Luua Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Hey people! First post here. My ex boyfriend dumped me 60 days ago after a 3 year relationship (we had been long distance for 1'5 years). I did NC for 2 months since the whole thing was too devastating for me and I wasn't feeling strong enough to contact him. He contacted me like 4-5 times during NC though, last time a week ago. At first his e-mails were quite angry (blamer type), then he switched to 'friendly' mode (checking in, asking how I was, how my family was, etc) and the last one was just to wish me happy easter and hoping everything was fine. I don't know if people do this normally but at least we don't. I haven't talked to him since practically the break up. I feel very lonely, and I miss him a lot, he occupies still the 90% of my thoughts throughout the day. And I guess now I've got the feeling I should do the next move to see if he wants to come back, though I'm not sure if his texts were just crumbs, or he was trying to boost his ego or mitigate his guilt... I guess if an ex wants you back he would just come back and say it right away, isn't it? What would you guys do? I want him back, but I'm a lot better as well, and I couldn't take to go back to square one, I just suffered too much. I ask myself... Why do guys keep texting after so long without getting any answers? If I had answered I'd understand it, but I guess silence speaks volumes... I also know he has no idea how I'm doing, so maybe I'm losing the only chance I have, who knows. ¡Argh! If only my friends were single as well and I could go out with them instead of staying home on a Saturday night! Such a bad timing
Author Luua Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 He never said it clearly. But he mentioned he wanted freedom (i think he had a bit of a "grass is greener" syndrome, or fear of missing out something). He also said he couldn't take one more year of distance though he still loved me. But then his e-mails were pretty harsh (I never begged him or pleaded after the break up), telling me I had been too clingy, too pushy, too sensitive, too demanding and too 'independent' at the same time. Till he suddendly changed them and started asking me about my life and stopped being aggressive. I know he was right in many aspects, but he was so wrong in others. He also broke up with me via Skype (after 3 years?! Come on!) and the previous week I had travelled to his place and all seemed normal. I think there was no third party involved. I guess now everything is possible, but 2 months have passed. For the record, I think I've got like 7 e-mails from him after the break up versus 2 that I wrote right after he dumped me.
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