FredJones80 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Hi, I post a lot here, for that I apologise, its the only thing keeping my sane at the moment. So, what did you lose, both physically and mentally in your break up. - My partner - My home - My family - My CD collection (although I left it, who needs CDs?) - My belonging - My daily routine - Myself, as in who I think I am, now I feel lost - My independence - My outlook on life - My mind - Our joint possessions, as in everything for the home. Some of those by choice, others by situation. I'm sure there is more, I'm not at a stage to list what I've gained, give it a few months and maybe I'll make a new topic
Brutus Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 - My happiness - My hope for the future - My personality 1
faithfully Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Lost my self worth and self respect begging/crying/pleeding the foooker back. Never again 5
Chris2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 My lifestyle, My close friends, My own house i gave up to move into our home, The house we moved into, My job, My Mind, oh and the reason i gave everything up.......Her!!! All in 10 months. 1
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Well, aside from the depression and everything that goes with getting dumped, in the end. I didn't lose anything but I gain everything!!!! My story is over on Michael 93's thread. If you read it, you'll know what I'm talking about. 2
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Stuff. Also, my aloe plant.. that I might ask for in a few months, when I know I'm ready to. I had this plant for 4 years.. Two drawers, I hope he breaks his back taking them up the stairs and into the dumpster. My slippers I got for Xmas.. he gave them to me, so I left them behind, knew they'd remind me of him. A nice bottle of alcohol his friends got me for xmas. Presents, clothing, etc.. I walked out that door and so far haven't looked back. I gained my independence back, however. Can't say I lost anything worth fighting over. Can't say I lost myself either. Did lose a future that I had started to imagine. But bleh.. I said it before, everytime I feel sad, I remind myself he doesn't want me in his life, and that's that. Today is a bad day, you guessed it 2
iDrumKing Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I lost a pretty kickass bobble head that I left in my ex's car. DAMN IT! 2
Jiivy Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 - I lost my attatchment to a woman who didn't love me. Now I can give it someone who cares. - I lost myself in the relationship and am getting me back, one day at a time. - I lost the respect of family when I went against their wishes and got engaged to a woman outside of my own race. Now I'm rebuilding some trust in them. - Most of all, somewhere along the line, I lost a beautiful girl who loved me with all her heart. Now there's someone else living in her body. And I don't love her. 3
malin819 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 found out I could date other chicks and its not the end of the world 1
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I lost a dream. I had been convinced he was my "soul mate" which is why I hung on for so long even when it was bad. I also lost my ability to have children because I bascially gave him my child bearing years. By the time I met & married DH it was too late. 1
Keenly Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 She stole my printer, several pajama pants, an expensive sex toy that I purchased ( never " gave " it to her ), various other sex aids that I purchased. A couple months later, she illegally entered my apartment using a key she had copied and stole about an ounce of pot from me. What else did I lose? Stress, the feeling of walking on egg shells, arguments, lack of freedom, and a huge pain in the ass. 1
johnson_j Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Wow I feel lucky after reading others: I lost: -Slight bit of innocence - in trusting people when they say something. She wanted to stay together forever and I believed her. -Some sleep -About $800 worth of gifts I gave her the week she pulled the plug (her bday) -I Broke the hearts of two girls I love dearly, telling them I needed to stop contact to focus on the new girl. That's what hurts the worst. One has forgiven one, one likely never will. -My vision of the future. I'm still working to (re)define it. 2
Phoe Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 My ex has my 40" TV. Still irked by that. But not enough to ask for it. Haha
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 an expensive sex toy that I purchased ( never " gave " it to her ) Took three of the toys I wanted. The next girl can have the rest of my USED toys! HA! And yes, I know he would.. oh yes, he would.
