Cheerbabe93 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright so it has been about 2 1/2 months since my ex dumped me, and a few weeks ago I met this new guy online. (I just wanted to try something new, my best friend actually found her current boyfriend on a dating website) Anyways, we exchanged numbers and we have been texting a lot and facetiming. As of now he lives in georgia but he is getting stationed in germany in summer. I think I like him, he makes me smile a lot and he is pretty good looking too. The other day he texted me this "If you still like me when we meet would you consider being my girlfriend?" I thought that was really sweet. We are friends on Facebook but what really bothers me is how many female friends he has on there, he has over 1,000 friends on his profile and most of them are girls. And every time he posts a picture or status update they will comment on it saying flirty things. I really do not want to make the same mistake twice and fall for a total ass so should that be a red flag?? He just turned 24 and I am 21. I mean how can I know that he means the things he tells me? And that he doesn't just wanna get in my pants once he is here? Ps. He said his last relationship was three years ago, does that mean all he does it hook up with random girls?? Ugh I am over thinking this aren't I?
waiting4u Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 You don't sound like you are ready to start dating if you are asking this question. Maybe you should take some time to heal from your heartbreak before you jump back into the dating scene. 4
organizedchaos Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright so it has been about 2 1/2 months since my ex dumped me, and a few weeks ago I met this new guy online. (I just wanted to try something new, my best friend actually found her current boyfriend on a dating website) Anyways, we exchanged numbers and we have been texting a lot and facetiming. As of now he lives in georgia but he is getting stationed in germany in summer. I think I like him, he makes me smile a lot and he is pretty good looking too. The other day he texted me this "If you still like me when we meet would you consider being my girlfriend?" I thought that was really sweet. We are friends on Facebook but what really bothers me is how many female friends he has on there, he has over 1,000 friends on his profile and most of them are girls. And every time he posts a picture or status update they will comment on it saying flirty things. I really do not want to make the same mistake twice and fall for a total ass so should that be a red flag?? He just turned 24 and I am 21. I mean how can I know that he means the things he tells me? And that he doesn't just wanna get in my pants once he is here? Ps. He said his last relationship was three years ago, does that mean all he does it hook up with random girls?? Ugh I am over thinking this aren't I? He lives in Georgia? Where do you live? He's getting stationed in Germany this summer? Why are you even bothering?
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 He lives in Georgia? Where do you live? He's getting stationed in Germany this summer? Why are you even bothering? I live in Germany. He's moving here in summer cause he's in the military and he will be staying here until 2017 or 2018
RonaldS Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 You should just convict him of all the crimes your ex perpetrated against you. That's what most girls do. 1
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 You don't sound like you are ready to start dating if you are asking this question. Maybe you should take some time to heal from your heartbreak before you jump back into the dating scene. Alright so I don't "sound" like I'm ready to date someone yet because I'm concerned about the number of girls he has on Facebook? Uhm ok By the time he gets here I'll be single for six months. And I don't think that's too soon to go on a date. My ex started dating a few days after he dumped me
iiiii Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Either he's trustworthy, or he's not. Only way you're going to find out whether he is trustworthy is by giving him a go and getting to know him better. You can't tell by the number of friends he has on facebook. 3
waiting4u Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright so I don't "sound" like I'm ready to date someone yet because I'm concerned about the number of girls he has on Facebook? Uhm ok By the time he gets here I'll be single for six months. And I don't think that's too soon to go on a date. My ex started dating a few days after he dumped me I didn't mean to offend. 't just seems like you are talking a lot about your ex and the trust issues you have from that relationship. I just think maybe you should work on the trust issues. A rebound is fine, but call a spade a spade and don't over think it.
hasaquestion Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright so I don't "sound" like I'm ready to date someone yet because I'm concerned about the number of girls he has on Facebook? Uhm ok By the time he gets here I'll be single for six months. And I don't think that's too soon to go on a date. My ex started dating a few days after he dumped me So what if he has a lot of girls on Facebook? is part of the arrangement that you have to bang him to be his Facebook friend (I guess that gives a whole new meaning to "people you may know")? Maybe he's just, you know... popular?
