reddragon588 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 For those of you who recognize me, it's been a while since I've been here, mostly because I've been doing really well, if I do say so myself. I had an episode in late February that tipped off my long held anxiety issues, so I went and got professional help and anti-anxiety medication, which has helped. I'm at 11 months post breakup and I'm doing well. I've been moving up at work, I've been traveling a lot with friends, I've been on dates, I've been working with a therapist and most of our discussion has moved off the breakup and towards improving myself independently moving forward. But the other day, I slipped and checked my exes' Instagram. She had a couple pictures with one of her longtime male friends that had "Amor" and "lovey" in the caption. I don't know if they're dating, and in all honesty I highly highly doubt it, but it's kinda set me off anyway. I'm struggling to make sure I stay on NC again and don't check up on her, but it's been really hard. I guess this thread is just for encouragement on not thinking about it and not breaking NC to try to snoop. 1
cdt76 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I'm one of the few that feel, after awhile has passed and you are moving on, that checking up on your ex sort of gives you some ammunition to keep doing what you are doing. Don't worry about what or who she is doing. It's hard. Everyone has setbacks. Just keep chugging forward and doing what you need to do for you. 1
malin819 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 For those of you who recognize me, it's been a while since I've been here, mostly because I've been doing really well, if I do say so myself. I had an episode in late February that tipped off my long held anxiety issues, so I went and got professional help and anti-anxiety medication, which has helped. I'm at 11 months post breakup and I'm doing well. I've been moving up at work, I've been traveling a lot with friends, I've been on dates, I've been working with a therapist and most of our discussion has moved off the breakup and towards improving myself independently moving forward. But the other day, I slipped and checked my exes' Instagram. She had a couple pictures with one of her longtime male friends that had "Amor" and "lovey" in the caption. I don't know if they're dating, and in all honesty I highly highly doubt it, but it's kinda set me off anyway. I'm struggling to make sure I stay on NC again and don't check up on her, but it's been really hard. I guess this thread is just for encouragement on not thinking about it and not breaking NC to try to snoop. At least you can now continue your process and move on for good. Yes I know it hurts seeing her with another guy but the earth keeps spinning my friends and life goes on. Now what are you going to do from this point on? You clearly saw that looking her up doesn't do you any good 1
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Hey! Glad to hear you're doing well! Love the positive changes you're making! I'm sure they're helping a lot! Dude, you didn't have a set back. If you did, then you would have been going on and on for about 4 paragraphs on how this affected you. Did it affect you? Yeah...maybe a little bit. But, probably not as much as before. That's how I'm reading your healing. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 No good comes from checking... You know this!!! The stove is still hot. Lesson learned!! 1
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 For those of you who recognize me, it's been a while since I've been here, mostly because I've been doing really well, if I do say so myself. I had an episode in late February that tipped off my long held anxiety issues, so I went and got professional help and anti-anxiety medication, which has helped. I'm at 11 months post breakup and I'm doing well. I've been moving up at work, I've been traveling a lot with friends, I've been on dates, I've been working with a therapist and most of our discussion has moved off the breakup and towards improving myself independently moving forward. But the other day, I slipped and checked my exes' Instagram. She had a couple pictures with one of her longtime male friends that had "Amor" and "lovey" in the caption. I don't know if they're dating, and in all honesty I highly highly doubt it, but it's kinda set me off anyway. I'm struggling to make sure I stay on NC again and don't check up on her, but it's been really hard. I guess this thread is just for encouragement on not thinking about it and not breaking NC to try to snoop. We're only humans, don't beat yourself up over checking her social media. And lesson learned, I'm sure. Have you discussed that with your therapist yet? From the little bit of info that I gather in your post, you seem to be doing really well. I am not sure if it helps with your mood, it helps for a lot of people, but summer is almost here. I hope you enjoy it, since I'm sure your first summer single must not have been fun at all. Why not plan a trip? Myself I want to go skydiving (I'm terrified of heights ) Hope you pull yourself out of this small set back 1
Author reddragon588 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 Thanks everyone! I'll be 100% honest it's been a HUGE struggle not to snoop today. I deleted her long ago so there is no unwelcome updates at least. I know to find out I have to consciously seek it out, and even still it's been hard to resist but I'm doing well so far and I'm definitely proud of myself for that!
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