Murtz Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 She was really in love with me, but felt like I didn't love her and I took her for granted so she broke up with me after a 3 year relationship. I removed her about a month after we broke up as we started no contact. After about 2 months of no contact I contacted her seeing if she wanted to go on a date. She was hesitant to call it a date, but agreed. After about a month of that she decided she needed more space. Later she sent me an email about why she was afraid of getting back together and that she was afraid that if she ever wants to get back together, I wont want to because she has been a jerk. I responded addressing some of her concerns and telling her how I felt, but also told her that I will respect her space, but cannot wait forever. She then asked some questions about us and how I would be better. I told her, but haven't seen a response in 3 days. However yesterday she sent me a Facebook friend request. She knows why I removed her the first time. I know it seems childish, but should I accept it? If I do, she might think that I am on her reigns and she can have me back anytime, but maybe she is trying to reconnect in some way. Any suggestions?
learning_slowly Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I think you need to ask yourself, do you really want to be with her? If the answer is yes, then stop playing games and just tell her this whether it's via Facebook or another communication method. Let her know it's a relationship or nothing - well you know what you want. If you're under her reigns from agreeing to a FB message, you're in trouble anyway! So best to ignore? 1
Jiivy Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Games Why keep playing them? If she felt you weren't committed enough, and really was herself a loving partner surely she'd try with you on it? If, after that, it wasn't working...then ok. But it doesn't sound like that. It sounds like she's playing cat and mouse - she wants the thrill of the chase. You have every right to be firm and keep your identity. Does being "better" to her go outside of the bounds of who you are? There's a balancing act between compromise and giving in all together. Don't change yourself to the point where you're unhappy just to keep a relationship burning. You should compliment each other, grow with each other! My suggestion is that you look inside and decide how much change you will give this woman. Not for her, but also for you - can you be happy as the man she's asking you to be? The answer to that question is all you need. 1
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