Midwest guy Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 What price range is average for the first date? The girl I like of course she put me on the spot and asked me to find some places to eat. I was wondering cause I mean if I ever take her on a date later I have to pay of course so what price range is good? I mean I dont want to look cheap and I dont want to chuck out no 100 plus bucks for only a first date if its only a friendly kinda date, serious one, or doesnt work out. Help!
Pendawn Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 I'd pick a nice casual family type restuarant - one where's there not a huge pressure on either of you to be romantic, or to act in a certain way. Also if the restuarant is VERY fancy it will make both of you more nervous than you are anyway. Someplace mid range, not a cheap fastfood restuarant but not a fancy expensive palce. The kind of place you'd go with your family to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or something.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 6, 2005 Author Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by Pendawn I'd pick a nice casual family type restuarant - one where's there not a huge pressure on either of you to be romantic, or to act in a certain way. Also if the restuarant is VERY fancy it will make both of you more nervous than you are anyway. Someplace mid range, not a cheap fastfood restuarant but not a fancy expensive palce. The kind of place you'd go with your family to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or something. Like outback? I hate Red Lobster yuk plus its way overpriced.
WalkingTall Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by Midwest guy The girl I like of course she put me on the spot and asked me to find some places to eat. Get used to that spot! You will be spending alot of time on the spot! Some women tend to see what you can do from "the spot". If you fail time after time, just hope its only the doghouse for you! Why don't you ask her for a few of her favorite places to eat, since everyone is different in their preferences, you can chose one that she mentions or something similar that she didn't for extra bonus points!
Author Midwest guy Posted February 6, 2005 Author Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by WalkingTall Get used to that spot! You will be spending alot of time on the spot! Some women tend to see what you can do from "the spot". If you fail time after time, just hope its only the doghouse for you! Why don't you ask her for a few of her favorite places to eat, since everyone is different in their preferences, you can chose one that she mentions or something similar that she didn't for extra bonus points! Yes, a couple months ago when I asked her out I asked her what kind of food she likes. I asked her italian, French ect and she said it depends. SHe asked me to name some places. If I have any shot at all it wont be till summer so I have time to research places.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Is buying flowers still good for a first date? Lets see if your meeting the gal at the place your eating at how do you give them to her without making a big scene in public? Also what kind of flowers are good and how much to spend? I mean I dont know the first thing about flowers.
Buddah Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 you dont' go out on a first date dinner. you go out on a first date lunch in a public place, very public I mean. don't make her seem isolated with you. dont' make her feel trapped. don't rely on only you looking at her and her you.
SavesTheDay Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Take it easy buddy. You're over analyzing things. You should take her, like a previous person said to - Friday's, Chili's or whatever. About flowers - you don't really have to know too much about them. Ask the florist.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by SavesTheDay Take it easy buddy. You're over analyzing things. You should take her, like a previous person said to - Friday's, Chili's or whatever. About flowers - you don't really have to know too much about them. Ask the florist. Im hoping somehow she will still go out with me this summer.
VirginiaBob Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 My standard for first dates is Olive Garden, Ruby Tuesdays, Barne's and Nobles for coffee, Macaroni Grille, Max and Erma's, Friendly's (for ice cream - always a good quick first date), and any special hole in the wall place that serves good food that only you know about.
Hund1976 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 No flowers on the first date. That's just like saying "I'm desparate, please like me!!!" Wait a few dates before you bust out the flowers.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob My standard for first dates is Olive Garden, Ruby Tuesdays, Barne's and Nobles for coffee, Macaroni Grille, Max and Erma's, Friendly's (for ice cream - always a good quick first date), and any special hole in the wall place that serves good food that only you know about. Olive garden is too cheesy. I mean I want something a little more upscale then that. Barnes for coffee is too cheap of a date. I mean If I take Lindsay out somehow I dont want to look cheap and spend on 20 bucks, yet I dont want to spend over a 100 on one date that chances are would not work out. I mean I dont mind spending 40 bucks plus tip. I mean Im so eager to go out with her and such I should foot the bill.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 No flowers on the first date. That's just like saying "I'm desparate, please like me!!!" Wait a few dates before you bust out the flowers. I mean cause I bugged her everyday for a date and the gift card I assume she thinks Im a little needy already. How much money should I bring on the date? I mean if I spend on us like 40 bucks on dinner, and hopefully do something afterwards. Would it be good to bring about 150 bucks just in case?
blind_otter Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Can you just bring your bankcard? I hate hate hate hate hate when I get taken to a corporate chain restaurant. I just don't like them and the food usually blows. I love it when they guy is imaginative and comes up with some local eatery that is special in some way. Fondue is great because you have something to talk about (ie the food) already. Or some place that has exotic food. That always impresses me. No flowers, flowers seem desperate. It should be enough that you're paying for dinner.
