you are otherwise prepared for your exams & can go without the extra study time I think you should go. bring your books if you need to. You might be able to catch a half hour of study time here or there.
RoseMadder Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 (edited) Be honest with yourself, are you trying to punish him by not going and are you going to be upset with him if he goes without you? You thought you'd have him all to yourself and are sad that you feel this time together isn't as important to him as it is to you. You should talk to him about it, it's a concert and he can't stop his friends from going but if you explain how you feel maybe he can alleviate your concerns. It sounds like you don't communicate well with each other, you're young and this is something you'll get better at. If something upsets you, tell him. Don't bottle things up or make excuses because you don't want to say what's really bothering you, sometimes the reason you're upset sounds silly and you don't want to say it, it's easier to be passive aggressive and say you can't go knowing it will upset him than tell him the real reason and risk sounding daft. Go to the concert, enjoy yourself! You're going to be there for two days and I'm sure will have plenty of alone time with each other Edited May 5, 2014 by RoseMadder Premature post :)
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