sunny_eyes Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Hey guys. I've been seeing a guy for 4.5 months now. Actually, tomorrow be the 5th month. He considers me his GF. But I don't consider him my BF. He's madly in love with me. But I am afraid to love him. I don't know why. He gives me security and trust. Everything I want in man. However I have this need inside of me to not just "settle" with one egg in my basket. I feel like i need options in case it doesn't work out with him. Right now I am talking to 2 different guys. Do i tell him? I'm waiting for us to reach the 6th month mark before I decide if i want this guy for Long Term or not. Most likely yes, since i don't see anything else out there. But i feel safer if i have more than one option at least. I feel afraid to lose him. I feel horrible. I cannot lie to him because he's extremely honest and intensely, immensely loyal. He doesn't talk to other girls. He's the type of guy to concentrate on the one person he likes whether they're available or not (kinda risky but he's a bit of a hopeless romantic lol). He loves me so much. What do i do? We're going out this weekend and it's gonna be romantic, which makes me even more guilty. Do I tell him or not?
J2911 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 I would tell him. Is he under the impression that you consider him your boyfriend or have you told him that you don't consider him your boyfriend? I'll be honest , if he thinks you do consider him your boyfriend , he will probably not take it to well given he is a one guy one girl type so anticipate that . If he knows you don't consider him as that then technically you don't have to tell him but it's polite to in my opinion.
Author sunny_eyes Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 I would tell him. Is he under the impression that you consider him your boyfriend or have you told him that you don't consider him your boyfriend? I'll be honest , if he thinks you do consider him your boyfriend , he will probably not take it to well given he is a one guy one girl type so anticipate that . If he knows you don't consider him as that then technically you don't have to tell him but it's polite to in my opinion. Thanks but I am not dating the 2 guys. Just talking to them online, getting to know them, observing whether they would be good candidates for an option if i ever need one. I would never go out with the two guys and guy#1 at the same time. That is considered cheating. Way over the top. Most likely I won't need another option. I haven't had sex with guy #1 yet (the one I'm actually dating). We go out on dates and stuff. We go slowly, so we don't talk everyday and we don't see each other everyday (yet) Once i have sex, that's it. The dating game is over for me. I plan on loving one guy and marrying him only. I'm worried about my guy because he's a hopeless type. On our first date, he asked me if i was dating anyone else, like "we're doing, meaning, going out and stuff". I told him no. Then he told me, "Well if you were, I'd wait for you no matter what." I was flattered. Then i thought...wow. @_@ On his facebook once, he wrote "One day you'll realize, you lost the moon while counting the stars." He's crazy about me I also seem to get the impression that he tries to 'buy' my love, if you know what i mean. He's always spending and it makes me uncomfortable. Why do you need to spend money on me? I just want less emphasis on materialism and more on tangible expressions on love, like kisses and hugs, which we do. But i would like more of that than money spent on romance. We can do that anytime lol.
Assasda Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Its not your fault OP. This guy that youre with put you on the Pedestal. The "Oh so lovely Pedestal" I dont think you'll end up with him. You'll get bored of him and walk all over him. Heck, youre already doing this, since he considers you his GF and youre seeing another guy. Seems like you yourself have a lot of insecurities to work out, since you dont want to be alone because he's just an option for you over nothing. Work that out 2
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