Mommame2 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I had been talking to a guy off of OLD for 2 weeks. He was soooo into me after our first date, he took his profile down. He kept texting and texting. Just really seemed so into me. I told my GF about him and she said SHE had messaged him awhile back on OLD and he was very sexual in his messages. I told her I thought she was wrong. He was totally into me etc. so she took a fake profile and friended him on match. She messaged him. He responded. He waited couple days , but then started talking consistently to her. He told me we were exclusive in his eyes... At the same time was chatting up this fake woman. He eventually sent her pics of his c@ck and gave her his address for a hook up. Then at the end backed off and said that maybe he couldn't meet cause he had met a girl (me) and wanted to see where it went. Of course... That was after sending her all kinds of sexual pics even though she did not reciprocate. Well I called him on it. He said that he knew the WHOLE time it was a fake person and that he thought it was me testing him. I said come on... If you thought I was testing you.. Why would you send pics of your body etc etc ... He said he just thought it was a bad game. After fighting so long via text I'm exhausted. But he STILL says that I'm the one and he wants to see me and me alone. Says that the entire time he thought it was ME testing him.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Agreed. Complete bullsh*t. Run. But before you do, first you say that this guy was SO into you after the first date that he took down his OLD profile and then you tell us your friend made a fake profile and friended him on Match. How is that possible if he supposedly took down his profile?? Am I missing something here? 3
Author Mommame2 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 I'm sorry. I mistyped. She messaged him on FB. He friended her right away and she messaged him there. Saying they had spoken on match awhile back. Anyway ... He said that was because he had a moment of weakness by that he knew it was me all along? I honestly don't know what to say to him. I did apologize for having my girlfriend bAit him. But he has not apologized to me. Says that he was embarrassed for me... That "I" got caught in a lie.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Oh sweetie. This is guy is SUCH a douche! Do yourself a favor and forget him. Have some pride and save your dignity because I promise you that if you stay with this guy, he make a complete fool of you. You deserve better.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Ick, so full of BS it's coming out of his eyes. And manipulative to boot. He's embarrassed for you? Oh, that's rich!
Author Mommame2 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 Well, it was really my friend who did this. I wasn't in on it. She just didn't want me to get hurt. So after she had the message exchange..., she shared it with me. She was just trying to save me. I told him I forgave him. I don't like bad blood. But now that I've had some distance, I'm feeling like I need to get away. So how should I go about ending it? He knew I had my child tonight but asked me to get a sitter to go so live music with him. He traveled here over an hour and got a hotel room just on a whim. I told him I didn't think I could go. He keeps asking me if I got a sitter and when I say no ... He texts back ":(" He also said he made plans to take me to a spa next weekend to relax with him. I guess I just wanna know how do I end it.
Treasa Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Tell him you aren't going to be seeing him anymore. Then don't see him anymore. Also, um....tell your friend not to do this again. That's very weird behavior. No matter how well-intentioned she may be, it's your life and your relationships. 3
Miss_raptor Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 There's so much wrong with this picture: rushing into exclusivity, your friend baiting this guy, you testing him, and his actions. This was not a foundation for a healthy or particularly happy relationship. It seems like both you and he have boundary issues to work on. Make a clean break, and move on.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 You weren't in on it? Do you think it's "normal" for friends to go around baiting men for fun? He's is full of bull**** and so are you. Keepers creepers why can't people just be freaking normal!! 2
Survivor12 Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 If you weren't in on it, why do you take the credit for "catching" him in your title? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Just tell him it isn't going to work out. You don't need to give an explanation beyond that. He knows why. Don't let him guilt trip you, either. Mr. Sad Face didn't care when he was sending nude pics to another woman. Too bloody bad.
Wisecrack Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Best move on my friend. This is just some smooth talk a guy is trying to use after backing off and realising he has been caught out. You can do better.
Author Mommame2 Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 True. I did not know specifically. She said that he was not the guy that I thought he was... But then said she would look online and see if he was active. Then she sent me the messages exchanged. But he totally lied, I think. I mean if he thought it was just me baiting him etv why would he send lewd pics and offer his address to the woman? He told her to come to his house for a hook up...
Miss_raptor Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 True. I did not know specifically. She said that he was not the guy that I thought he was... But then said she would look online and see if he was active. Then she sent me the messages exchanged. But he totally lied, I think. I mean if he thought it was just me baiting him etv why would he send lewd pics and offer his address to the woman? He told her to come to his house for a hook up... What he chose to do was gross. I just got out of a situation with a guy that was constantly looking for other women to hook up with. He pushed me to my breaking point. My advice is get out now while you can, and don't let him guilt you, manipulate you, or tear your self confidence down any further.
Author Mommame2 Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Yeah, he had said over and over that he was off match ... And really wanted to give "us" a shot. Well, I just checked and his profile is back up and active. I just texted him and said I understood... But it was another piece of evidence that he says one thing and does another. No response, so far.
MidwestUSA Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Yeah, he had said over and over that he was off match ... And really wanted to give "us" a shot. Well, I just checked and his profile is back up and active. I just texted him and said I understood... But it was another piece of evidence that he says one thing and does another. No response, so far. Why did you text him? STOP!! You really do appear to be enjoying this, as others have said in your prior threads. 2
Author Mommame2 Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Well he kept asking me to meet him. So thAt is how I responded. I will just say goodbye and block. You are right. Thanks. 1
Zahara Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Well he kept asking me to meet him. So thAt is how I responded. I will just say goodbye and block. You are right. Thanks. Yes, Momma -- enough of this. The guy has disrespected you more than once and you need to stop communicating with him. You need to have stronger boundaries.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 There's so much wrong with this picture: rushing into exclusivity, your friend baiting this guy, you testing him, and his actions. This was not a foundation for a healthy or particularly happy relationship. It seems like both you and he have boundary issues to work on. Make a clean break, and move on. How is exclusivity after 2 weeks of dating in any way "rushing in"?
Andy_K Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Although unlikely, it could be genuine. I've been in a similar position before once... Only before I 'played along' I made sure I took a photo with some sort of timestamp evidence (time of day, newspaper) with what I thought was going on, for when I was 'caught'. I know you should ignore these silly games, but sometimes it's just fun to win
Author Mommame2 Posted May 4, 2014 Author Posted May 4, 2014 Well he texted back and said that he was absolutely NOT on the dating site. That his profile was NOT active. Said I was dead wrong. So I texted him a snapshot of the profile that said "online now". I told him that was FINE if he just said the truth. He said he was telling the truth but that he was "done with this. Screw this ". So that's it...
Miss_raptor Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 How is exclusivity after 2 weeks of dating in any way "rushing in"? They met on a dating site, even if they went on 3 dates a week, having 6 dates with a person then becoming exclusive is a little much. For me, anyway. I'd like to know a person better. @OP, sorry that you ran into such a gigantic jerk. I really think you're dodging a major bullet.
Gaeta Posted May 4, 2014 Posted May 4, 2014 Well he texted back and said that he was absolutely NOT on the dating site. That his profile was NOT active. Said I was dead wrong. So I texted him a snapshot of the profile that said "online now". I told him that was FINE if he just said the truth. He said he was telling the truth but that he was "done with this. Screw this ". So that's it... Why do you argue with a moron? Why do you even feel the need to prove anything to him? By doing that you simply gave him another opportunity to laugh at your intelligence. That is what he has been doing since beginning, laughing at you. Now he is the one dumping you! Instead of you nipping this early in the butt and empowering yourself. 1
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