STM206 Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Getting back with an ex can work (I have seen it) but the past will always come back to haunt the relationship. I guess the majority of us feel like we'd be willing to put in the work, considering that's what relationships are about. I do wonder that if on the remote chance my ex wanted to try again, if I would be able to learn to trust him again, or if the scars would be too deep and I would be the one leaving this time.
malin819 Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I guess the majority of us feel like we'd be willing to put in the work, considering that's what relationships are about. I do wonder that if on the remote chance my ex wanted to try again, if I would be able to learn to trust him again, or if the scars would be too deep and I would be the one leaving this time. IMHO The trust would have to be rebuild from zero since this person broke you heart in pieces. You'll always remember that part of the past and think to yourself Hey they did it once and can surely do it again! 3
Chi townD Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Odd to say this now but, my biggest fear was that my Ex wanted to make contact with me during NC. Thank God that never happened! Just to hear her voice or to get a letter or an email would have set me back and I KNOW it would have. I got lucky that she didn't give a rats ass about me. LOL! Weird to say that. 4
Author FredJones80 Posted April 28, 2014 Author Posted April 28, 2014 Odd to say this now but, my biggest fear was that my Ex wanted to make contact with me during NC. Thank God that never happened! Just to hear her voice or to get a letter or an email would have set me back and I KNOW it would have. I got lucky that she didn't give a rats ass about me. LOL! Weird to say that. That is actually really understandable. You want them to contact, but you don't. Can't win either way 1
malin819 Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 That is actually really understandable. You want them to contact, but you don't. Can't win either way I know one way you can win Let it go...Let it goooooooooo!!!!! Sorry got that song stuck in my head damn it
Babolat Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Funnily enough, my worst fear about NC is that I'LL actually move on and be ok...and I can feel myself going that way each and every day. A part of me drags me back and refuses to let go, but that part dies a little every day. I like this reply. It was my fear too when I broke up with my ex gf, twice. And both times, I did move on and I was Okay, and healthier.
Elle1975 Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I believe we will always hear from them in one point in our life...to be honest it was like this with most of my exes I have heard from my exes, either I dumped them or was dumped. I just didn't care about the break up in the first place or had moved on. My very first boyfriend, high school sweetheart, we tried again after a period of NC from my part. I didn't even know what NC was, just did it.
SCJACK Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Yeah I'm scared about the fact that we may never hear from them again. Especially if we died they wouldn't know.. what crushes me the most is the things that you left unsaid and things could have been differently if people weren't so self centered and selfish and the world revolves around only them. You don't know how much someone means to you until they really disappear from your life and when they do it's too late.. then we all live in regret... things left unsaid can never be said, and nothing you can do to change any of it. Reminds me of this song..
d0nnivain Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Whats your worst fear about NC? Mine, me or ex getting a serious illness and/or dying and the other person doesn't even know. After spending some much of your life together and the other person could just die without you knowing, find it odd. Weird huh? Nope, not weird. That's my fear too & it happened. Broke up with somebody after 12 years together. About 2 years later, I had a feeling something was wrong so I called him after basically 2 years of NC. Turned out his dad was in a coma. We chatted for almost 2 hours. He was able to unburden himself to me & confessed that he finally understood what kind of support I had given him. (I took care of his mother when she was dying). When we ended the conversation, he promised to contact me if something happened with his dad. He didn't. My parents read the obituary in the paper.
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