ChiefPure Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I feel so stupid asking, but I am at my wit’s end. He started having emotional affairs with women online three years ago. He meets them on message boards and some dating sites. I caught him two years ago, and he swore up and down he would stop. He said nothing was as important as our family and he loved me and only me. I believed him and we started to work on our marriage and to heal. I have been suspicious since I first caught him, but he is able to explain away my concerns and tells me I am looking for reasons to doubt him. He swears he is faithful, but my inner voice will not stop telling me he is lying. Is it possible to go from messaging, cybering and sexting multiple women to leaving it all behind in one day? He messaged with one woman for over two years and now swears he ended it with her immediately, but I have no proof of who she was, and no way to verify what he tells me. We have sex 2-3 each week and we don’t argue all that often. I try to be a good wife and give him what wants and needs. What am I doing wrong? I believe he continues to be unfaithful, but I do not know how to find the proof since it is all online, except for the woman he also talked to on the phone
whatatangledweb Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Yes, they can stop as soon as they are caught. When they are slapped in the face with what is the cost of their betrayal . If you too openly communicate I would tell him you are worried and you want to put a keylogger on the computer. It shows every thing they do online. If he wants you to feel safe he will not have a problem with it. I put one on my husband's computer after d-day. I never found anything so he was doing what he said he was doing. I didn't tell him for almost a year that it was there. 2
BetrayedH Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Put a keylogger on the PC and one on his phone. Don't tell him about them. When you investigate and find nothing, you both win. 1
No Limit Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Emotional affairs aren't fidelity. And yeah, since he does everything per computer the keylogger will reveal everything about him. Or them.
Author ChiefPure Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 Can anybody give me help with the keylogger? I know very little about them, but I know I can download one. Is one brand better than another? It looks like this is the only way to get real answers.
Fluttershy Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I would say skip the software keylogger. Grt a hardware one that attatched between the keyboard and the usb port. If he is into online chatting he will know about loggers. I once heard a guy brag about how web his wife installed a keylogger he purposefuly went to sites that messed with her head. Hardware keyloggers can't be detected and you can get some really simple ones. Just look on amazon to see what they are anyways before you decide.
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