grecko26 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 So I got a question for fellow men out there, when you do get a girl the easiest of ways, (wooing her and her felling for it immediately) chances are in the future, would you still value her? You might go about thinking (I got her with no hardships, challenge) and will result in you taking the girl for granted in the future, guys do you agree with this one?
Hopeful30 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 There is no easy way to get a girl worth getting. 2
tekkenfan2 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Not necessarily, for me it depends solely on the girl how much I value her. If I enjoy spending time w/ her and she brings positive energy, support etc. to my life then I'll value her regardless.
David87 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 What comes easy won't last.....it's a known fact. 1
Author grecko26 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 There is no easy way to get a girl worth getting. Great point man! but let's say for example, you got a girl a week after knowing her, in the future, what will you tend to do, will the "I got you that easy and know I don't think you still have much value to my eyes" comes into play, or will that just happen if you found another girl to your fancy?
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You boys are idiots.. Sometimes girls are easy to get because they like you straight up, and forgive me for this, but sometimes we just don't play games! Pretty simple actually. You should be more wary of those who play around like children, do you really want someone that fickle and manipulative? 7
David87 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You boys are idiots.. Sometimes girls are easy to get because they like you straight up, and forgive me for this, but sometimes we just don't play games! Pretty simple actually. You should be more wary of those who play around like children, do you really want someone that fickle and manipulative? I agree, but you see it's in the human nature to want challenges and to desire what we can't have. That's why we don't appreciate that much what comes too easy.
Author grecko26 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Please don't get me wrong guys, I'm not talking about your typical "easy girl" it's just that I got a female friend who was courted by a guy and 1 week after they barely know each other, the girl was like under the guy's spell already and even went as far as living with the guy, (the heck, right) so most likely, as fellow men, what can you say, imagine if you are the guy in that situation, would you still value that girl in the future?
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I agree, but you see it's in the human nature to want challenges and to desire what we can't have. That's why we don't appreciate that much what comes too easy. Please don't get me wrong guys, I'm not talking about your typical "easy girl" it's just that I got a female friend who was courted by a guy and 1 week after they barely know each other, the girl was like under the guy's spell already and even went as far as living with the guy, (the heck, right) so most likely, as fellow men, what can you say, imagine if you are the guy in that situation, would you still value that girl in the future? Obviously this situation moved a little fast, but.... Why wouldn't you value a woman that was easy to 'get'? Wouldn't you value her honesty? Her willingness to trust you? To love you and be vulnerable without any guards or games? It just kind of stinks to me that we need to play around a little with guys in order to be valued... where is the sense in that? 2
David87 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Obviously this situation moved a little fast, but.... Why wouldn't you value a woman that was easy to 'get'? Wouldn't you value her honesty? Her willingness to trust you? To love you and be vulnerable without any guards or games? It just kind of stinks to me that we need to play around a little with guys in order to be valued... where is the sense in that? You're right. I don't want to argue with a lady
Author grecko26 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Obviously this situation moved a little fast, but.... Why wouldn't you value a woman that was easy to 'get'? Wouldn't you value her honesty? Her willingness to trust you? To love you and be vulnerable without any guards or games? It just kind of stinks to me that we need to play around a little with guys in order to be valued... where is the sense in that? Because maybe if I'm that guy, in the future, I might think "oh man! I got her with no problems, Im gonna find another girl I like even better", and that being said resulting in the guy taking for granted the girl that she got so easily.
Candy_Pants Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Obviously this situation moved a little fast, but.... Why wouldn't you value a woman that was easy to 'get'? Wouldn't you value her honesty? Her willingness to trust you? To love you and be vulnerable without any guards or games? It just kind of stinks to me that we need to play around a little with guys in order to be valued... where is the sense in that? Lani, consider the source . 1
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You're right. I don't want to argue with a lady thanks! But I don't want to be right here (just this once...), I genuinely want to know? 1
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Because maybe if I'm that guy, in the future, I might think "oh man! I got her with no problems, Im gonna find another girl I like even better", and that being said resulting in the guy taking for granted the girl that she got so easily. So because she was easy to get, you can automatically do better down the track? That's absurd! 1
topaMAXX Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 But I met a girl on Saturday. We had a lot of fun and have lots of things in common. She's very attractive too. The only problem is that it was pretty easy. She slept with me that night. Since then, I've lost a lot of attraction for her. I think it's because she was just too easy. I'd prefer it if the girl wouldn't have sex with me right away and would make me work for it a bit. Guess it's just me though....
