yazzyjazzy Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 My ex dumped me out of the blue after being together officially for 6 months 3 months ago. I was his first gf. The longest he dated before me was 3 dates with the same person. He dumped me and said he had doubts about me from the beginning. When I asked what, he listed nitpicky things and I felt he seemed to think every little thing I did that wasn't perfect was a major "personality flaw." (That's just my opinion though.) He said he felt that I was more into than him than he was into me for the "entire relationship" (his words exactly) too. This was right after Christmas when for my Christmas present he bought me 30 pics of us together and put a picture frame in his living room of us. He was constantly all over me physically too, so I was shocked. So were my friends and when I told them the things he said theyd said bull**** but part of me feels he may have been a good faker. After we talked more he said he didn't know what was normal and he wasn't sure if he could see himself marrying me and that he should know after 6 months. He said if we continued to date, it wouldn't feel right because he would just be dragging it out. On easter I sent out a mass text and didn't realize I didn't delete him from my contacts, until he responded "happy easter" later. It manifested into a convo of him telling me "I didn't intend to take advantage of you but in the end you felt like I did so obviously I was wrong and had misconceptions that what I was doing was ok. Im sorry for hurting you." I didn't respond bc I have no idea what hes talking about? He felt like he was leading me on...I never recall once telling him that. Strange is it normal for men to do blameshifting?
Trovador Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Please, stop overanalyzing things... he didn't mean anything at all, even if he had said something meaningful most probably would be a lie; and in the extreme case that he was being truthful you are better off far away from him... you don't have a relationship with him anymore, so doesn't matter what he might or might not think... He's living his life without giving you a second thought (he responded only because you messaged him "accidentally"), you should do the same because, frankly, that guy seems a real ahole...
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