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I lost a dream. I had been convinced he was my "soul mate" which is why I hung on for so long even when it was bad. I also lost my ability to have children because I bascially gave him my child bearing years. By the time I met & married DH it was too late. I know how you feel, and I'm sorry. Thank God I may have a chance. I am still very sad over 10 months wasted. At 40, every month counts. 1
elseaacych Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I lost: -my best friend. I've had a poor track record with keeping best friends. So whatever. This one just hurt a little more than most -a bit of my identity -a family that I hoped to be a part of -about $3500 -about three months of my life post break up -some confidence I think that's just a little bit of it. It's all stuff, really. I think I'm better off, though some days I do not feel like it. 2
Keenly Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Took three of the toys I wanted. The next girl can have the rest of my USED toys! HA! And yes, I know he would.. oh yes, he would. That's actually a little on the gross side. Most of my stuff were restraint oriented.
Phoe Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 The next girl can have the rest of my USED toys! *shivers* This is why I am SO glad I've never had any desire to use toys! Haha
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 *shivers* This is why I am SO glad I've never had any desire to use toys! Haha I love it. Took me 38 years to buy my first one. Worth it though. But not the cheap kind. They break and they aren't as good. I have a great one he bought for me. Anywayyyy...... PS: and while i was going through the "bag of fun" as we called it, he was looking at me.. and I said "YEP!". He said "what", and I said "YEP" again. Like.. you guessed it, I am taking MY toys buddy. 2
Phoe Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I love it. Took me 38 years to buy my first one. Worth it though. But not the cheap kind. They break and they aren't as good. I have a great one he bought for me. Anywayyyy...... Back in college I went with my girlfriends to a sex shop, seemed like an appropriate part of the outing that I buy a vibrator. I've never used the thing. It's just very weak and awkward... it was pretty, but it does nothing for me. It's sat wrapped up in a baggie in my lingerie drawers, untouched for about 5 years now lol. I can definitely see myself in the future being SUPER picky, shopping around for something super high quality, that it would definitely take me a while to do. I could see myself with something more restraint oriented, like Keenly said. It's always been a fantasy of mine to be tied up/restrained in some way. My boyfriend's not into it at all, but he seemed receptive to some simple ideas like tying my wrists with a scarf or blindfolding me. It's a start BACK TO THE TOPIC THOUGH - haha. While I'm irked at the loss of my TV, when I let him borrow it I upgraded myself to a 50" samsung, spur of the moment, did a professional calibration on it, the whole thing REALLY prompted me to get my home theater/gaming system nicely set up, so in hindsight had I not lent him my little TV, I may never have ended up with the lovely set up I have now.
Smarty Pants Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 My best friend. Oh..... AND AZIZ ANSARI TICKETS. I LOVE HIM AND COULDN'T SEE HIM
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Back in college I went with my girlfriends to a sex shop, seemed like an appropriate part of the outing that I buy a vibrator. I've never used the thing. It's just very weak and awkward... it was pretty, but it does nothing for me. It's sat wrapped up in a baggie in my lingerie drawers, untouched for about 5 years now lol. I can definitely see myself in the future being SUPER picky, shopping around for something super high quality, that it would definitely take me a while to do. I could see myself with something more restraint oriented, like Keenly said. It's always been a fantasy of mine to be tied up/restrained in some way. My boyfriend's not into it at all, but he seemed receptive to some simple ideas like tying my wrists with a scarf or blindfolding me. It's a start BACK TO THE TOPIC THOUGH - haha. While I'm irked at the loss of my TV, when I let him borrow it I upgraded myself to a 50" samsung, spur of the moment, did a professional calibration on it, the whole thing REALLY prompted me to get my home theater/gaming system nicely set up, so in hindsight had I not lent him my little TV, I may never have ended up with the lovely set up I have now. They make a toy that's "soft", like skin I suppose, or close to it. Not hard plastic. As for the restraint, it's fun. I think that's part of why I feel so distraught at time. It's very hard to find a man who is dominant but not abusive, as this NOT the same thing. I talked about it before. What am I to do? Post on a D&M forum? I'm a normal girl. I don't especially want to meet psycho online.. lol Anyway.. add to the list.. My PERFECT little black dress. DAMIT! In his closet. Maybe if I meet someone new, I'll ask for that back along with my aloe plant
Author FredJones80 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 How did my loss topic get turned in to a sex topic with one swoop. Woah!
Keenly Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 How did my loss topic get turned in to a sex topic with one swoop. Woah! See! My ex stole your thread too! 2
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