devastatedheart Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 OK before you judge please understand I have been talking to this man for years online. A real friendship, we text and skype, and thru the years we have gotten to know each other inside and out. Yes true we have never met in person but because of webcams it didnt seem to be that big of a deal. Regardless I did truly fall in love with him and decided I would move to the UK to attend school there and to see if we could actually translate our relationship to real life romance. About a month after my school paperwork was filed and loans granted he told me he only loves me as a friend! Well it is way too late to back out of school so now I will be leaving the USA for England to spend time with someone who "loves me as a friend" He seems to make it clear he wants to be intimate with me but not have a girlfriend. I am simply devastated! Should I try to see if we can still build a relationship? Maybe he has cold feet because we never met in person, I myself am nervous about that but would never have done this to someone. What do I do? Just ignore his exsistance or give it a try and see how he is in person? I just don't want to be used as some sort of international booty call since he knows I still care deeply for him. We still text everyday like nothing has changed other than my new "friend" status. I am excited about living in a new country for a while just scared of him now because I don't want my feelings exploited by him if all he is after is sex. But Im unsure if maybe he just wants to take it slow until we meet. SO CONFUSED Thank you for your advice
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 He sounds pretty flaky to me... who knows the reasons behind it. My opinion is that you go. Move to England and continue your studies. But take it a new adventure for you, not him. You find somewhere to live, you make new friends, you study, you create a little life for yourself there. Sure meetup with this guy and see what happens, but don't make the move about him and your potential relationship. If it works out with him then it's a bonus. Best of luck 1
Author devastatedheart Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Thanks Lani yeah that's what Im going to try to do but I really have a lot of feelings for him and it just seems to be a bit of a game to him. I don't want to be used like that but like I said I like him a lot and Im afraid meeting him I may lose my willpower
Lani Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Thanks Lani yeah that's what Im going to try to do but I really have a lot of feelings for him and it just seems to be a bit of a game to him. I don't want to be used like that but like I said I like him a lot and Im afraid meeting him I may lose my willpower There is always a possibility that he's a total dope in real life.. Try not to put him on a pedestal before you've even met the guy because you never know what might happen. You're stronger than you think
Author devastatedheart Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Thank you sometimes you just have to hear someone else say it. You are right 1
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