Ekougar89 Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 I lived with my girlfriend for about half a year now, but i was cleaning up or bedroom i found a bunch of pictures of her ex-boyfriend...I really dont like the fact that she has those pictures. How do i asker to get rid of them...and is it right for me to ask her to throw them away.
P1xie Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Were they out in the open or tucked away in a box of keepsakes? I have old pictures and letters from previous boyfriends but they are packed away in like a memory box. It just seemed rude to me to throw them away. I would never keep them in the open so my boyfriend would see them. I know it would hurt him. In fact they are at my mom's. He has pictures of his x but they are in a shoebox and it doesn't bother me because I know that he doesn't love her and he is with me now. If he had a picture of her on display it would be bothersome to me and I would ask him to take it down.
WalkingTall Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Well, as P1xie pointed out, it's absolutely normal to have a "memory box". Most people do, not too look back with wanting, but as a reminder of how they got to where they are now. The person you are with today is a culmination of all of the past experiences, both good and bad. My past girlfriends have always been open to discussion when it came to previous partners. We have talked about both positive and negative experiences together. There are times when I felt uneasy learning about these people, as it is natural to "compare" ourselves to previous flames. All you need to do is look at who is in the relationship and embrace the fact that you are the object of her desire. You aren't competing with an ex, you are fighting off the ghosts that you fabricate in your mind. Good luck and remember to communicate!
alphamale Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by Ekougar89 How do i asker to get rid of them...and is it right for me to ask her to throw them away. you have no right to ask someone to get rid of their past history or memories.
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