Kater Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me on a family vacation recently. I ended up flying home 4 days early to pick up the pieces of my life and put it back together. He is typically very degrading and mean to me- especially in the past 3 months. He would make me feel inferior- often hinting my job and life was not as important as his due to the fact he made quite a bit of money. He also would drink 4-5 nights a week and tell me my flaws while intoxicated- at one point it took him over an hour to state everything. In breaking up he told me that he was so unhappy with our lives together- we have lived together for a year- that he turned to alcohol to help him push me away and that he would never love me, and never did. I truly did- and still do- love him. I cared so much and spent a majority of my time trying to help him battle his inner demons and taking care of him. I would often vocalize my love- which he could never say back with the exception of once when he was drunk. At the end of this, he wanted to continue living together- he wouldn't take on my part of the lease though he can afford it. I cannot live with him anymore- he hurt me when he told me he did not love me and I feel empty and lonely right now. He was my best friend. I am moving out right now but am so scared of being alone. If anyone has any advice that helped them get over the hard stages of a breakup and the feeling of emptiness/loneliness I would greatly appreciate it. I feel like a piece of me is missing even though he made me feel terrible on a regular basis. Thanks!
FredJones80 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 He sounds like a **** head. Get out and never look back.
Elle1975 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me on a family vacation recently. I ended up flying home 4 days early to pick up the pieces of my life and put it back together. He is typically very degrading and mean to me- especially in the past 3 months. He would make me feel inferior- often hinting my job and life was not as important as his due to the fact he made quite a bit of money. He also would drink 4-5 nights a week and tell me my flaws while intoxicated- at one point it took him over an hour to state everything. In breaking up he told me that he was so unhappy with our lives together- we have lived together for a year- that he turned to alcohol to help him push me away and that he would never love me, and never did. I truly did- and still do- love him. I cared so much and spent a majority of my time trying to help him battle his inner demons and taking care of him. I would often vocalize my love- which he could never say back with the exception of once when he was drunk. At the end of this, he wanted to continue living together- he wouldn't take on my part of the lease though he can afford it. I cannot live with him anymore- he hurt me when he told me he did not love me and I feel empty and lonely right now. He was my best friend. I am moving out right now but am so scared of being alone. If anyone has any advice that helped them get over the hard stages of a breakup and the feeling of emptiness/loneliness I would greatly appreciate it. I feel like a piece of me is missing even though he made me feel terrible on a regular basis. Thanks! Total db.. I know it's probably not nice to say so. I suppose what I mean is, what a relief you're out of this relationship. I love living alone. You will get used to it. You need to learn how to be happy by yourself. If you don't, you will fall prey to the same type of abusing guys. Buy nice things for the new place. Make it scream "me", and get rid of any remnants of him. You will be happy. It just takes time. The journey to finally get there is what's hard, but you can do it.
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