Girlfriend wants space? Find herself? ! Never been like this before.

[feels1234]

We've been together 3.5 years. The past year I've been at university in a different city so haven't seen her as much. Now I'm back for the summer she dropped this huge bombshell on me saying she needs to find herself and she needed space. She said she didn't want to be all cringe and say its not you, its me but it really was in a joking way. I thought nothing of it and was like cool.

 

So We were talking here and there but nothing serious or properly when she said it. More recently though, She told me she needs to find herself and she doesn't know about our future anymore. She keeps saying she's anxious about having sex, children and anything generally to do with our future.

 

However, she messages she loves me with all her heart and always will but is hurting and confused so bad. If we ring at night she will tell me she loves me or would message me in the morning normally with a "x". Then on some days she will be totally blunt and blank with me with 1 word answers. Feels like she is bipolar the way she changes in attitude.

 

On the other hand, I'm not in the right state of mind since she had dropped this. I have some personal issues with health, my parents and exams coming up so I'm such an emotional wreck at the moment. I've been bottling up.

 

It got to the point yesterday, where she blew off the handle saying she wish she could rip her heart out and hated this situation, hated what we had become. This is my fault, I'm paranoid as why she is ok to go grab food with her uni mates after revision but won't come see me so I initiated this argument.

 

Anyway, the final straw was when I met her this morning in a car park and we talked. Time to unbottle my feelings... I tried letting my feelings out to her but she seemed too numb and angry towards me when I lay in her lap. I told her to get out of my car and just leave me alone because she was making me feel worse about the situation.

She had no empathy. She got out of the car and screamed, "I don't give a **** no more" then drove off.

 

At this point I just accepted, it so a few hours later I text her telling her I loved her and that I respect her decision to have a break so contact me when you find yourself. Was this the right thing to do? I feel so numb without her, she's literally my life. I can't concentrate when I'm revising. We've been rock solid the past few years.

 

She tells me she has no strength, all the energy is sucked out of her, she thinks she's ugly, all i want her for is sex and to be baby machine. This is not true whatsoever. We've not had sex in over a year as a result. She always tells me she loves me and more importantly my mother to but she keeps asking for space. She keeps saying give her time so she can come back and be normal instead of anxious all the time but I want to be totally the opposite and be with her all the time! Well as of today and reluctantly, I've given it to her now (space). She's a real quiet girl from a strict family. No drinking, partying etc... a girl most guys would want to marry basically. How can I continue to give space to her and will this actually work out? Help please!

[barky2]

I could tell you what I really think, but I don't know if you can handle that right now.

 

What I will tell you is this...

 

When someone asks for space you GIVE them more than they asked for.

 

Completely drop off the face of the earth to them.

 

Begin your healing now.

 

Do not write to her.

 

Do not do anything remotely towards her.

 

STOP.

 

Go nc right this second.

 

The less you know, the better.

 

If you really want to know what I think feel free to ask, but I don't sugar coat.

 

I'll tell you one thing though...

 

You'll be just fine, that I promise.

 

 

 

Barky

[Eddie Edirol]

Yep, she started seeing someone else and is trying to break it off with you, but make you look like the bad guy. Its the classic move. Not everyone can do long distance relationships and you just learned this the hard way. Stop talking to her now. If you look at the breakup forums, its the same thing ervery thread down. After you look at the "Grass is Greener" thread at the top of the forum, make sure you read the "All new no contact 2014" thread just above it.

Edited May 2, 2014 by Eddie Edirol

[J2911]

We've been together 3.5 years. The past year I've been at university in a different city so haven't seen her as much. Now I'm back for the summer she dropped this huge bombshell on me saying she needs to find herself and she needed space. She said she didn't want to be all cringe and say its not you, its me but it really was in a joking way. I thought nothing of it and was like cool.

 

So We were talking here and there but nothing serious or properly when she said it. More recently though, She told me she needs to find herself and she doesn't know about our future anymore. She keeps saying she's anxious about having sex, children and anything generally to do with our future.

 

However, she messages she loves me with all her heart and always will but is hurting and confused so bad. If we ring at night she will tell me she loves me or would message me in the morning normally with a "x". Then on some days she will be totally blunt and blank with me with 1 word answers. Feels like she is bipolar the way she changes in attitude.

 

On the other hand, I'm not in the right state of mind since she had dropped this. I have some personal issues with health, my parents and exams coming up so I'm such an emotional wreck at the moment. I've been bottling up.

