Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 ok well what advice you guys have? I mean it just seems like she made up her mind and was like complaining like she didn't care about wanting to work it out
clia Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Your post is extremely difficult to read due to the lack of sentence structure and paragraphs, but the gist is: Too little, too late. You got comfortable during the "honeymoon period" of your relationship (when you still should have been trying to knock her socks off). She felt your ambivalence, decided it wasn't what she wanted, and bailed. I need to know what the reason she doing all this and saying this stuff all of a sudden and not telling me NOR wanting to work things out if she really cared about me at all or wanting a relationship I don't understand she just falls of face of the earth all of a sudden and doesn't want it to work. She doesn't want to work things out because based on what she's seen, she does not see a future with you -- regardless of any (likely short term) changes you might be willing to make. She fell of the face of the Earth because it's over. I need to know exactly what I did wrong and how I could avoid in future if possible (and probably how to be in control of the women situation and interest.) Because I know I fell beta and she had the power and I am tired of giving women the power. You didn't listen to her needs and you got too comfortable too quickly. (I think. Again, your post is really hard to read.) 2
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 I understand but its bull**** why would she just be quiet and wait all of a sudden to start crying and tell me all the stuff that was wrong with me and not give it a chance and stuff and be ignorant like that and let me try?
Chocolat Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I understand but its bull**** why would she just be quiet and wait all of a sudden to start crying and tell me all the stuff that was wrong with me and not give it a chance and stuff and be ignorant like that and let me try? Maybe she doesn't like your attitude. If the way you come across here is the way you came across with her, I can't say I blame her. In any case, she's not under any obligation to give you a second or third or fourth chance, especially not when you have so little time invested in each other. Part of dating is determining whether the oher person is a good match and it appears she has concluded that you are not. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 I dont know like the complaining just seemed like an excuse I mean Its not like I was able to do these things and be the guy I need to be you know? sayin i only wanted her for sex and she tired of driving up here i mean its bs
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Or what do you do when she does complain? Because obviously I was trying to make my point and argue with her back and it didnt work and she quit talking to me out of nowhere. How do you guys handle this situation? Or when you can tell she wont make time for you blowing you off being distant? etc... When you really like the girl what do you do?
Assasda Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 If I was her, I'd rather be on POF all day than see you too. Needy, neurotic. Sex is probably the lie she told to get away from you
ExpatInItaly Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Or what do you do when she does complain? Because obviously I was trying to make my point and argue with her back and it didnt work and she quit talking to me out of nowhere. How do you guys handle this situation? Or when you can tell she wont make time for you blowing you off being distant? etc... When you really like the girl what do you do? Argue about what? And what did you say? Paint a clearer picture for us and we can give you better feedback. 1
David87 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 It depends on how much you care about that girl and what she complains about....
PegNosePete Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 And what # date it is. Arguing on the first date is probably a bad idea.
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 It was pretty much little over 2 months after dating her. She was complaining that night said wanted me to take her out more and was sayin wanted flowers once in a while and go nice dinner sometimes said didn't just want to be Tuesday and Thursday we get together and I was fine with that (that's why was changing things after that complain) But then the last week we were together she was acting weird distant and wouldn't go mob deep show with me wanted to go to bed and was kinda being like I got things to do etc... on Saturday before she left town and wasn't getting back to me right away she was supposed to come over and said I went out drinking and got sick. Brought her some medicine she didn't need it really. (felt like she was making excuses and ****) it wasn't going well made me mad when she got back from out of town was blowing me off n **** and then Tuesday was supposed to get together (I was planning stuff for us to do together) and she said we need to talk and said im tired of driving up there and said that she didn't want to continue relationship with me because said I didn't want family or pets which isn't true I said im just not huge fan of dogs I wouldn't mind dogs and she said I complained bout not wanting to take her to the airport I said it just was early but I didn't mind really and she felt I just wanted to see her for sex I was trying to make my point it just seem like she didn't care and cut me off I was pretty pissed and went off on her then I was apologizing and saying I can be best man you want and all this stuff so yeah.
clia Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 What is your question? Again, you didn't listen to her needs and you got comfortable way too quickly. She felt your ambivalence, decided it wasn't what she wanted (maybe coupled with you "going off on her") and bailed. There is no need to dwell on it anymore; it was a two month relationship and it's now over. Learn from it.
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