Author Midwest guy Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter Can you just bring your bankcard? I hate hate hate hate hate when I get taken to a corporate chain restaurant. I just don't like them and the food usually blows. I love it when they guy is imaginative and comes up with some local eatery that is special in some way. Fondue is great because you have something to talk about (ie the food) already. Or some place that has exotic food. That always impresses me. No flowers, flowers seem desperate. It should be enough that you're paying for dinner. I agree about the corporate chain thing. If Lindsay ever goes ouot with me I'll just go someplace nice and local. Yea it might cost me 40 bucks for the both of us but its worth it cause shes a nice person. Good idea if its a place you never ate to know the menu cause Id hate to go inside and the meals are like 25 dollars a pop.
alphamale Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 No flowers on the first date. That's just like saying "I'm desparate, please like me!!!" Wait a few dates before you bust out the flowers. wait a few dates? WTF HUND1976. Try waiting 3 or 4 months to give her flowers man. Get with the program.
Hund1976 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 wait a few dates? WTF HUND1976. Try waiting 3 or 4 months to give her flowers man. Get with the program. Well I say wait to get flowers until the girl starts paying for some stuff. That means she actually likes you and isn't going out with you because she has nothing better to do and doesn't feel like paying for dinner.
VirginiaBob Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 "I love it when they guy is imaginative and comes up with some local eatery that is special in some way." I'm not gonna spend an hour planning a date unless it is someone I am romantically interested in, and there is no way I am romantically interested in someone that I haven't even gone out with yet. I usually pick something easy for the first date so I don't appear too needy as if I am obsessed with her and working out every detail of our date before we even really know each other.
blind_otter Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by VirginiaBob "I love it when they guy is imaginative and comes up with some local eatery that is special in some way." I'm not gonna spend an hour planning a date unless it is someone I am romantically interested in, and there is no way I am romantically interested in someone that I haven't even gone out with yet. I usually pick something easy for the first date so I don't appear too needy as if I am obsessed with her and working out every detail of our date before we even really know each other. I usually am the one who picks where we go, and it's not like I put any special effort into it or anything. I just like quirky guys who have developed their own personal style and taste preferences. Having a cool eatery to go to, even a local deli, makes me think, wow this guy is so cool, not wow, this guy is so needy. Of course my first dates are never really first dates because I always hang out a few times with someone casually before I allow them to take me out.
alphamale Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter Having a cool eatery to go to, even a local deli, makes me think, wow this guy is so cool, not wow, this guy is so needy. well BLIND_OTTER, I personally recommend a restarant for first dates that is more mainstream and serves everything. This is cause on a first date most people don't know what the other's eating preferences are and it is best to go somewhere that they make many types of dishes. I mean imagane taking someone to a Thai restaurant for a first date and then findiing out they can't eat spicy foods. You'd look like an idiot. Once you get to know them better and their culinary prefrences then it is OK to take them to a small quirky all-veggie bistro where they have no chairs or a liquor license.
blind_otter Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Once you get to know them better and their culinary prefrences then it is OK to take them to a small quirky all-veggie bistro where they have no chairs or a liquor license.
VirginiaBob Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 good point alpha, I never thought of it that way, but you are right, go to a place with all around selection for a first date.
Huntr777 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Heya...for first dates, I try to keep it very casual. I usually go for Chili's, or TGIF's, Applebees, those kind of places. The reason I go for casual is because it puts my date at ease (no getting all dressed up, jeans and sneaks are fine), and I don't have to put out $75 + tip for a meal (and then she might think that she has to "put out" for the money I just spent on her). I also think that a guy who goes the expensive route on the first date might make the girl think he's trying too hard to impress her. So my advice to you is keep it simple, nice and casual. Remember, anywhere is fine just as long as you enjoy each other's company and you both want to get to know each other a little better. Hunter
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