 

It got to the point yesterday, where she blew off the handle saying she wish she could rip her heart out and hated this situation, hated what we had become. This is my fault, I'm paranoid as why she is ok to go grab food with her uni mates after revision but won't come see me so I initiated this argument.

 

Anyway, the final straw was when I met her this morning in a car park and we talked. Time to unbottle my feelings... I tried letting my feelings out to her but she seemed too numb and angry towards me when I lay in her lap. I told her to get out of my car and just leave me alone because she was making me feel worse about the situation.

She had no empathy. She got out of the car and screamed, "I don't give a **** no more" then drove off.

 

At this point I just accepted, it so a few hours later I text her telling her I loved her and that I respect her decision to have a break so contact me when you find yourself. Was this the right thing to do? I feel so numb without her, she's literally my life. I can't concentrate when I'm revising. We've been rock solid the past few years.

 

She tells me she has no strength, all the energy is sucked out of her, she thinks she's ugly, all i want her for is sex and to be baby machine. This is not true whatsoever. We've not had sex in over a year as a result. She always tells me she loves me and more importantly my mother to but she keeps asking for space. She keeps saying give her time so she can come back and be normal instead of anxious all the time but I want to be totally the opposite and be with her all the time! Well as of today and reluctantly, I've given it to her now (space). She's a real quiet girl from a strict family. No drinking, partying etc... a girl most guys would want to marry basically. How can I continue to give space to her and will this actually work out? Help please!

 

Hey friend, sorry to hear this.

In all honesty , in my opinion , just give her the space she needs .

This is actually common ( her behavior ) at your alls age group.

At your alls age ( I'm assuming you both are in your early 20's ) your age group is about finding out who you are, what you want to be in life with college , future jobs , about meeting new people , and hanging out.

When one comes from a strict family , then goes to college they tend to experiment and explore routes they weren't allowed to do in high school and living at home. This too is normal behavior.

There are a small amount of people in your age group that are ready to be serious and have their plans and life together but the majority do not yet.

Give her space and time , at the same time do not continue to respond to inconsistent texts or phone callls like ( I love you yet I don't want to be clinged on ) just ignore all of it until she comes back with consistent texts for a couple months.

Don't respond to anything which will give her time to realize she misses you and she is sorry she did this to you and realizes it's you she wants OR to realize she wants and needs to be single .

Either way in my opinion it's best to walk away with the words " I love you , but I'm not holding on any longer to false hopes and inconsistent behaviors from you bc I deserve better and you deserve to find who you are ".

If it's meant to be she will come back but in the mean time , work on your health , do good in school, deal with your personal life to keep busy while you are waiting for her. You don't have to look for another girl but I do advise to hang out and have some fun stress free time too with your friends !!!!!

Good luck to you friend

[realfriends]

What most people will tell you and what I believe Barky is eluding to is that she probably is already seeing someone else.

 

Whenever people give this sorry excuse, 95% of the time, it means that someone else is already in the picture.

 

As Barky said, bow out of her life and go completely ghost for awhile. The less you know the better and the faster it will allow the healing to begin.

[feels1234]

Thanks guys...I really do appreciate the comments. I'm going to try this no contact rule thing out! I would to believe there's a guy in the picture but it's too impossible! I know you will tell me I sound like a guy who is in the blue and it's a common reply but seriously all my mates go to her uni would know, if I called her to meet she's already down to come, my mum has an operation in 3-4 weeks and she's made plans WITH HER SPECIFICALLY to come look after her and finally...my most possessive one is the Find my iPhone app. She literally stays at home or goes to the library and as an emotional wreck as I was I went to spy to. I know, It's truly dreadful that I do this but I can't help my emotions. I love this girl. Thankfully she has never seen me otherwise it would make this situation 10x worse.

 

As one of the above replies said that I have my whole life ahead...it's true...but everything I'm building is for her and our future! When i met her I was a lowlife with no morals or aspirations... now I'm getting firsts in my degree with ease, I'm going abroad on an investment banking internship etc all because she changed my life around... Seriously without her in my life, I feel so down and out, these exams are around the corner and I can't concentrate. She too has exams for the next 2 weeks. We both are hurting each other. It's been 8 hours since she slammed the door on me in the car park and I still am craving her attention. I've read the threads above but they don't resonate with me.

