PhillyConnection23 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 I was talking to a female co-worker of mine at happy hour the other day when she asked how my GF and I were doing. After explaining that my GF is now my Ex she started to ask some questions and had an interesting insight. To bring you all up to speed, I was the first serious relationship my 23 year old GF was in. Despite that, she was very mature but did have some difficulties communicating her emotions. She had no one really to compare me to (I think I was a pretty good boyfriend). Her parents (who live in another country) and some of her friends that are older and in committed relationships were the only thing she could compare our relationship to. It didn't help that for the last few months we were together it was long distance. When we broke up she said things like: "I don't know who I am anymore." "I need someone who will stand up for me, someone in my corner." "Someone who will fight for me." So after telling my co-worker this she started asking what her favorite films were and what her dating history was like. She offered an interesting point that maybe my Ex was comparing our relationship to the chick flicks she grew up watching. With no real world experience for our type of relationship, she would look at people in long-term committed relationships or the Ryan Gosling idealized view and said something is wrong so she broke up with me. This may be a little bit of a unique situation but I was wondering if any other guys have thought this in the past? I'm not trying to over-analyze anything and everything she said during the break-up (because I could go crazy). Also, feel free to chime in ladies. I know guys can be just as difficult.
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