FitChick Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 If you've worked on your patterns and beliefs regarding men, then you won't attract nor be attracted to someone like a jerky ex. If you keep attracting jerks, the answer is in your mirror. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Alright so it has been about 2 1/2 months since my ex dumped me, and a few weeks ago I met this new guy online. (I just wanted to try something new, my best friend actually found her current boyfriend on a dating website) Anyways, we exchanged numbers and we have been texting a lot and facetiming. As of now he lives in georgia but he is getting stationed in germany in summer. I think I like him, he makes me smile a lot and he is pretty good looking too. The other day he texted me this "If you still like me when we meet would you consider being my girlfriend?" I thought that was really sweet. We are friends on Facebook but what really bothers me is how many female friends he has on there, he has over 1,000 friends on his profile and most of them are girls. And every time he posts a picture or status update they will comment on it saying flirty things. I really do not want to make the same mistake twice and fall for a total ass so should that be a red flag?? He just turned 24 and I am 21. I mean how can I know that he means the things he tells me? And that he doesn't just wanna get in my pants once he is here? Ps. He said his last relationship was three years ago, does that mean all he does it hook up with random girls?? Ugh I am over thinking this aren't I? You met the guy a few weeks ago, you're probably all heartbroken being dumped or at least feeling a little less worthy, which makes you a prime target to be "sweet talked" I mean if that's what even sweet talk is these days, seems like anything a guy farts can be taken for something serious...but you seem to believe it. If a guy having 1,000 FB "friends" who happen to have vagina's isn't enough of a clue to you then yes, I fear you are going to get played and used, and then he drops this "so you want to be my girlfriend" ...i mean, you must feel so "special" after all he's probably only told the other 999 FB "friends" the same thing, but seriously the guy has met you two weeks ago, use your brain, what do you think he's after with a bunch of other women on his FB, he's got you all competing like puppies over a toy and since young women love to want and need that validation from men it's a perfect setup as you can see, as if one woman is interested in a man and the rest find out about it they all fall like domino's trying to be the "winner". You're only 21, unfortunately you're not going to be the brightest star in the sky if you know what I mean...you're going to potentially get fooled, duped and charmed by lots of guys if you believe everything you read or hear but not what you see and what isn't being said that you can figure out for yourself but since you can't get that final "confirmation" that he's not a "bad guy" then you'll be foolish and naive enough to give it a chance. Most young women love to obsess over a man, and even older...sadly, this seems to be the typical case of feeling like you are over-thinking something when you are really just getting red flags, but hey...that's why you learn, at least in 9 years you can say the past is the past and you learned a lot from it right? 2
toml Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Hi cheerbabe. I read your story and it reminds me of mine. Are you german? Have you skyped him? I had a similar story with a german girl ironicall. She was 18 and i was 24 at the time. She told me she really liked me and wanted to be with me. I wanted to be with her too. We spent 2 months talking on fb. She had many guy friends on facebook too. Please dont believe anthing he says cos she lied to me with everything she said. She was very nasty to me wen we finally met. Was very sad and heartbroken. Never again will i date german girls:p
HappyLove Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 "I met this new guy online." Let me save you a lot of time & heartache. YEP, he's a jerk! Be my girlfriend Thousand girls on FB
d0nnivain Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 You don't know if he's like your ex-BF yet. You don't enough info but you can't start a healthy relationship by assuming he's a jerk or a player. Be neutral & let him reveal his character to you. Women are more social then men. I don't know the statistics but it's not unusual for men to have more women friends on social media then men. The fact that they say flirting things has no bearing on him. What's he saying? As of now because you aren't official, he is free to flirt with whomever. Be cordial for now & give him a shot when you are in the same country in the summer. Take his behavior in the real world when he interacts with you in person more seriously then his behavior on line. Other then the fact that you seem a bit gun shy because of your ex-BF's behavior, I don't see red flags. I'll give you, 1,000 FB friend the majority of whom are flirty women, may be a yellow caution flag but the new guy is not your EX. I will remind you that having a relationship with an active duty military person requires a lot of trust; you will most likely be apart more than you are together. If you don't want to deal with that, don't bother to start anything.