[barky2]

Thanks guys...I really do appreciate the comments. I'm going to try this no contact rule thing out! I would to believe there's a guy in the picture but it's too impossible! I know you will tell me I sound like a guy who is in the blue and it's a common reply but seriously all my mates go to her uni would know, if I called her to meet she's already down to come, my mum has an operation in 3-4 weeks and she's made plans WITH HER SPECIFICALLY to come look after her and finally...my most possessive one is the Find my iPhone app. She literally stays at home or goes to the library and as an emotional wreck as I was I went to spy to. I know, It's truly dreadful that I do this but I can't help my emotions. I love this girl. Thankfully she has never seen me otherwise it would make this situation 10x worse.

 

As one of the above replies said that I have my whole life ahead...it's true...but everything I'm building is for her and our future! When i met her I was a lowlife with no morals or aspirations... now I'm getting firsts in my degree with ease, I'm going abroad on an investment banking internship etc all because she changed my life around... Seriously without her in my life, I feel so down and out, these exams are around the corner and I can't concentrate. She too has exams for the next 2 weeks. We both are hurting each other. It's been 8 hours since she slammed the door on me in the car park and I still am craving her attention. I've read the threads above but they don't resonate with me.

 

 

 

Nothing's impossible.

 

The way she was so shutoff with her feelings and her slamming the door on you is a dead give away.

 

When a women is so completely nonchalant with your feelings, with a " I don't care attitude" there's something there feeding her emotions.

 

I'll tell you that straight up.

 

You may see her at home through iphone ...what happens if he's there?

 

What happens if he's at the library?

 

Do I know for certain?

 

No, only one that does is her.

 

But like I said, the way she's so shutoff to you, is a damn dead give away.

 

 

 

 

Barky

[feels1234]

I agree with you Barky. Nothing is impossible. However, her parents don't know about me and are old fashioned so there's no chance another guy could be at her crib (esp with large family). Same with library with all my friends. Anyway, I don't want to argue about that...if it's not true or whether it is true...feeling is the same...I'm feeling beyond sh**.

 

I want to get out of this gutter and stop thinking about her. This no contact rule is much harder than I thought it would be. All I think about is her. I had to take our photos down of the window sill. I can't bare to see her knowing she wants to be away from me. What kind of things can I do to keep her off my mind and move on?! I go to the gym, I think about her each set. I revise, same thing. Someone says how's your gf? I go insane. I know this sounds so very wrong, but I feel lonely, depressed and somewhat suicidal in not having what I want. In what I NEED. I've had so many traumatising experiences in my life through life emergency operations to my parents splitting up but this is the closest to one of my family members passing away. I just can't stop thinking or getting it out of my head!!!!!

[Eddie Edirol]

I agree with you Barky. Nothing is impossible. However, her parents don't know about me and are old fashioned so there's no chance another guy could be at her crib (esp with large family). Same with library with all my friends. Anyway, I don't want to argue about that...if it's not true or whether it is true...feeling is the same...I'm feeling beyond sh**.

 

If you look around this board, you will see that everyone that comes here freshly dumped says the same thing. "She cant be seeing someone else, I know that for sure". Then a month later, they all say "I snooped and found out shes been seeing someone the whole time, now I feel even worse." Unless you know that she dumped you to be alone and why. Either way, the less you know, the better.

Edited May 2, 2014 by Eddie Edirol

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

I agree with you Barky. Nothing is impossible. However, her parents don't know about me and are old fashioned so there's no chance another guy could be at her crib (esp with large family). Same with library with all my friends. Anyway, I don't want to argue about that...if it's not true or whether it is true...feeling is the same...I'm feeling beyond sh**.

 

I want to get out of this gutter and stop thinking about her. This no contact rule is much harder than I thought it would be. All I think about is her. I had to take our photos down of the window sill. I can't bare to see her knowing she wants to be away from me. What kind of things can I do to keep her off my mind and move on?! I go to the gym, I think about her each set. I revise, same thing. Someone says how's your gf? I go insane. I know this sounds so very wrong, but I feel lonely, depressed and somewhat suicidal in not having what I want. In what I NEED. I've had so many traumatising experiences in my life through life emergency operations to my parents splitting up but this is the closest to one of my family members passing away. I just can't stop thinking or getting it out of my head!!!!!

 

The very typical "I KNOW there isn't anyone else." I dont hear that ever lol.

