jon83 Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 Anyone can feel free to reply, but maybe some females can decipher this one for me. This would actually be more of a 3rd chance situation. I went out with this girl starting the summer after I graduated from high school. Met her on a blind date towards the end of the school year. We clicked and went out for 2 1/2 years. The entire time was great, and we both fell in love with each other. We were gonna get married when I finished college. Everything was going as good as it could. Very long story short: Basically for reasons out of our control things started to not go so well. She ended up breaking up with me, and I agreed it was probably a good idea. She said that it might not be for good though. We remained friends. That was at the beginning of my jr. year in college. We got back together for the summer following that school year, which was last summer '04. She ended it again a couple months later for the same reason as the first time. I was pretty sure it was over for sure that time. We again remained friends. I went back to school. I actually went out with a girl all first semester, started out great, but she can't be trusted so needless to say that's over. I just got a call from my ex a couple days ago (the girl I'd been with for 2+yrs.). I was suprised at first. We talked for awhile. I knew she had been seeing someone so I asked her how that was. She said "pretty good" but was really curious about my situation. I told her I wasn't seeing anyone. Then she wanted to know if I meant everything I said when were dating, if I really loved her and all. I told her I meant everything I said when I said it. I still have feelings for her but didn't mention that. I told her it took awhile to get over it but that I was fine now. She said she never got over me. I wasn't really sure why she was telling me that. I had to go, and she said it was good talking again and that we should again sometime. She called again today. We just talked about whatever for awhile, nothing big. Does she want to get back together maybe? I was kinda doubting it seeing as she has a bf, but she kept talking about and bringing up how great things were between us. I'd consider seeing her again, but not really sure. Any advice would be appreciated. THANKS!!
Stylin22 Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 I don't think she's as happy as she is telling you...Maybe something she is missing with bf is something she had with you. I dunno. I would sit back, don't let the hopes get up there, and see how it pans out...I feel like you need more time before you come to a conclusion...just be yourself and enjoy the friendship for now...
DinNJ Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 I'ma guy... sorry. But she wants you back. If not, then at the very least, she wants to know if you've moved on... she's obviously having second thoughts, possibly regretting her decision. Play it cool... let her contact you.... don't mention the other guy. Let her assume you are doing well without her.
sweet-oooh Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Yeah she wants you back, but i would be very careful. you have obviously been hurt by her before and always remember that relationships end for a reason. be careful and give it time.
VirginiaBob Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Whether she wants you back or not, the fact is the relationship failed. The way I always saw this is that if you can't make things work before marriage, what makes you think it would work after marriage?
Sharmaine Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 I'm female. Sounds like she came 'testing the waters'. In other words, came back to see if their are still feelings on your part for her/to see how you feel about her now? She's obviously not 100% happy with current boyfriend, may be regretting her decision to end things with you, perhaps on some level wants to come back to you/is trying to find a way to come back to you???
JoL Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 It sounds like she is running back to what is comfortable for her- you. When you have been with someone for a while, you get used to the relationship, the person, the feelings and it can be a "safe" place. it sounds she is running away from her current relationship for whatever reason. Personally, this girl sounds like she is a serial-dumper. She dumped you twice, she will probably dump the guy she is with now and want to get with you. And if you get back together with her- you got it- she will dump you again 100% guaranteed. If a couple couldnt make it worth 2 times, what makes her think you will be third time lucky? Unfortunately, i would advise against dating her again. Perhaps being friends is ok, but it doesnt sound like you guys are capable of having a healthy relationship. She brings up the good times, but seems to forget that you had lots of bad ones too- hence why you are no longer together!!!
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