Author grecko26 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 But I met a girl on Saturday. We had a lot of fun and have lots of things in common. She's very attractive too. The only problem is that it was pretty easy. She slept with me that night. Since then, I've lost a lot of attraction for her. I think it's because she was just too easy. I'd prefer it if the girl wouldn't have sex with me right away and would make me work for it a bit. Guess it's just me though.... This IS basically what I'm talking about, any other fellows experience/felt this way?
Candy_Pants Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 It's not about being made to "work for it". It's about having sex when you feel ready. I slept with my H on our first date. He thought it was a dinner between two old friends. I knew I wanted him (not only sexually), and made it happen. I don't play childish games.
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You boys are idiots.. Sometimes girls are easy to get because they like you straight up, and forgive me for this, but sometimes we just don't play games! Yup, I was going to say something like this. When a girl likes you, it's very easy to get her. All you have to do is don't screw up. And no, just because it was easy to get a girl does not decrease the value she holds. 1
Smilecharmer Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I think playing games and being easy to get are two different things. One is playing games like messing with his head and giving him the run around while being harder to get is really just someone making sure she is making a good decision by being with the guy. I know that I took a long time to get to know a guy properly so I didn't jump into anything too quickly and sex was out of the question. Girls can do what they want but I didn't want to be used by some guy for sex so I was a virgin until I met my husband. He really enjoyed the chase, as he calls it, though I was just being cautious and making sure he was the right guy for me. He was!
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 But I met a girl on Saturday. We had a lot of fun and have lots of things in common. She's very attractive too. The only problem is that it was pretty easy. She slept with me that night. Since then, I've lost a lot of attraction for her. I think it's because she was just too easy. I'd prefer it if the girl wouldn't have sex with me right away and would make me work for it a bit. Guess it's just me though.... Here's a thought. If you will lose respect for a woman if you sleep with her early, how about you don't try to sleep with her? 2
iiiii Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I always thought the reason some guys believe this is because if they could get this girl so easily, then maybe another guy could get her easy too - maybe she won't be faithful. Not saying it's logical at all. Luckily for girls, there are lots of guys out there that don't think that way. 2
nhlady1980 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I honestly have come across a few men who don't want an easy girl who has sex the first day or week so in that sense no its not wrong, but I hope you also are not seriously just testing women to see how far they would go then say o I'm sorry I'm not in the mood or not ready lol
regine_phalange Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I do agree that your friend is very rapid. And I do understand why many men don't like the idea of women sleeping easily with them. I guess they think that this woman can be easily "stolen" from someone else. I'm not saying it's always the case, by all means, but it's valid. As a girl, I also value more someone who won't sleep with me right away for the same silly reason. Just to generalize, my opinion is, never take anyone for granted, as they may sense it, become disintrested and dump you first. At least that's what Ive been doing when someone takes me for granted (meaning that he releatedly and gently brushes me off when I communicate my thoughts, or my needs, or things I want to do with him). And I've never been clingy, or needy. I have my own life, interests, friends. Even needing space from day to day to do my own things. There are men out there who will appreciate someone who knows what she wants and smart men who don't appreciate things only after they lose them.
Imported Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 So I got a question for fellow men out there, when you do get a girl the easiest of ways, (wooing her and her felling for it immediately) chances are in the future, would you still value her? You might go about thinking (I got her with no hardships, challenge) and will result in you taking the girl for granted in the future, guys do you agree with this one? No, I don't agree at all. A lot of women are just attracted. Some women try to restrain themselves, some just go for it. Neither will go any further than the other with me. I don't "woo" a girl to get her to like me. She already should have that figured out in the first 5 minutes we talk with each other as potential mate. I "woo" a girl to show I like her and not just for sex. Maybe show her a little bit of who I am.
topaMAXX Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Here's a thought. If you will lose respect for a woman if you sleep with her early, how about you don't try to sleep with her? As a man, it's my job to go for it. As a woman, it's her job to stop me. As I said in many other posts, sl*ts, overall, are not good to be in a relationship with.
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