 

Look OP, it sucks what you're going through. I get that. I think we all get that here. You are making things SOOOO much worse though. Stop contacting her. She is done with the relationship. She is throwing so many "I'm done please leave me alone" signs at you, but yet you keep on. Not saying no one ever has done that, but all you are doing is losing all dignity and pride. That's an important part in healing.

 

You are wanting quick answers to heal, but you havent even begun to do it. First step: DO NOT TALK TO HER. Delete social media, phone number, the whole nine. Then, go find stuff you like to do. Hang with friends, hobbies, whatever. Finally, TIME. Thats really the one thing that makes it better. TIME. You just have to heal. Doing what you're doing isnt healing.

[barky2]

I agree with you Barky. Nothing is impossible. However, her parents don't know about me and are old fashioned so there's no chance another guy could be at her crib (esp with large family). Same with library with all my friends. Anyway, I don't want to argue about that...if it's not true or whether it is true...feeling is the same...I'm feeling beyond sh**.

 

I want to get out of this gutter and stop thinking about her. This no contact rule is much harder than I thought it would be. All I think about is her. I had to take our photos down of the window sill. I can't bare to see her knowing she wants to be away from me. What kind of things can I do to keep her off my mind and move on?! I go to the gym, I think about her each set. I revise, same thing. Someone says how's your gf? I go insane. I know this sounds so very wrong, but I feel lonely, depressed and somewhat suicidal in not having what I want. In what I NEED. I've had so many traumatising experiences in my life through life emergency operations to my parents splitting up but this is the closest to one of my family members passing away. I just can't stop thinking or getting it out of my head!!!!!

 

 

Lol listen man, ask anyone one of us who went through NC, it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

 

But instead of turning it into a job, I turned it into a lifestyle.

 

I was free, I went out and did me.

 

I was single, just as you are.

 

The thing about nc, after you've gone through it, your such a stronger more clear headed and knowledgeable person all around.

 

It does something to you.

 

I don't know what it is, but others who have reached indifference with a ex can attest to it.

 

I strongly urge you, don't break it.

 

And believe me, I'm not trying to argue or be rude, I simply wanted hindsight 20/20 from you...think outside the box.

 

A lot of other posters ( myself included ) thought our ex "isn't like that".

 

But the fact remains they are.

 

You'll feel like crap for awhile.

 

Then one day ( if you do nc right ) you'll be so wrapped up in yourself, you'll find that you haven't thought about them all day, or week.

 

The pain dies, but what you do right now, molds you into the person you become.

 

Chin up dude.

 

 

 

 

Barky

[feels1234]

Thanks for the replies and some of your brutal honesty. I appreciate it. For now, I'm going to take it second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour until I can gradually get to the day by day and hopefully week by week stages. Some of your suggestions are hard to do as I've got 3 of the biggest exams of my life in the next 3 weeks for my degree so time is limited. Even worse, all my friends are revising to so I feel guilt if I was to call them out! I guess my only relief will be football for 90 minutes and the gym when I don't think about her. Thanks again to everyone who posted. Much love and peace be with you.

[Elle1975]

Thanks for the replies and some of your brutal honesty. I appreciate it. For now, I'm going to take it second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour until I can gradually get to the day by day and hopefully week by week stages. Some of your suggestions are hard to do as I've got 3 of the biggest exams of my life in the next 3 weeks for my degree so time is limited. Even worse, all my friends are revising to so I feel guilt if I was to call them out! I guess my only relief will be football for 90 minutes and the gym when I don't think about her. Thanks again to everyone who posted. Much love and peace be with you.

 

I'm not going to answer because the other posters are right on. What I can stress is go NC. Don't just "try" it, do it.

 

If she contacts you, post here first.

 

Oh and I wish you luck on your exams! Please please please.. exams over her!!

[bubbaganoosh]

As one of the above replies said that I have my whole life ahead...it's true...but everything I'm building is for her and our future! When i met her I was a lowlife with no morals or aspirations... now I'm getting firsts in my degree with ease, I'm going abroad on an investment banking internship etc all because she changed my life around

 

Got news for you my friend and this is coming from a old guy with a bunch of hash marks running down his arm.

 

You said everything your building is for her and our future and she changed your life around.

 

Did she do all your studying? Take your tests? No friend, you did that all by yourself. Everything your building is for you.............for you.

