Author roe007 Posted May 25, 2014 Author Posted May 25, 2014 yes guys really I felt sooo sad when she said she don't love me. I was so committed and I was there for her but that was a mistake I realized it the hard way though. But I am happy that I truly loved someone and wanted that person to be happy in life. But like wise people say we can't help someone who don't want any help so it was better to move on 1
Author roe007 Posted May 25, 2014 Author Posted May 25, 2014 Well I don't know if I am normal but I seriously laughed when she said she is going to delete my number and everything.... Because one day during no contact one day she send her pics (seriously don't know why) and I didn't reply I deleted the message. She said I am giving negative vibes and blocked me. I thought that was the end and 1 week after that she kept messaging me. I can't believe she was so immature. Delete the number??? well instead of saying just delete it already. Why would someone after breaking a heart be so mean?
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 Okay I am into no contact and have cleared everything about no need of friendship and contact anymore. I am moving on with my life. So one of my mutual friends called me she was apparently out of city and came last week. She wanted to hang out with me and my ex the funny part she don't know about our break up. I said I am sick I don't want to come. She called again another day asking me out and told my ex is also there well this time also I declined because anyway I am on no contact and it will make me worse if I meet her again. At this point my friend got suspicious and she came around one day alone checking on me. I was a mess actually but doing good moving on. She kept on asking what happened and I really wanted things to stop so i said we broke up it was her decision and I accept it now and I don't want to contact or meet her anymore it is not appropriate. I thought my ex would have told our mutual friends already. Anyway my friend understood she supported me and she went home. Next day I got a call from a new number I had blocked my ex so she was calling form some other number and was blasting me. I was surprised at first but I held my nerve and asked her what was the matter. Apparently our mutual friend after seeing me was sad that I got dumped because she knew about our relationship and was really encouraging and happy that we were together and this break up was a big surprise to her. So this friend went and asked my ex why she dumped me. I never thought this would happened because I told my friend I am moving on and don't want to hang out with my ex anymore. Maybe my friend cared for me that is why she asked. But my ex was furious saying how will she face our friends again? Why did I tell this to her? then again my ex was saying she thought I would give her time and she would come back to me now she won't she lost respect. Well to be frank it has been 1 month after break up and she said she don't want a relationship with me I respected moved on and chose not to contact her at all. This was unfortunate but what can I do? I mean is this some reason to be mean to someone? I never asked anyone to talk to her on my behalf I won't do it. But this I never asked for, it just happened and now she blames me for break up. I mean a month after break up she now says this is the reason for break up which I don't understand.
harrybrown Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 She is selfish, wants to look good and wants you to take all the blame for everything. Go back to your NC. You will be better off without her in your life.
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I felt bad when she said I don't know how to handle it. But I never pursued her or messaged her.And awkward when she said she thought of coming back but now she won't. After all she put me through the final words really hurt me. A part of me is moving on but such words adds to the misery and I am stuck. I didn't contact her and not going to break NC its her who is calling from unknown numbers now. I was moving on safely blocking her contacts but I never expected her call from an unknown number and saying that She wanted time to come back and I am the one who is wrong.
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 is this like the easy way out? blaming me now? but I don't want this it makes me feel awful
d0nnivain Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Why did you lie to the meddling friend in the first place? Instead of playing sick if you just said you had broken up with your EX & that you prefered not to be where she was, you would have been dealing with this from a position of strength. Then she probably would have not felt sorry for you & tried to play match maker. Your EX had no right to lambaste you for the friend's meddling. You didn't ask that person to get involved. Harrybrown is most likely correct that your EX didn't want to look like the villan.
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 Oh well I didn't want to start the entire process of explaining the break up to her again and both the times when my friend called me my ex was with her. I don't know but I thought I might tell her in time or maybe I thought my ex might have told her. Well yea I never asked anyone to go talk to my ex since I myself is trying to move on.
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I asked my friend why she played the middleman role I never asked for it. Well apparently we all are friends for a long time, me my ex and the mutual friend I talked about from our 5th grade onward and she felt sad that my ex dumped me. She just wanted to know why and she even send me the whole conversation. She asked my ex about the reason and my ex said the same reasons, about her family not allowing her personal life need priority same things she told me. Anyway I don't want my friend to feel bad so I told her to stay away and don't talk anything anymore. I also saw a message from my ex saying her ex boyfriend started talking to her family well now I don't want to know anything but our mutual friends are surprised like I was when I heard about the break up.
Author roe007 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 I am unnecessarily getting so sad now. We had a mutual bank account I almost forgot about it anyway she asked a letter to terminate the account I compiled and send it right away to her mail since the account is in her city. But I feel so sad you know. She persuaded me to open an account mutually to save for future. I know we don't have future together but it is so sad now I just feel so lost and blank.
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