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Hi cheerbabe. I read your story and it reminds me of mine. Are you german? Have you skyped him? I had a similar story with a german girl ironicall. She was 18 and i was 24 at the time. She told me she really liked me and wanted to be with me. I wanted to be with her too. We spent 2 months talking on fb. She had many guy friends on facebook too. Please dont believe anthing he says cos she lied to me with everything she said. She was very nasty to me wen we finally met. Was very sad and heartbroken. Never again will i date german girls:p haha sorry but that made me giggle a little, uh yea i am german but like i said he is moving over here in summer. and we do skype and FaceTime. i guess i will just have to wait those two months and see how it goes once i actually meet him
Author Cheerbabe93 Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 You don't know if he's like your ex-BF yet. You don't enough info but you can't start a healthy relationship by assuming he's a jerk or a player. Be neutral & let him reveal his character to you. Women are more social then men. I don't know the statistics but it's not unusual for men to have more women friends on social media then men. The fact that they say flirting things has no bearing on him. What's he saying? As of now because you aren't official, he is free to flirt with whomever. Be cordial for now & give him a shot when you are in the same country in the summer. Take his behavior in the real world when he interacts with you in person more seriously then his behavior on line. Other then the fact that you seem a bit gun shy because of your ex-BF's behavior, I don't see red flags. I'll give you, 1,000 FB friend the majority of whom are flirty women, may be a yellow caution flag but the new guy is not your EX. I will remind you that having a relationship with an active duty military person requires a lot of trust; you will most likely be apart more than you are together. If you don't want to deal with that, don't bother to start anything. thank you, and yea i will just have to wait till he gets here. oh and my ex was in the military as well, different branch though but we were together for one year and then he had to go back to the states and we were long distance for another year. i know what i might be getting myself into
toml Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 haha sorry but that made me giggle a little, uh yea i am german but like i said he is moving over here in summer. and we do skype and FaceTime. i guess i will just have to wait those two months and see how it goes once i actually meet him Why did it make u giggle?
Eddie Edirol Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Alright so it has been about 2 1/2 months since my ex dumped me, and a few weeks ago I met this new guy online. (I just wanted to try something new, my best friend actually found her current boyfriend on a dating website) Anyways, we exchanged numbers and we have been texting a lot and facetiming. As of now he lives in georgia but he is getting stationed in germany in summer. I think I like him, he makes me smile a lot and he is pretty good looking too. The other day he texted me this "If you still like me when we meet would you consider being my girlfriend?" I thought that was really sweet. We are friends on Facebook but what really bothers me is how many female friends he has on there, he has over 1,000 friends on his profile and most of them are girls. And every time he posts a picture or status update they will comment on it saying flirty things. I really do not want to make the same mistake twice and fall for a total ass so should that be a red flag?? He just turned 24 and I am 21. I mean how can I know that he means the things he tells me? And that he doesn't just wanna get in my pants once he is here? Ps. He said his last relationship was three years ago, does that mean all he does it hook up with random girls?? Ugh I am over thinking this aren't I? Hes 24, good looking, and can have any girl he wants. Now if he wasnt so good looking, and was a almost decent looking guy asking you on the internet if you could be his girlfriend when you havent met yet, would you be creeped out? Does it really sound right to you that a good looking guy wants to make things exclusive with you? Or maybe he is building a nice stable of women in Germany to bounce around? Good looking guys that age dont need to commit to any women, they can just sleep around and have fun because the woman all want to tame him for themselves. He has a constant supply. You really wont know until you see him in person and his words match his actions. In the meantime, you should be able to land a good looking German guy while youre home. If the good looking guys of Germany dont like you, what would make this guy any different?
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