 

Your getting your first degree with ease and your going abroad on a investment banking internship and you did it...............you did it with you own blood sweat and tears, and yes she might have been there to push and been your moral compass, but a compass only points you in the direction, you have to make the journey.

 

Off the beaten path but I want you to know that every once in a while it's OK to give yourself a pat on the back.

 

let the girl have her space and stay on your journey and make something out of yourself. Your going to hit all sorts of bumps in the road in life and this is one of them. How you handle it will have a lot of bearing on your future. Seriously, this bump is minor compared to the ones you get in life.

 

Keep your head up and move forward and don't let this distract you from your goals. Good luck

[lil hoodlum]

So let me get this straight, you and her have been together for 3.5 years and her parents don't even know about you? And that the two of you haven't even had sex in over a year?

 

Dude, go out, hit the bars, and enjoy your new found singleness. You are free to be young and dumb and hit on girls that are also young and dumb!

 

 

I really I sorry to hear that you are having to deal with such a bombshell even more so during a critical point in your college career.

 

You are doing the right thing, just take it minute by minute then hour by hour and so on.

[Chi townD]

I really hate the "I need to find myself" excuse. You should have had her stand in front of a mirror, "HOLY SH*T!!! THERE YOU ARE!!!!" The "I need to find myself" is so stupid.

 

 

Translation? "I need to find myself" translates to "I need to find myself in this other dudes bed". Sorry, but I agree with the others, she's interested in someone else.

 

 

You would love to believe that there isn't someone else. And you even said that it's impossible. Dude, if I dime for every dude that came on here and said that; and a dollar for every dude that came back on here saying, "I can't believe that bitch was cheating on me!" I would have an equal amount of dimes and dollars.

 

 

Now maybe she isn't actively cheating on you, but she could be interested in someone else and won't cheat; therefore, she needs to get rid of your ass before she takes things further. Maybe it's someone she met on the internet; talks to on Skype. So, it wouldn't shock me at all that you discover she's dating someone a few weeks from now. Wouldn't surprise me one bit. So much for "finding herself".

 

 

Dude, just go NC on her. Be a ghost. Go completely dark. You are not her friend. I'm pretty sure you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her for the ultimate outcome is that you are nothing more than a really good friend.

 

 

Time to move on, dude.

[Natsume21]

"I need to find myself" The saintly excuse of cheaters....

 

As a man who had this excuse thrown at him, only to find out two months later I was cheated on for months, and to find out said cheating from the dude's mouth, in his apartment, with her in bed, I got to say this....

 

She's a liar, and it's best to assume that if she can lie, she can cheat.

 

You're probably wondering why she didn't tell you the truth? Wondered the same with my ex, and I figured it out.

 

Had she told me the truth "Sorry, Natsume, but I found someone else, we've been sleeping together and I wanna give this guy a try." she would have known that by telling the truth, I would have gone ghost, meaning that the back-up plan(i.e. me) in case he bails, was out the window. By keeping me wondering what I did wrong and gaslighting me, she kept me on a string as a friend and emotional support while he was banging her.

 

This is why NC is important. You didn't spend all that time with her to go from CEO to janitor. That's an insult to your work. She can be friends with her new man. Go splitsville.

 

--Natsume21.

 

"Behind every player, is a woman that made him that way."

[The Like Fairy]

I agree with the No Contact.

 

I don't agree that she necessarily has someone else.

 

Maybe yes, maybe no.

 

I tend to think she does not, given the information you have supplied thus far.

 

Particularly the clues you got on her whereabouts via the 'missing phone tracker app' you put on her phone that tracks her whereabouts ().

 

Anyhow, sometimes these things happen - people break up because they want to explore other options (want to be free to date other people).

 

They MAY NOT have another person in the picture, but they want that freedom to date. Rather than cheating, they want to end the relationship, so that they are free to date. Or just be alone for a while.

 

These things really DO happen (wanting space, without necessarily another person being in the picture). Or maybe there is someone that catches her eye.

 

It's a non-issue for you.

 

You moving on, is YOUR issue here.

 

Go No Contact.

 

Read ALL YOU CAN around here.

 

Learn, heal, grow. Happiness and peace will return to you.

 

Great things lie ahead for you. Go enjoy your life, that is the key. Have fun. Sow your oats. Don't use or mislead people in the process.

 

Be honest. And have fun. It can be done.

 

You don't have to lie to people, you don't have to become a 'player', to have some fun with the ladies.

