Ex girlfriend acting strange? One minute hot, the next cold, jealousy ploys?

[Nickyg]

My ex and I broke up 3 months ago because I was always jealous of every guy friend she has or has made. Over the past few months I worked on my jealousy and spoke with a counselor and family for guidance. After sorting out my stuff, she and I coincidentally begin contact again. She seems happy to talk to me and even excited to grab a beer with me sometime after finals. She even told my friend that she ran into that she misses me and just wishes things would've been more functional during our time together. A few days ago, however, she randomly started talking about some guy. Basically, it came out of nowhere, but did not imply that she's seeing him or talking to him in that way. Here is the conversation:

Her: do you ever go to that (specific bar of our college town) bar? Me: no, why? H: well my friend thought it'd be funny to write my phone number on a jenga block so now on getting calls and texts from all over the place.

M: oh wow, well you should take it out. Why would they do that? H: well he's not really my friend, just some kid from my lab. But David thought it'd be funny to do that so now I'm getting calls and stuff. M: that sucks, he's friend enough to do that for you though! I'd just take it out. H: yeah, I'll have my bar tending friend take it out. M: good move

And that's basically it. Idk if she's trying to make me jealous, test if I'm still the jealous type, make me want her more, or hint that she's seeing Someone else. What are your analyses? I basically don't know if I want to date again but it's totally based on if she's more mature about how she handles communication with me. We dated 8 months and we had a good relationship other than my jealousy and her vagueness when she's not with me, which obviously insighted my jealousy.

 

A few weeks ago I asked her to grab a coffee and she agreed, but she and I just never went through with it. I stopped talking to her until she called me drunk, though I didn't answer and texted me twice without answer "hey what's up"? And "please...come on." She was embarrassed and said the next day that she made bad decisions but calling me is never a bad decision.

She offered to meet for a beer last week but texted me last minute that she needs to reschedule till after finals.

She asked me to take a class with her, which I politely told her wasn't a good idea and that I see no purpose in taking a class together. She got really offended and we didn't talk for a few days until I texted her drunk. I called her a cute nerd and she reciprocated conversation, but I passed out soon after and didn't text back till the next day. Basically, she didn't reply and hasn't talked to me since. Hot and cold I tells ya.

Edit: she also has not talked to me since Saturday mainly cause it's finals week. But she told me while she was drunk that she wants to see me, but not when she's drunk and that she wouldn't mind if I ended up going to her place after I offered her a ride when she was trapped downtown. Plus the night that he put that jenga block in the pile, I saw her from outside that bar as a I walked by and they were talking (at least I'm sure it's that guy). I walked by later and he was gone and she was texting me that night when she got home so I don't think she hooks up with him ...

I know I mentioned drinking a lot, but we really don't drink often, it just happens to be that it's how she first initiated conversation with me.

I texted her last night at 8 am, she never replied, but it's finals week, which explains why I'm up so early lol and maybe she's diligently studying? Idk, she's the type to test to see if things are where she hopes/expects. Idk.

 

I just want to know of there's hope of getting her back, if anything is a tactic to get me to want her more/make me jealous, or am I completely wasting my time? She was a good girlfriend and most of our issues from dating sparked from my own insecurities, which are not fully diminished but are surely much better than before. Any advice would be nice. And be gentle, I'm pulling an all-nighter for a test so I'm kind of out of it and don't need harsh commenting.

[iworthmore]

ok mate. listen from my experience..

 

first of all who initiated the first contact? you or her??

 

anyway.. when she makes alot of guy friend's you have the right to be jealous but you shud tell her abt it as mature and say how u feel abt such issue.. if shes mature enough and respect you she shud consider changing her behaviour.. i dont agree with being overly jealous.. but. back then she had to give her part for the rekationship cuz no other man will appreciate his gf hooking up with many guys. unless he was a doormat.

 

she cud be trying to know what happened with ur jealousy issues. but does she really want you back?? i dont think so.. cuz u still didnt attract her back..

 

cut all contact.. if she contacts u answer after day or 2 and say ur busy with ur own stuff. u still jealous and its obvious from things u mentioned. dont show that and work on it. dont give a **** and be happy with ur own life.. she look like playing games and feels comfortable to get ur attention and affect u while still having the same old manners.

cut all ties.. if you run into her be nice and gentle.. if she wants u back she will show change not only u have to show it.

dont play games like she do

best luck