drg2365 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Ok so after a rough day at work I went straight to my favorite bar. It wasn't crowded (nor would it be at ~530) and there was this very pretty woman sitting there by herself drinking a glass of wine, texting away. I sat reasonably close to her and we had a few brief intermittent comments, while I watched TV and she texted away. Eventually I said something and she couldn't hear, so I sat right up next to her and we started chatting. We actually had a very fun conversation, bought her a glass of wine (only one) then her roomate (she explained a related story) a very called her (lasted nearly 20 minutes lol) but she would look at me roll her eyes, or hit my shoulder if, I guess, something was funny. We continued our conversation and she had to go. I said with a smile "Hey are you single?, If not no problem nice talking with you. she said she was single with a smile, and I asked for her phone number and when she was free. She said the weekend, I suggested Friday, she said after 9pm. She sat back down and waited for my text to go through "Hey its drg" This was last evening. What would be my correct next move, call her tonight, tomorrow? Texting a good or bad idea? And other general advice, this is rare for me haha I know there is a very good chance I will never see her again lol, but I want to she was very pretty and receptive Thanks in advance
Mrin Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Call her tonight with a date proposition at 9pm on Friday. I'd do it tonight, not tomorrow night. Fortune favors the bold. I'd also call, not text. Edit: And unlike some here at LS, if she doesn't pick up, leave a voicemail. 6
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Calling her is the best approach. Set up something concrete for Friday. Keep the conversation relatively brief. Don't over think it & have fun.
Author drg2365 Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 I royally messed this up. I did just as you guys said (and what I was thinking and called her) She picked up immediately and asked if she could call me back since she had just gotten off work. Fair enough, seemed very friendly. Well about 1-2 hours had passed and I was on my way to my friends. Have you guys ever exchanged a million phone calls with your friend when you can't get buzzed into the building? That happened lol, and in my frustration of having to keep calling him, I touched her recent contact. It rang. a few times, saw who it was, hung up (needed to anyway because my friend was calling me back lol). A few minutes later I was just like 'chit, chit' so I texted this: "Hey my bad I called again, I pushed the wrong contact, but was originally wondering if you were still up for going out on Friday, I was thinking (this place) at 930?" Haven't heard back. Assume its cooked. Anyone ever do this before or thoughts in general?
angel.eyes Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 It happens to everyone. If she likes you, it won't matter. If she didn't, she wasn't going to call you back anyway. Don't sweat it. (She gave you her number, and confirmed you had it...she seems interested.) BTW, I would suggest a date time of 9:30 or 10:00...she said AFTER 9, not 9. She'll need time to get from whatever she has planned earlier on to your date.
hasaquestion Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 "Royally messing up" is something which everyone does. Its not a big deal. Live and learn. From your previous posts I understand you are in your early 20s. Two things I'd suggest from experience: Just text her next time. Women on here make it sound like 20-year old girls swoon as soon as they put down the phone and think about what a brave dashing young man you are for calling them. Its really not true. If anything it makes you look strange since no one actually does that. Don't contact someone twice, please. That's like the golden rule of being single. I get this was accidental, but its worth emphasizing. She's going to see your first message. And if she doesn't (dead, Ukranian prison, etc.) your text message is really not something that matters in the big picture anyway. She probably was on the fence and psyched herself out afterwards. Its not a big deal.
d0nnivain Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Has she called back yet? Even if she hasn't, it wasn't because you called a 2nd time.
thecrucible Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Aw don't sweat it. Sometimes in the past I've put guys on the receiving end of that. I give them my number anyway even if I'm lukewarm about them....then I go through a decision process where I think "do I actually like this guy enough to go out with him?". There are times I've just ignored the text because it seems less cruel than a rejection, but I think now I would be direct but respectful about it. I've learnt from experience. Don't sweat it. If anything, she's done you a favour because you know where you stand and you've invested less. There could be all sorts of things going on in her life but I don't think there was anything you could have done. It happens to everyone. When I get rejected I try to see the positive side i.e. if she said 'yes' but dated you anyway even though she wasn't really into you, would you really want that?
truth_seeker Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 You barely know her. She could be the hottest girl on the block and be the worst person you've ever met. If she calls back and you get a date, great. If not, be happy you extended yourself and tried to get a date with her. Lots of guys never have the balls to say something and kick themselves for doing nothing.
Omei Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I HOPE she calls you back! Sounds like you really put yourself out there. Crossing fingers for you!
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