irc333 Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I've noticed at Meetups specifically, that women at the events outnumber the guys sometimes. Some women often complain about the odd or there's not enough men coming. I find it kind of ironic, but I hear there's some kind of basic statistic where the majority of women are only pursuing a very small percentage of men in a real life group event. Though yeah, I like the odds, but chances are these women are interested very little in most of the selections, yes? OR...it may not be that, it could be something else? Like men have not as much interest in such things as women? 1
Keenly Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I don't think I'd be inclined to go to something like that, just because of sounds incredibly awkward and uncomfortable for an introverted person. 1
mario_C Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 It's always a positive, though not necessarily a recipe for win. I've been at those events, in a room full of women and two other men, and women still ignore me, brush me off and dodge. Settling will never be an option for them. Very true about women not liking the selection; they always seem disappointed that Hugh Jackman seems to never show up at those events. As for men not liking the selection, I hope so.
Targetlock Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Well at the two I went to, it seemed more men than women, and very few my own age especially at the last one. but i got the impression these weren't exactly the best events in the region though. 1
topaMAXX Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 If you want to meet good-looking women, go to bars or clubs. OLD doesn't work unless you're very good-looking. Singles events I don't think I would even waste my time.
carhill Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 It wouldn't occur to me to go to Meetups for date potentials, rather sharing mutual interests with others, just like any other club. So, perhaps, the men are fishing elsewhere for dates. IME, back when a fledgling online dating site (this was back in the 90's) was sponsoring 'singles' get-togethers amongst their members in different locales, I sometimes found myself to be the only guy there in mine. That didn't mean the ladies there were attracted to me or interested in dating me. Dating tip #23409348a 2
Salvatore85 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 If you want to meet good-looking women, go to bars or clubs. OLD doesn't work unless you're very good-looking. Singles events I don't think I would even waste my time. Good friend at work, completely average looking and is about to get engaged to his cute girlfriend he met off OLD 3 years ago. And to top it off, she makes double what he does.
Disillusioned Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 I've been to run-of-the-mill singles events, sometimes more women show up, sometimes more men show up. But I can say from experience that asexual events (straight ones, anyway) tend to have ratios of 3 to 5 women to each man... though I suspect a lot of this has to do with asexual men being more likely to stay in the closet because of public shaming. This puts the women into the topsy-turvy position of having to be the pursuers by having to compete against other women... not a situation a lot of women would be comfortable with. But hey, even asexuals need someone they can have the hots for.
Author irc333 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Do asexuals lack sex drives, or is a choice people make when they have become indifferent to dating. I've been to run-of-the-mill singles events, sometimes more women show up, sometimes more men show up. But I can say from experience that asexual events (straight ones, anyway) tend to have ratios of 3 to 5 women to each man... though I suspect a lot of this has to do with asexual men being more likely to stay in the closet because of public shaming. This puts the women into the topsy-turvy position of having to be the pursuers by having to compete against other women... not a situation a lot of women would be comfortable with. But hey, even asexuals need someone they can have the hots for.
Disillusioned Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Do asexuals lack sex drives, or is a choice people make when they have become indifferent to dating. Asexual = no desire or natural urges to have sex (or in many cases to experience actual displeasure from having sex) Choice = incel
Teraskas Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 From the very few singles events which I've visited, it always seemed like the amount of women vastly outnumbered men. One would think this would be a good thing, but nearly all the women there are in their late 30s, early 40s, while the men were around my age, between early 20s and late 20s. Needless to say they were being too picky and didn't even bother with 'the young and unexperienced folk'.
mario_C Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 ...even asexuals need someone they can have the hots for. I'm sorry, but this makes no sense at all. Isn't the point of being asexual that you do not get "hot"?
lino Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 These meet up things sound absolutely miserable and a a waste of time. Just do things you enjoy guys.
mario_C Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 These meet up things sound absolutely miserable and a a waste of time. Just do things you enjoy guys.If you go to Meetups that you have no connection with, just for the sake of getting out of the house or getting a job or getting lucky - get, get, get and no give == miserable and a waste of time. If you go to Meetups with people you connect with, and pastimes - or career interests - that you are passionate about, love and want to do, your evening will rock.
thecrucible Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 didn't even bother with 'the young and unexperienced folk'. That seems fair enough. When you've had lots of relationship experience, you're kind of looking for someone equally experienced who you can identify with in terms of life experience, and who knows what they're doing. So I don't go for inexperienced guys myself. I don't think that's too picky because I'm 24 and most guys are going to be experienced by my age. My advice is to LIE - that sounds shady but best not to bring it up too quickly - it's just like a job interview..you present yourself in the best possible light If a guy tells me he's not very experienced, I start to think he's looking for any woman to provide that experience so I wonder if he's desperate or something. He might not be but I don't know that. When people don't know much about you, they fill in the blanks with their own imaginations. Anyway as per thread topic, I have never been to a singles event but I want to see what it's like
Imported Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I am going to start mountain biking again and will give a meetup mountain biking group a try. Not really doing it to meet women, but probably will. 1
El Brujo Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I know from experience that one of the biggest fails is that a lot of people who start these singles meetups never think about what interests people have. I'm not saying ALL groups are like that, but come on... if everyone in your group all has totally different interests, things will get dysfunctional very quickly. But if you can make everyone in your group feel like they're in their element, then you've cracked the hosting code and you'll be surprised how fast the men and women start hitting it off.
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