orangetree Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 First of all, sorry you're hurting. You don't deserve that. As hard as it sounds, she doesn't seem to love you anymore. If she loved you, she wouldn't have those feelings for another guy or she would at least tell you that she's not going to explore those feelings. Instead of telling you that she loves you and wants to be with you, she says she's not sure and wants to see where it goes with this other guy. If it goes wrong with him she'll be back in no time. You shouldn't accept her back then. She won't come back for love, she'll come back because it didn't work with the other guy. As soon as she falls in love with somebody else again, she'll be gone again. Break up with her now and save yourself more pain and sadness. She's not worth it, trust me. I know it's been a long relationship and you love her, but there is not a single thing you can do. Turn around and leave. It will hurt for a while but you'll find somebody else who you'll love and who will love you.
truth_seeker Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It sounds to me your relationship has run its course. For a woman to leave a relationship she has to have her next boyfriend lined up. She must've been testing him out for quite some time, and now knows they can be an item so that is why she wants out.
Moy Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 It sounds to me your relationship has run its course. For a woman to leave a relationship she has to have her next boyfriend lined up. She must've been testing him out for quite some time, and now knows they can be an item so that is why she wants out. Yep. Known as 'monkey branching.'
truth_seeker Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 She's bored of you. 6 years and you just go through the motions. You probably think it will be fine if you just be nice to her. But she needs excitement in her relationship. Why aren't you guys married after all these year? Maybe that's why she is trying to leave you? I say it all the time... people in relationships for more than 2+ plus years with no marriage on the horizon are in the relationship because, A) they haven't found someone better and fear being alone, B) still want to hook up with other people before they tie the knot (they don't consider it bad to cheat because they're not married)... once they feel they've had their share of fun, they are ready to marry. It's all bullsh-t, but that's how I see it just from people I've known throughout the years.
Sandrino Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 OP, this has nothing to do with you. If you say you were as good as you were to her, then its her fault. Have you ever sat down and talked to her about your relationship? Maybe you thought it was too good to be true while she was unhappy the whole time? Maybe she lied to you about loving you? I'm not sure. But what you need to do now is move on. I know it hurts. I know it all too well. It hurts like hell.. But its the price you pay for getting into a relationship. Either you leave sad, or you live happily ever after. The fact that she left you so quickly for someone at her work? Shes just selfish, and only cares about what she wants. She didnt care what you felt. Shes probably with the guy right now. Although i don't know the full story, but by what you posted, thats what im thinking. We all go through this some way or another man. Life sucks sometimes.
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