Stylin22 Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 Okay Shack, help me kick myself in the pants. I went to the gym today and was working out, just minding my own business...And this really cute girl walks in. I noticed, she noticed me, and so....well, we noticed. I went into the back part of the gym and started doing some ball work and she showed up a minute later, and began stretching next to me. Must have been like 45 times we had eye contact in 10 minutes! And, what do I do? NOTHING. NOTHING?! She left, then me, and we went back to lifting. 10 more times of eye contact. I go to the bike to finish up and she walked by to leave, with a huge look in my direction....and what comes of it...nothing. I'm such a stooge. I just don't get me sometimes. I'm a good looking guy, who is confident and assertive in all the ways but one...girls...I get all shy and timid when I see a girl I'm interested in. I've usually never had much of a problem with getting girls but now I'm more noticing that they would approach me. And well if I'm single today, that pattern needs to change. I need to kick this shyness stuff, cause it's really getting in the way. I'm working on myself here and feel like I'm getting ready to give a serious relationship another crack. Any help for me here, crew...And alphamale, try to be a nice guy...
alphamale Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 Originally posted by Stylin22 Must have been like 45 times we had eye contact in 10 minutes! And, what do I do? people look at what they like and generally avoid eye contact with what they don't like. repeated or prolonged eye contact with a woman means she is usually interested unless she is a tease and just lookin fer attention. & remember eye contact is a 2 way street. if you both aren't lookin' at each other at the same time then the msg does not come across. EYE CONTACT IS #1 INDICATOR THAT FEMALE LIKE U!!!! I go to the bike to finish up and she walked by to leave, with a huge look in my direction.... a woman walking or passing by you repeated is a signal, it means talk to me or stop me or I wanna be near u. I just don't get me sometimes. I'm a good looking guy, who is confident and assertive in all the ways but one...girls...I get all shy and timid when I see a girl I'm interested in. this is normal. when i was 25 yr old and 25 lbs lighter women used to look at me all the time and make eye contact every where i went. many would say i was good looking but i had same problem as u. it is normal. it takes time and experience to deal with women. some guys r born with it, some learn it over time and some dudes NEVER figure it out. take risks and you'll get experience. Any help for me here, crew...And alphamale, try to be a nice guy... next time u see her give her a smile and say hi. you don't need to start a conversation but you will see her again and aginn at the gym so u know where she is. every time you see her say a bit more like if she is on a machine hop on the machine next to her and say "hey you need more weight onn there weaking!!" but just say it kidding around. but don't do this too long and don't become friends with her. after a few wks of seeing her and just BSing here and there you just ask if she'd like to get together sometime. dude, she is yours for the taking. wuz i nice enuf for you??
lynnered Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 i am a gym rat and 99%of the time i avoid eye contact. sometimes glancing around i check out guys bodys &if i think he's hot ill look again, but I'm shy also ,so i wont start conversion ,so i think next time you see her don't rush her wait til she uses a machine you usually use &ask to work in w/h her take it from there.
DinNJ Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Welcome to my world... my friends say that if they were me for ONE week, they'd have syphillis by the end of the week. It is possible to be confident and have a fear of rejection at the same time. My problem is, I don't want to hit on every girl that 'looks this way' because I'm afraid they'll think I'm just a playa'. So instead I play hide and seek from behind the lat machine and go home wonderin' what would've happened if I said hello. Then kick myself in the @ss just like you. Ready for this??? what's the worse that could happen... really? If you just said hello? Hmmm... maybe you'd break the ice for her? Knowing damn well, she's interested? You'll have a second chance I'm sure... cause I know you looked up at the clock on the wall just to see what time she was training there. Go back the same time next week and look for the sign....'eye contact' and simply say Hello.
Midwest guy Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale people look at what they like and generally avoid eye contact with what they don't like. repeated or prolonged eye contact with a woman means she is usually interested unless she is a tease and just lookin fer attention. & remember eye contact is a 2 way street. if you both aren't lookin' at each other at the same time then the msg does not come across. EYE CONTACT IS #1 INDICATOR THAT FEMALE LIKE U!!!! a woman walking or passing by you repeated is a signal, it means talk to me or stop me or I wanna be near u. this is normal. when i was 25 yr old and 25 lbs lighter women used to look at me all the time and make eye contact every where i went. many would say i was good looking but i had same problem as u. it is normal. it takes time and experience to deal with women. some guys r born with it, some learn it over time and some dudes NEVER figure it out. take risks and you'll get experience. next time u see her give her a smile and say hi. you don't need to start a conversation but you will see her again and aginn at the gym so u know where she is. every time you see her say a bit more like if she is on a machine hop on the machine next to her and say "hey you need more weight onn there weaking!!" but just say it kidding around. but don't do this too long and don't become friends with her. after a few wks of seeing her and just BSing here and there you just ask if she'd like to get together sometime. dude, she is yours for the taking. wuz i nice enuf for you?? Bad part is the other way around. If you follow a woman around like that they think of the words "creep", "persistant", Pushy", "stalker" Why is it women can freak out so easliy when a guy shows interest.
DinNJ Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Why is it women can freak out so easliy when a guy shows interest. I would have to say because most woman already have their guard up against... stalking, creepy, persistant type of guys. Sometimes I feel like a girl wants me to say hi to her, but has already judged me without my saying 'hello'... it's weird.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by Midwest guy Bad part is the other way around. If you follow a woman around like that they think of the words "creep", "persistant", Pushy", "stalker" Why is it women can freak out so easliy when a guy shows interest. women want attention from the "right" guys. whatever that means. they don't like unwanted attention from dudes they don't care for.
Midwest guy Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale women want attention from the "right" guys. whatever that means. they don't like unwanted attention from dudes they don't care for. They girl at work said Im too peristent, but I'm not a bad person.
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