Aesthetix29 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Ok i met a girl on saturday who's 34 years old im 29... and we got chatting exchaged numbers etc... but she was quite clear she's just looking for a friend with benefits and aparantly i fit the bill so i agreed etc... but after looking at her fb ive noticed shes in a realtionship and scheduled to be married in 2015... im not one for breaking realtionships/marriages up... Should i go through with it or not... the way i see it is she wants alittle fun before tieing the knot ? Its all abit hush hush cloak and dagger haha! She says she's not happy but just dont like the thought of being sneaky... and she's good friends with my friends etc... Not sure what to make of it ? Thanks
Conners Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Ok i met a girl on saturday who's 34 years old im 29... and we got chatting exchaged numbers etc... but she was quite clear she's just looking for a friend with benefits and aparantly i fit the bill so i agreed etc... but after looking at her fb ive noticed shes in a realtionship and scheduled to be married in 2015... im not one for breaking realtionships/marriages up... Should i go through with it or not... the way i see it is she wants alittle fun before tieing the knot ? Its all abit hush hush cloak and dagger haha! She says she's not happy but just dont like the thought of being sneaky... and she's good friends with my friends etc... Not sure what to make of it ? Thanks Don't do it man. She probably has all sorts of diseases anyway if shes willing to screw around while engaged
Author Aesthetix29 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Well thats what i thought but after sleeping on it i think shes to weak to end her realtionship so cheating is the easy way out isnt it especially if he finds out as he will be leaving her.... its a possibility ?
Conners Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 She's not even married yet, there is no reason she can't leave. I don't understand why people cheat, if your not happy just leave??
notserene Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Do you enjoy playing catch with a live hand grenade?
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Op - like you had to ask. You already knew that answer haha
central Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I wouldn't. My ethics preclude me from potentially harming another person when it can be avoided - her fiance in this case. She has the option of ending the engagement and dating again if she wishes, so there is no need for her to continue her relationship as a lie. Only if she ended her current relationship would I go for this arrangement, and it would last only until she decided to be exclusive with someone else - I would not expect exclusivity in a FWB arrangement, unless we both wanted that and agreed to it.
mema1982 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 What goes around comes around..... Don't do it !!!!
Author Aesthetix29 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Ok i agree... i just wanted other peoples opinions thats all... i dont fancy being a pawn (used). Why cant i just find a nice girl or normal for that matter hahaha... Jeeez!! 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Ok i agree... i just wanted other peoples opinions thats all... i dont fancy being a pawn (used). Why cant i just find a nice girl or normal for that matter hahaha... Jeeez!! For the same reason us nice girls can't find nice normal blokes... Because they've all run off somewhere 1
LordVader Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I agree breaking things up is not good, not least for any "karma" But so how did u determine this girl wants a FWB thing ? I can't even determine if a girl wants to talk past 1-2 minutes usually
Author Aesthetix29 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Quite easy lordvader... She took me out the way of prying eyes and asked me straight up... You wanna see the text messages I'm getting hahaha! But I've made my choice I'm no home wrecker! She even said to me that not to mention it to her girlfriend (friend not lesbo) my mate because she had a thing for me haha! It's all abit weird if you ask me. Thanks
ASG Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Don't do it man. She probably has all sorts of diseases anyway if shes willing to screw around while engaged Diseases don't show up because you're "willing to screw around while engaged". Its actually quite easy to avoid them and to treat 95% of them!
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Why would you want to be part of her cheating on her FI? 2015 isn't that far off.
LordVader Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 wow sounds fun, I have no clue common FWB is around here yet, I'm pretty new to the nightlife.
marcjb Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Please do the right thing and contact her fiancé to let him know of her intentions.
Author Aesthetix29 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 I aint contacting nobody.. im not gonna do anything so not my problem... if she wants to cheat then she'll cheat... Im staying well out the way of this one... haha!
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