thanaton Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I recently joined a social networking website called MeetMe and there are a lot of girls in my area, but the problem is I don't know how to make friends with them, I want to make friends with a girl and hopefully someday can be my girlfriend, I am also looking to make platonic girl friends. I'm very inexperienced and never been good at making friends and I've never had any friends before. I don't know what to say because on most of the girls profiles don't have any points for conversation. I don't know what to ask I can't think of anything. I'd appreciate any help because I'm completely lost. What do I say? How do I get to know her? How do I befriend her? How do I get her to hangout with me?
preraph Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Easy. First of all, before going online, get out of the house and go do something fun and interesting. Doesn't matter what. Go to the wildlife park, go to a street fair, go to a concert, volunteer at a food bank or animal shelter, go take racing lessons or tennis lessons. The point is to be interesting online, you have to be active and interesting offline and have something to talk about. If you actually do things you enjoy, you will be enthusiastic and give the other person something to talk to you about besides the fact that you want a girlfriend. Then ask what their interest are. Get it offline and onto the street as soon as possible. Don't get mired in just being satisfied talking online because you're timid.
Author thanaton Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 Easy. First of all, before going online, get out of the house and go do something fun and interesting. Doesn't matter what. Go to the wildlife park, go to a street fair, go to a concert, volunteer at a food bank or animal shelter, go take racing lessons or tennis lessons. The point is to be interesting online, you have to be active and interesting offline and have something to talk about. If you actually do things you enjoy, you will be enthusiastic and give the other person something to talk to you about besides the fact that you want a girlfriend. Then ask what their interest are. Get it offline and onto the street as soon as possible. Don't get mired in just being satisfied talking online because you're timid. I still don't know how to start a conversation with a girl.
NYC-BigKat Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 (edited) I recently joined a social networking website called MeetMe and there are a lot of girls in my area, but the problem is I don't know how to make friends with them, I want to make friends with a girl and hopefully someday can be my girlfriend, I am also looking to make platonic girl friends. I'm very inexperienced and never been good at making friends and I've never had any friends before. I don't know what to say because on most of the girls profiles don't have any points for conversation. I don't know what to ask I can't think of anything. I'd appreciate any help because I'm completely lost. What do I say? How do I get to know her? How do I befriend her? How do I get her to hangout with me? Um...I guess u could just send friend requests & see what happens? I have a few girls on my list but none wanna meet so I guess they're just on that site for compliments. I wouldn't take them seriously u know . Edited April 30, 2014 by NYC-BigKat mistake
Author thanaton Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 Um...I guess u could just send friend requests & see what happens? I have a few girls on my list but none wanna meet so I guess they're just on that site for compliments. I wouldn't take them seriously u know . I sent them friend requests but nothing happened ever. I don't know what to say so couldn't talk to them.
L1ght Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I still don't know how to start a conversation with a girl. You gotta have stories to tell and experiences to draw from if you want to gain a womans attention online otherwise they won't find you interesting at all and they will cut you off. Plain and simple. If you are a young guy I suggest you stick to chatting to girls your own age as older women will most probably not find you interesting at all. Be confident, be smart, be nice and come up with something interesting to talk about when you initiate conversation. Once you do initiate convo you then have to be a good listener too. Most importantly just be yourself otherwise they will end up seeing right through you unless you are the biggest bullsh*t artist on the planet.
Author thanaton Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 and come up with something interesting to talk about when you initiate conversation. Once you do initiate convo That's exactly the problem I don't know what to say, it's impossible to initiate something that you don't know how to do.
bryceisbryce Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 In my personal opinion, MeetMe seems like a MySpace reject. You're very limited on the amount of information you can provide. I would assume that most girls on there are fishing for compliments and aren't really there looking for friends or anything else. Tinder, OKC, POF, and even Facebook would be more effective. Once upon a time I thought I had to spend my time crafting an ingenious first message to get a woman to respond to me but it's not true. I've used everything from Harry Potter or science-related pickup lines to accusing them of having an internet crush on me because they kept looking at my profile. I've told a woman that I would kill a bear, make her steaks from the meat, then make a rug out of the hide for us to make love on and it worked(I'm not crazy, she said that Ron Swanson was the perfect man in her profile). Trick is to learn how to play to her interests even when limited info is provided. I start off playful(but not immature) because it makes me an interesting option compared to the guys who are sending her messages like "hey," "sup," "how was your day?" or "have any nudes?" If she responds, at the very least we'll have a fun conversation.
L1ght Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 That's exactly the problem I don't know what to say, it's impossible to initiate something that you don't know how to do. It helps if they have a status message or something. Read the message and make a witty remark about it that you think will peak their interest. Follow your gut because its all you have to go on when you are taking a shot in the dark. What do you have to lose? Put yourself out there and be confident. I strongly suggest that you are fairly well read, have interests and like going out and doing stuff in life otherwise you wont really have much experience in life to draw from when making convo. Nothing to lose. Go for it lad.
preraph Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 If you feel you have nothing to say, then I don't understand why you're wanting to talk to them. If you have something to say, say it. If you don't, then you're not ready. What we're telling you is go outside and live life and develop interests. Until you do, I really can't imagine what you're going to talk about because if you can't think of anything you want to say, then neither can anyone else. There's no point in trying to be someone you're not. 1
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