 

Just be yourself. No matter what, don't become a hermit (I don't think you will )

 

Help others around here too, giving advice.

 

That is a big part of your healing (helping others here and elsewhere) and will really help you with your pain as well.

 

Cheers Mate

Edited May 3, 2014 by The Like Fairy

[feels1234]

Got news for you my friend and this is coming from a old guy with a bunch of hash marks running down his arm.

 

You said everything your building is for her and our future and she changed your life around.

 

Did she do all your studying? Take your tests? No friend, you did that all by yourself. Everything your building is for you.............for you.

 

Your getting your first degree with ease and your going abroad on a investment banking internship and you did it...............you did it with you own blood sweat and tears, and yes she might have been there to push and been your moral compass, but a compass only points you in the direction, you have to make the journey.

 

Off the beaten path but I want you to know that every once in a while it's OK to give yourself a pat on the back.

 

let the girl have her space and stay on your journey and make something out of yourself. Your going to hit all sorts of bumps in the road in life and this is one of them. How you handle it will have a lot of bearing on your future. Seriously, this bump is minor compared to the ones you get in life.

 

Keep your head up and move forward and don't let this distract you from your goals. Good luck

 

Not going to lie, first day been excruciatingly painful already. However, I started to read other stickies, threads etc and realise I wasn't thinking rationally (I'm a very rational person). I was an emotional wreck to say the least.

 

This post really resonated with myself. Stepping back and looking at it rationally, I did do this all by myself and she was just a compass. I'm going to save this post to my phone because it makes me keep my head up and smile. Thank you. I appreciate all the posts.

[The Like Fairy]

Not going to lie, first day been excruciatingly painful already. However, I started to read other stickies, threads etc and realise I wasn't thinking rationally (I'm a very rational person). I was an emotional wreck to say the least.

 

This post really resonated with myself. Stepping back and looking at it rationally, I did do this all by myself and she was just a compass. I'm going to save this post to my phone because it makes me keep my head up and smile. Thank you. I appreciate all the posts.

 

That's really fantastic. I can tell, you are one of the more resiliant people that come through this place. Outstanding my friend.

 

Healing takes TIME TIME TIME with bumps along the way. Hang in there, no matter what. Good days, bad days. Keep on chugging along, and read (over and over) the articles here and elsewhere on break ups.

 

Good book, and not just for women (written by a man):

 

http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/577082-it-s-called-a-breakup-because-it-s-broken-the-smart-girl-s-break-up-bud

[feels1234]

Broke NC. Past hour we been talking as if yesterday never happened. I apologise to everyone contributing to this thread to NC but I couldn't help it! She's rang me twice and texted me. I just couldn't help it. One day in is too soon for the bigger picture! I've been keeping it brief and giving a delay in replies to which she immediately responds!

[barky2]

You're giving her the emotional while she's getting the physical somewhere else dude..... It's written on the damn wall!

 

 

 

* bashes head against wall*

 

 

 

 

 

Barky

[The Like Fairy]

Broke NC. Past hour we been talking as if yesterday never happened. I apologise to everyone contributing to this thread to NC but I couldn't help it! She's rang me twice and texted me. I just couldn't help it. One day in is too soon for the bigger picture! I've been keeping it brief and giving a delay in replies to which she immediately responds!

 

Don't be too hard on yourself hun.

 

No Contact is a process, - you will find your way there (to success with No Contact) when you've had enough of her bullsh*t.

 

There will be lessons for you every day, in every step of this journey.

 

We learn the most about life, and about ourselves, during times of turmoil.

 

But DO READ as much as you can around here, and the link I left for you. Learning is key, knowledge is power.

 

Best of luck to you.

[Natsume21]

Broke NC. Past hour we been talking as if yesterday never happened. I apologise to everyone contributing to this thread to NC but I couldn't help it! She's rang me twice and texted me. I just couldn't help it. One day in is too soon for the bigger picture! I've been keeping it brief and giving a delay in replies to which she immediately responds!

 

 

Question? If she went to "find herself" why all of a sudden does she show up?

 

"Finding oneself" takes weeks, mostly months. Sounds like the guy she's interested isn't checking her and OP's a back-up.

 

Worse. He welcomed back with her so fast. Now she knows she can cake-eat.

 

Who wants to bet it'll be a week before he comes back?

Edited May 3, 2014 by Natsume21