Cold feet?

[Popsicle]

I was just thinking about OW/OM and wondering if any of you have ever experienced cold feet when your MW/MM starts getting closer to leaving their spouse and wanting to be with you?

[Nattie]

I'm a MOW, but yes. Talk is cheap, actions can be downright scary.

[Waverly]

MOW here as well. My affair was short but intense; from the get-go, it was all about "righting a wrong" from years ago and finding a way to be together permanently. Turns out we couldn't, but there were definitely a few moments along the way where I had that moment of "oh sh*t, could I REALLY go through with this??", particularly when we would talk more seriously about everything that would be involved.

[QuakerOats]

Waverly, my exMM used to say the "righting a wrong" stuff too. Ugh.

[Got it]

No, not during that time period. I think there were times during S/D that I questioned whether or not this was meeting my needs but no correlation between their decision to leave and getting cold feet.

[Waverly]

Waverly, my exMM used to say the "righting a wrong" stuff too. Ugh.

 

I can't even think about most of the stuff I was told.

[Poppy's sister]

I am mow, my Ap had the dday, 15 months ago

Only been last month he has talked about leaving his wife... I am scared of him doing this. I am scared of him not.

[RickFox]

I had an apartment lined up, ready to go, and after all our talks her response was, let me know how that goes. Not what I was expecting.... cold feet? Doubt? Who knows....

[Daisy2013]

No cold feet. He flat out told me he wasn't leaving his W as long as she was alive, too much trouble involved. He said he loved me and wanted me, but what we had was all we could have, and he understood if I wanted to leave our R.