alphamale Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by Huntr777 Heya...for first dates, I try to keep it very casual. I usually go for Chili's, or TGIF's, Applebees, those kind of places. The reason I go for casual is because it puts my date at ease (no getting all dressed up, jeans and sneaks are fine), and I don't have to put out $75 + tip for a meal (and then she might think that she has to "put out" for the money I just spent on her). I also think that a guy who goes the expensive route on the first date might make the girl think he's trying too hard to impress her. So my advice to you is keep it simple, nice and casual. Remember, anywhere is fine just as long as you enjoy each other's company and you both want to get to know each other a little better. Excellent HUNTR777, you get a gold star for today!
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter I usually am the one who picks where we go, and it's not like I put any special effort into it or anything. I just like quirky guys who have developed their own personal style and taste preferences. Having a cool eatery to go to, even a local deli, makes me think, wow this guy is so cool, not wow, this guy is so needy. Of course my first dates are never really first dates because I always hang out a few times with someone casually before I allow them to take me out. I see what you mean. If you go and spend 100 dollars on dinner I think most girls wouls think your trying to show off. With Lindsay I wouldnt spend that much cause she might feel bad if I spent that much on dinner cause she felt bad she said I spent all that money for a gift for her, and I dont want her to try and pay for dinner.
tiki Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Definitely go with all-american. Then hit the specialty restaurants after you know she's worth your time - and money.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Definitely go with all-american. Then hit the specialty restaurants after you know she's worth your time - and money. So the 40-50 range is alright? Im including drinks too in the price.
tiki Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Ah yeah. When my husband and I go out for a nice dinner, we spend around that range. Normally like $25-$30 for something like Logan's/O'Charley's. But we rarely drink. Hope that helps.
Hund1976 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Don't worry about the price worry about the place, if everyone else in the restraunt is wearing a tie and you have a dozen pieces of silverware in front of you then you're in the wrong place for a first date. The place you want should have 19 year old waitresses with a bunch of pins on their shirts and a bunch of crap hanging on the walls.
alphamale Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 The place you want should have 19 year old waitresses with a bunch of pins on their shirts and a bunch of crap hanging on the walls. like where? hOOters?
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 Don't worry about the price worry about the place, if everyone else in the restraunt is wearing a tie and you have a dozen pieces of silverware in front of you then you're in the wrong place for a first date. The place you want should have 19 year old waitresses with a bunch of pins on their shirts and a bunch of crap hanging on the walls. Then I would be staring at the workers then. then again Lin is a beautiful gal so I dont think that would be a prob.
VirginiaBob Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 "(and then she might think that she has to "put out" for the money I just spent on her). " On 2nd thought, maybe you should spend a lot on her. Good plan.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 8, 2005 Author Posted February 8, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob "(and then she might think that she has to "put out" for the money I just spent on her). " On 2nd thought, maybe you should spend a lot on her. Good plan. So maybe I should spend a lot on her then? I mean I want to really impress her bigtime.
Hund1976 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 So maybe I should spend a lot on her then? I mean I want to really impress her bigtime. Bad idea, if girl really likes you she won't care if you went to a $12 a plate restaurant as opposed to the fanciest place in town. I would think most girls aren't impressed with guys they feel are trying to impress them. Just go to a regular casual dining place. If you show up on the first date with flowers and then cart the girl off to the fanciest place in town and start professing your undying love for her you're just going to come off desperate.
tiki Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Definitely go casual. Impression doesn't come with a pricetag.
beachsocal Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Yeah, don't go too expensive. She'll expect the same type of treatment 100% of the time. On a scale from 1-10 if you start out at a 6-7 you are fine. Then its still a comfortable place. If you start off at a 9-10 then you are setting a high bar or you will intimidate the girl. Remember after you are dating you still want the girl to be just as comfortable going to Taco Bell as to a $200 restaurant.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 Bad idea, if girl really likes you she won't care if you went to a $12 a plate restaurant as opposed to the fanciest place in town. I would think most girls aren't impressed with guys they feel are trying to impress them. Just go to a regular casual dining place. If you show up on the first date with flowers and then cart the girl off to the fanciest place in town and start professing your undying love for her you're just going to come off desperate. So the next time I call her I shouldnt say how much I miss seeing her?
TaraS Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Maybe I'm just a snob or something, but I'd be a bit annoyed if someone took me to TGI Friday's or something similar on a first date. I can't stand those places, they lack imagination and the food is usually, well, blah. Maybe I'm just getting old. The last first date I had, the guy asked me before we went out if I liked spicy food. I said yes, and we ended up going Indian. It worked out well -- the check was probably under $30 for the two of us (we did the standard I-reached-for-my-wallet /he-insisted-on-paying first-date ritual, so I didn't actually see the check), so no showing off, but it did indicate a sense of adventure.
alphamale Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by TaraS The last first date I had, the guy asked me before we went out if I liked spicy food. I said yes, and we ended up going Indian. well TARAS, that is all fine 'n dandy but being of indian descent myself I find that many people are not accustomed to that type of food. you are an exception which i think is totally wonderful and i praise you for it. go back and order some aloo keema or naan or bhindi bhaji or pahlow or maybe tandoori chicken. eat to your heart;s content. and don't forget kheer or ras-malai or maybe even zardah for desert.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 Since shes a soccer goalie should I ask her if shes in town sometime if she wants to go to one of the Stl steamers indoor soccer games? Since she likes soccer alot. Btw Id be bored out of my mind watching a entire soccer game, but her it might be a chance to get her out on a date you know.
VirginiaBob Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 just do the dinner thing dude, it's easy to talk to her at dinner rather than a noisy sports arena.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob just do the dinner thing dude, it's easy to talk to her at dinner rather than a noisy sports arena. then again this is soccer, not hockey so Savvis is not that full. I might call her Sunday. I'll call once every week or two. Isnt persistance the key?
Hund1976 Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Persistance is the key to a restraining order, but as long as she isn't telling you not to call her I guess you won't get into any trouble. Why don't you tell her you're driving up to her college to see her, then you won't have to spend the entire spring wondering whether or not you'll get a date with her this summer.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 LOL. If she said she wold never go out with me I would be devestated.
kanga Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale well TARAS, that is all fine 'n dandy but being of indian descent myself I find that many people are not accustomed to that type of food. you are an exception which i think is totally wonderful and i praise you for it. go back and order some aloo keema or naan or bhindi bhaji or pahlow or maybe tandoori chicken. eat to your heart;s content. and don't forget kheer or ras-malai or maybe even zardah for desert. Oh, man, I love Indian food. Sorry, that was completely, not really on topic. But I just had to share. I like when a guy gives me a choice of two or three places and I get to choose from those. Or like TaraS suggested, when they ask if I like a certain type of food. Now that I think about it more, I have definitely enjoyed the dates more with guys who gave me a choice rather than dictating where we would eat.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 I might send her a text then. I'll just give her my email addy too then.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 I sent her a text last night asking her if she wants to go to a soccer game when shes down.
Hund1976 Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 Well did she call or write you back? If she doesn't she isn't interested in you and you have to move on buddy!!
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