trieordiehard Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Hello, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4 months roughly and I have not seen her friends once during this time. I must admit there has not been any major events that would make it obvious to hang with a bunch of people. During this time my girlfriend has seen her friends every now and then (she has a close group of friends of around 5 people, people who are really close to each other). And I have seen my friends on my own a few times too. I have to mention that I have been introduced to her mother already once and she is not hiding our relationship in social media in any way. It still bothers me a bit that I have not seen her friends. These friends seem to all be single and they like to party at night clubs and such. A few weeks back my girlfriend was out with her friends and I had requested that I would be interested to see her friends if an opportunity rises. She did not invite me and I though it was a girls-only-evening but the next day it turned out there were guys there also (she became friends with one in Facebook). Good thing is she did not go clubbing with them, instead we met at her place. She also had an incident with a guy sending pics of his intimate parts to her and I had to explain her the hard way that this guy was not just wanting to be friends with her. This incident kind of caused some trust-issues for me since she seemed to have a really bad way to judge people. My question is, should I be bothered by this at all? I am not going to force things, but I know in a couple of days there is going to be a "party-day" here when everyone basically goes out to do something so if she goes out with her friends without me, I dont what to think.
Omei Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 Yes, I would be bothered by it. More so by why she's adding men and numbers of guys to her fb and cell while she's with you men dont just randomly send nudes she's giving out her number and acting as if she was single is my guess. Ask her if you can come, if she says no ask why not if she keeps doing this all the time my guess is as stated above.
d0nnivain Posted April 28, 2014 Posted April 28, 2014 I don't understand why you couldn't have gone out with the group. Have you asked her that? What did she say? If it was girls' night that would have been one thing but in a mixed group the fact that you were excluded is problematic. 1
Author trieordiehard Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Okey to clear things out, those intimate pics were send around the time I met her. So not during when we were actually dating. What pissed me off that she still considered this guy only as a friend, when the signs were clear he had other intentions. I don't know what does it tell about a girl if she does not want me to meet her friends. I'm not even sure if that is the case here, maybe there really just has not been any good moment for that to happen. And she took me to meet her mom which at least shows that she is serious.
Assasda Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 OP stop being a girl. This girl is going to leave you, because she doesnt want a lesbian relationship. Why do you NEED to meet her friends? What void do you NEED to fill?? You are needy, and its the most unattractive thing for women. Live your own life. Can you do that? Can you forget about her when she goes out and let her do her thing. You are not her father and you cant control her, cheating on you or not. Find a hobby for yourself and stop trying to inject yourself in everything she's doing. Who cares what kinda pics she has. Id be happy that she shared that info with me, but she is not your procession and you cant control who she has as friends
Author trieordiehard Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 OP stop being a girl. This girl is going to leave you, because she doesnt want a lesbian relationship. Why do you NEED to meet her friends? What void do you NEED to fill?? You are needy, and its the most unattractive thing for women. Live your own life. Can you do that? Can you forget about her when she goes out and let her do her thing. You are not her father and you cant control her, cheating on you or not. Find a hobby for yourself and stop trying to inject yourself in everything she's doing. Who cares what kinda pics she has. Id be happy that she shared that info with me, but she is not your procession and you cant control who she has as friends true im too caught up in this relationship bull**** at the moment. I got hobbies so no problem. She just started to talk about moving in together so I got puzzled about this.
BikerAccnt Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 It wouldn't bother me too much. I'm not dating someone to meet their friends. As someone who doesn't have that many friends, and who doesn't see the one's he does have that often. It's not big deal for me.
Author trieordiehard Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 She used to party quite a bit before she met me. Now she does not want to go out anymore and barely sees her friends. It made me curious about this. I have suggested that we go out together with her friends so we get something to do together instead of just laying between 4 walls. So far this has not happened. I just dont want to get stuck in some routines already after few months of dating.
mema1982 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 Man she's bad 4 u !!!!!!!!!!!!!! 99% she's cheating on you and if not then she's with you just cos you're nice to her and spoiling her.... Sorry but everything she say's is just an excuse to hide you even though you met her mom... Big f@#$% deal !!!!!.
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