Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 So I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months and things have been going really well. We've gone out on a few dates and also been out a few times with friends. We do share some mutual friends so the group thing has been really fun. We talk quite often during the week about any and all things. However, this week something seemed to be off. I asker her to come out with me to get an ice cream sundae on Tuesday but she had plans with some friends. I told her I understood and that we could try to set something up on a different day. Fast forward a bit to Thursday and I asked if she wanted to get some dinner tonight but she said she had plans again for tonight. Again, I told her I understood. If she has plans already, nothing I can really do about it. However, she has been really sporadic in her communication. I did not get a return phone call after I left a voicemail earlier in the week and her texts are very bland if/when she responds. And after not being able to meet up the two times I suggested this week, would it be courteous of her to suggest a time to get together? I'm not feeling comfortable by continuing to ask for a date if she's shot me down twice. I decided not to text or call her tonight and am going out with some friends tonight. This will help with all the over-analyzing I've been doing. Maybe she's just busy and doesn't have time for me this week. If that's the case, I wish she would just let me know. I'd be fine with that. Funny thing is that I was going to ask her this week if she was interested in moving forward with our relationship this week. Sort of moving in to an exclusive relationship per se. Not so sure about that at the moment. To me, if you are interested in someone you are dating, you'll make time to see them. So my question is, am I getting the slow fade with the hopes I'll go away? I've had this happen before and it kind of sucked then. If I am, I'd like to get out emotionally before it gets to that point.
Mrin Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Kinda sounds like it. Did she suggest other times when she rebuffed your invitations? 2
todreaminblue Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 i agree with the other poster sounds like its fading a bit, if she didn't suggest another time, even if it was a week away to me, if you cant make a date you set another one if you are interested...i wish you well......deb
LustAppeal Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 There are so many factors in this, non of us can read this girls mind and with the little info above yes it does seem like she's loosing interest. This could be due to multiple things, the most common is the male partner not pushing during the right times and/or texting too frequently. I'm not going to tell you what you should or shouldn't do, as like I said before non of us truly know what's going on. However if I was in your shoes I would push for the "How do you see us?" or "what are we?" conversation. You can be as blunt as you want to be, just don't do it in a mean way. Cheers
bubbaganoosh Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Well if it was me, I would just wait for a while and see if she responds and how she responds. If she replies and it's bland and in a way where there isn't much interest then chalk it up and move on. If she was busy and something came up and she was interested in you, she would fill you in on whats going on.
Author Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 Well if it was me, I would just wait for a while and see if she responds and how she responds. If she replies and it's bland and in a way where there isn't much interest then chalk it up and move on. If she was busy and something came up and she was interested in you, she would fill you in on whats going on. That's my plan. Just wait it out for a few days and see what happens. Whatever happens, happens I guess. Sadly, I feel like this one is going to be a lost cause. Dating blows.
Author Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 Kinda sounds like it. Did she suggest other times when she rebuffed your invitations? Nothing, and that's the frustrating part.
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