BD1980 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 (edited) So this is the strangest relationship I've ever had but the break up hurt more than anything and still does. By the way it lasted 5 months. We met at work and we flirted quite a bit. Small talk here and there untill I finally got the nerve to give her my number. We talked a few times on the phone and got to know each other better and so on. Finally we decide on a date but it wasn't a typical date. She came over and stayed the night. We made out and just cuddled. But then it turned into an every night thing. Nothing physical for a while. Eventually it turned into more and by month two we were both in love and never apart. We had so much fun together. We were talking about moving in together, yes after 2 months and talking about life ahead. She had a lot of issues she never dealt with and I helped her work through a lot of them. Like being complety naked in front of a guy. Or talking about her problems or frustrations. There were some I couldn't help her with like being raped or her dad walking out on her family. She always told me how amazing I was and how happy I made her. I suppoted her and was honest and caring. Always there for her. Then one day bam! Its over. I got a little too drunk and was bugging her and just being obnoxious and she walked out. Over. I rarely drank and she never had a problem with it. But that night I failed to be there and it was over. So I just let her go and went with NC. 2 weeks later we start talking and that night I'm in her bed and the next day we are back together. She told me she left because she doesnt know how to deal with her problems but she knows I'm who she wants to be with no matter what. That she loves me more than anything. But then I start to realize we skipped the dating phase in the beginning. We would go out of town once in a while but no real dates. I started to see how angry and depressed she was. She seemed like anything I had to say was unimportant. I go to her house but we wouldn't really talk. We still had sex but I also wanted the closeness we had before. She talked only about her future now and started talking about other guys at work. She would have me over then act like I was a nuisance. 3 weeks later she dumps me to date a guy at work. Well he turned her down and later that week she texts me and asks me how I dealt with her problems. Tells me she was turned down and how shes never going to find someone or just go back to something old and comfortable like her ex. The whole time I'm thinking you had me! Why not stay with me? So I ask why she left and she said she doesnt know how to handle hersef or her problems. That I made her feel like we were the only two on the planet when we were together but she felt horrible alone. She told me I am an amazing man and one day I'll find someone that will love me as much as I loved her. Long story short, how can someone leave someone that was supportive, caring, trustworthy, loving and never judgemental. All I can come up with is she doesnt know what makes her happy. It just hurts so much knowing I gave it my all and in the end it was for nothing. Maybe it was because I dont drive, but she lives 8 minutes away. Or we didnt have much privacy because of our living arrangements. 4 nights a week. Or she got with me a month after her ex dumped her. Or it could just be that she is 21 and I'm 33 and she has a lot to figure out. It still hurts just the same. I noticed after we broke up she added her ex on facebook and I guess thats it. I do love her, I think she was just infatuated with me and I was a rebound that lasted to long. I want the best for her and told her that and told her to just take care of herself. That was the last thing I said to her. I care about her and I know I need to move on but there is something about her that I cant let go of. Edited April 29, 2014 by BD1980
abrachia Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Long story short, how can someone leave someone that was supportive, caring, trustworthy, loving and never judgemental. I felt that way when my ex started to ignore me. I was there for him as he exited rehab, began to go to school, was able to get a car and a job. I did nothing but support him getting his life back on track and before long he started using drugs again and ignoring me. What can you do? 1
thysecret Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Relationships are always selfish. I was there for him when he have NOTHING. Now that he starts to build up everything, he LEFT ME. 1
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