jaguar Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 There is this group of people that sometimes I meet. Last time I met them, they were talking about relationships and stuff. They made fun of virgins and awkward guys and how only losers meet online and things like that. Last time I just kept quiet during all that talk. I am planning to meet them again. If they ask me something, I will just say I am a virgin. I just want to see how they react. I am ready for anything. I don't care if they will make fun of me. Is this advisable?
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 There is this group of people that sometimes I meet. Last time I met them, they were talking about relationships and stuff. They made fun of virgins and awkward guys and how only losers meet online and things like that. Last time I just kept quiet during all that talk. I am planning to meet them again. If they ask me something, I will just say I am a virgin. I just want to see how they react. I am ready for anything. I don't care if they will make fun of me. Is this advisable? Why the hell not? If they laugh at you - are they really people you'd want to hang out with? Nope. All you can do is mention it if it comes up and they can like it or lump it. Good for you though!
angel.eyes Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I wouldn't bother TBH. Instead, think about finding more positive people to have in your life. People who put others down for sport and have narrow-minded views can be quite toxic. I would avoid seeking them out. How did you feel hanging out with them last time. By the end, did they leave you feeling good about yourself? Or small and less than? I would use that as a guide in picking friends. 1
ltjg45 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Definitely. It is funny that they mock virgins as if they are better than them and yet doesn't realize that one of their members happens to be the very person they are mocking. I would love to see their reaction to that. 1
Valen Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I had a friend who is a virgin. He is saving himself for his wife. He's probably the most honorable person I have ever met. He's upfront about him being a virgin if people ask. He doesn't treat it like it's something to be ashamed of or to be proud of. It's just what it is. The thing is I have seen girls hit on him plenty of times, attractive girls. But he declines them because they are not his type. Also when he sees a girl he likes, he would ask her out in front of all of us. That time the girl rejected him and everybody laughed. But it didn't phase him one bit. He carry on like it's no big deal. He truly doesn't care how others view him. He is one of the coolest person I have ever met and also one of the smartest. I think that's how you should treat your situation like my friend did. If people ask u directly, you openly tell them, if no one ask, then no point in announcing it like it's a big deal. 2
Author jaguar Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 I had a friend who is a virgin. He is saving himself for his wife. He's probably the most honorable person I have ever met. He's upfront about him being a virgin if people ask. He doesn't treat it like it's something to be ashamed of or to be proud of. It's just what it is. The thing is I have seen girls hit on him plenty of times, attractive girls. But he declines them because they are not his type. Also when he sees a girl he likes, he would ask her out in front of all of us. That time the girl rejected him and everybody laughed. But it didn't phase him one bit. He carry on like it's no big deal. He truly doesn't care how others view him. He is one of the coolest person I have ever met and also one of the smartest. I think that's how you should treat your situation like my friend did. If people ask u directly, you openly tell them, if no one ask, then no point in announcing it like it's a big deal. What if I am not waiting? What should I say? I would like to just say "it just never happened"
stillafool Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 How old are you? If you are a young virgin I would start associating with other people with like minds. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin and you don't have to tell them anything at all about your sex life.
Author jaguar Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 I am 30. It just never happened, I don't know what else to say.
Valen Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 What if I am not waiting? What should I say? I would like to just say "it just never happened" yup that's what you should say. Remember you have to be comfortable with it. Don't say it like it bothers you. Just say it naturally, like you telling them your name. Like for me, since I'm over 30, girls often ask me why aren't you married yet. I would reply I just haven't met the right person.
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