xpaperxcutx Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 (edited) I think I'm very anti-social. Aside from my bf and his friends I don't really have my own social group. I used to be an introvert but due to working in a school, I have changed my personality somewhat to be more outgoing and bright. However, this hasn't really extended into other areas of my life. I have a hard time making friends with people, especially within the same gender. How can I change this part of myself? I want to make new friends and not come off as fake. I used to have a best friend but we drifted apart and for some reason because of her, I have a really hard time trusting other girls. For one, my ex best friend was a user, I was always paying for things and when I became of no use to her, she stopped texting me and calling me. I put up with her for a long time, thinking she was my closest friend, but I've seen how she drifted from friends to friends as long as they were of use to her. Edited May 4, 2014 by xpaperxcutx 1
Downtown Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Welcome back, Papercut! I have a hard time making friends with people, especially within the same gender. How can I change this part of myself? Have you tried a therapy such as DBT or CBT to learn how to better control your emotions and how to trust? Because trust is the foundation on which all friendships must be built in order to be successful, it is very important to learn how to do it. Until you learn how to trust yourself, it will be difficult -- if not impossible -- to trust anyone else. I want to make new friends and not come off as fake.Do you have a strong, stable sense of who you are? If not, you will use other peoples' personalities as a guide for how to behave, with the result that you will have a strong feeling that you are being "fake." The problem, then, may be that you feel fake inside -- not that other people perceive you that way.
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