TheyCallMeOx Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I've been getting back into dating. I've never short-term dated before, so I've been trying to keep an open mind...but so far, I just don't understand the concept. Almost every woman I've pursued is either: 1) in love with someone else 2) still recently heartbroken 3) just looking to get laid and is too much of a coward to admit it I've supposedly got a date tomorrow with a woman, and I haven't heard from her in like...2 days. She says she got a brand new phone, S5 or some ****, and I'm wondering why someone can't answer a simple text message? Buying an expensive phone like that, loaded with apps, there's no way you have NO time in your day to send a text message back. I went on an actual date last weekend, and we kind of hit it off. I went back to her place, she rested her head on my shoulder and rubbed my stomach...**** like that, and I haven't really heard from her since. It was obvious that she's interested in a second date, even said she was interested, etc. I can't really message them because that would come off as desperate, and would just drive them further away. After all, it's short term dating. They are pursuing other people, and so am I. It just doesn't make any sense on what I'm supposed to be doing. Does anyone actually understand the concept of short-term dating? What are the rules of short-term dating, because I may have missed them. How often are we supposed to communicate and should I be concerned when a woman obviously ignores a text message that I send just once maybe every two days?
Frank2thepoint Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 (edited) Welcome to dating in the Digital Age. The girl who didn't respond to your text, is probably never going to respond. She is either using the excuse that she just got a new phone to not call or she probably never received the text, and assumed you're a jerk for not calling her. Concerning the latter, you are a jerk for not calling her. Why would you text her when you can talk with her and set up another date? Especially after a tummy rub. Phones have these amazing idiosyncrasies. They never receive those important text messages, but work wonderfully with receiving calls. I know, with the digital age people are like "who calls?". Serious people with clear intentions. Also, what is short-term dating? Is that a pseudonym for one night stands that occur a few times with the same person and then it ends? Edited May 2, 2014 by Frank2thepoint can't spell 2
D.Mc. Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 (edited) Hi, I chose "short term dating" as one of the options in my OKC "looking for" choices & until your post I never even thought about what it meant. I'd think it would be for people who were on OLD because they were only going to be in the location/city etc. for a limited time (job contract/foreign visitor/student on summer vacation), or they really are just trying out dating for whatever reason & might drop it anytime. They want to go out but they're clearly not going to be able to invest in a "relationship". If it's only a ONS that someone's interested in they should definitely specify the "casual sex" option OLD gives you. For women it's could also be a way of hedging bets: trying not to scare off potential men by indicating we want a "long term relationship", so we say "short term dating" to cast a wider net? (I'm so ashamed AND I might be kicked out of the women's union for spilling trade secrets!). p.s. abbreviation for short term dating? STD?? (what you might get from too many STDates). Edited May 5, 2014 by D.Mc. random thought
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