Ainsleigh Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 My boyfriend and i have been together for a few months and he doesn't like showing any emotion about how he feels towards me i know he likes me a lot in his wording he is also a trucker so he gets busy and i only see him weekends, he is very strong minded and stubborn he's not used to having a girlfriend as i am his first we have the problem that i cant stand my own ground ive never had a backbone and am always being told i am to nice especially by my boyfriend im not sure how to tell my boyfriend i want him to show more emotion. Example; my boyfriend and i are in his room and he will come and hug me kiss my forehead cheeks lips and cuddle me when we are sleeping he likes to keep cuddling with me until the morning and even past when we have woken up we have sex almost every weekend he is home some weekends its just cuddling but when we go out to dinner or a movie he doesn't like PDA so we dont hold hands often kiss or hug but its easy to see we are together just by how we look and talk to each other, when he is away for the week trucking he goes out pretty far and he will text me at stops and sometimes call me but he never says anything with his emotions i have to be the one who says i miss you then he will say he misses me especially when he is going farther away that day, but that is as far as his emotions go over text. He came home this weekend and went out with friends on friday which is fine we made plans for saterday to spend it together so we went to a movie and right after he dropped me of and left for his friends again after changing the showtime he originally wanted then we got into a slight disagreement about how he could have stayed with me like we had planed during the week then on sunday he told me to go over to his house and we cuddled and talked about how last weekend at a party he had a girl come onto him and he was faithful and backed away from her trying to kiss him even after she said that i wouldnt find out, he was saying im everything hes been looking for in a girl sexually emotionally and physically he and i both come from the same farm back round and also have known each other since we where little. Im not sure if anyone could give advice on how to work with someone who is stubborn and wont make things work better as he said friends are forever and girls are what ever but if im his everything in a girl shouldnt there be a way i make his go weak or get nervous or afraid of losing me. Also sorry this isnt the best laid out post its the first post ive made anywhere and its alittle all over the place!
stillafool Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Please reedit your post and use periods to end sentences. This is impossible to read. 1
Arieswoman Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Ainesleigh, I really don't see what your problem is? How can you say your guy isn't emotional when he is cuddling you and kissing you? Just because he isn't all over you like a rash in public doesn't mean he is "unemotional". I don't see how he is "stubborn"? He's a trucker. You knew he was a trucker when you took up with him and so you know he has to retain his "macho" image in front of all the other guys. Cut the guy some slack and just enjoy yourself.
d0nnivain Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Guys are not as mushy as girls. I may work on the public handholding but as for the rest of it, you're getting more than a lot of women. If you need more than that, he may not be your guy.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I think Ainesleigh is looking for is more vocalization of his emotions, such as initiating "I miss you", "I love you", and such. It seems your boyfriend is very reserved about his feelings, but does express them to you in private, without words. I do agree with the other posters that you have something good, that he does show his affection to you (except out in public), but I also agree that you would like him to be more assertive with expressing his feelings. You should discuss this with him and ask him if he could try to be more verbally expressive. He doesn't need to go overboard, just try a few things. Be supportive of him, and first have him try it in private with you where he is comfortable. 1
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