How horrible is it to have a girl on the side in case your girlfriend leaves you?

[CrystalCastles]

The drunk is the best part

 

I don't know how to say this without sounding like I'm hitting on you. You look absolutely beautiful in that picture. Almost as hot as CrystalCastles which is quite an accomplishment.

 

It's time for a nice cold shower where I'll be singing that Skyfall song.

 

Let the sky fall

When it crumbles

We will stand tall

Face it all together

At skyfall

That skyfall

 

I know, I know, what can I say? I'm very gorgeous. In fact, I look just like Daniel Craig! Oh wait...

 

And a like for knowing the song.

[Phoe]

Interesting. So you have very rigid boundaries set up.

 

Then I'm correct in assuming that you would not do what my ex did while she was dating me, going on a day hiking trip with a guy friend she's known longer than me and then went to his parents house for dinner?

 

You would feel that what she did was inappropriate?

 

I felt that I had no right to try and control who she spends time with.

 

There have been many threads that I participated in about women that spend time with guy friends, and many female posters felt that it was completely OK. Even to the point where they would stay at their friends houses in the guest room.

 

I do believe that those exceptions are quite rare. Based on my own personal view, opposite sex friends will never be 100% platonic.

 

Then would you be fine if you knew who he was spending time with, what he was doing, and even met those friends? Basically having no secrecy involved.

 

 

I'm still trying to figure out how a taken person should act. I've gotten so many mixed signals from women in relationships I don't know what's what. Hell, I had a married woman basically caress my arms in class; that really threw me for a loop. She's 23 and extremely attractive.

 

 

 

Nope, I would not go out on a trip alone with him. I would go in a group, or I would try to set it up so that my boyfriend could go along on the hike. I would not eat dinner at his place.

 

 

That's just me personally. If you are okay with that, then there's nothing wrong. Some people are okay with it, some aren't.

 

 

I wouldn't be doing it, regardless.

 

 

I know that YOU in particular have struggled with being platonic around females, but many men are perfectly capable of it. I have many 100% platonic male friends. There's never been ANY hint of interest between us. Even when strangers may have suggested there SHOULD be something, the guy would be quick to pipe up, shouting with disgust haha. They've made it clear they think I'm not attractive, but enjoy my company.

 

 

But, to sum it up, what is and isn't appropriate is gonna vary from couple to couple. I am very strict with myself, in terms of respect for my boyfriend and respect for myself.

[somedude81]

Nope, I would not go out on a trip alone with him. I would go in a group, or I would try to set it up so that my boyfriend could go along on the hike. I would not eat dinner at his place.

 

 

That's just me personally. If you are okay with that, then there's nothing wrong. Some people are okay with it, some aren't.

I was completely not OK with it. She ended staying at his place till around 10, and I couldn't see her that day because she was with him, even though I was in the area.

 

That was the only thing she had ever done that I had a problem with. We had a very civil discussion and she was able to understand how I felt about it.

 

I posted that story on the forums after she dumped me and people were trying to convince me that she didn't do anything wrong.

 

I wouldn't be doing it, regardless.

You truly are a quality woman.

 

I know that YOU in particular have struggled with being platonic around females, but many men are perfectly capable of it. I have many 100% platonic male friends. There's never been ANY hint of interest between us. Even when strangers may have suggested there SHOULD be something, the guy would be quick to pipe up, shouting with disgust haha. They've made it clear they think I'm not attractive, but enjoy my company.

Well, at least you've met one guy IRL who thinks your attractive.

But, to sum it up, what is and isn't appropriate is gonna vary from couple to couple. I am very strict with myself, in terms of respect for my boyfriend and respect for myself.

And now I fully understand your answers to some of the things we talked about.

 

Your BF is very lucky to have you.