Our first fight

[cmack90]

I am a 22 year old male and have been seeing a 23 year old female for a few weeks and the relationship has moved weirdly fast. She is the "new" girl at work. There are a number of red flags that go up with our relationship. On the first night we went to dinner, I went back to her house and spent the night. In fact, I spent the night there for 5 out of the next 7 days. She begged me to. She is a beautiful girl but is very insecure, has trust issues etc etc. She told me she wanted to marry me and even told her mom. Her mom has been pushing me to buy a marriage license. She texts me nonstop about how much she loves me, comes to see me before work, is there before I get off, bag packed hoping to spend the night with me (If my roommate is away). My roommate usually leaves on the weekends. Well this weekend he didn't and she wanted to stay at my place. I told her she couldn't and that she would have to leave because I had to wake up early for work on Saturday. She got an attitude with me and I told her to go. I called her while she was on her way back home to apologize and she said it's okay please just don't ever talk to me like that again. It hurts my feelings. She always texts me when she gets home to let me know she's okay. I fell asleep waiting on her Friday night, and she never text me. I didn't think much of it. I tried calling her after my shift yesterday (mid afternoon) and no response. I text her and asked her how she was doing and if she could call me before she went in for her shift at 4, no response. So I head over to work around 7, and don't see her car and ask our manager where she was. He informed me that she had called out for the entire weekend with "strep throat". I contacted her mom and expressed my concerns and she told me that she had told her mom that she WAS at work. I drove by her apartment and her car was gone. I was legitimately concerned that something had happened to her. Her mom called me a couple hours later and said she got in touch with Amy and that she would call me but that "she needed some time", and was staying with her friend Catilyn. She never called, but texted me and said, "I need some time". I asked her if I could just call her for one minute and she responded, "I gotta think about this". This relationship has been an emotional rollercoaster since our very first date. She usually texts me every second, and if I go like an hour without responding she says, "And Tyler has disappeared again". Always accusing me of texting other girls etc.

 

I am not contacting her anymore unless she contacts me or when I see her at work.

 

I feel like this thing is really going to turn into a royal mess with our jobs. Luckily this is my last semester attending the college then I am returning home.

 

 

Is she trying to teach me a lesson for being rude? Surely she hasn't lost interest over one little harmless incident. I am really reconsidering her character, as she lied to her mom, lied to me about going home, and presumptuously lied to our boss.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

This girl sounds like a clingy, insecure, needy, drama queen. You've only been dating a few weeks and she's already talking marriage and her mother is pressuring you to get a marriage license?? WTF?? Relationships shouldn't be this hard only a few weeks in. Imagine how it will be months or years down the road. I would get out now before you get in any deeper.

[cmack90]

Yes that is what everyone is telling me. So many read flags going up and I've known it the whole time. I guess I've just really enjoyed the physical aspect of the relationship.

[KatZee]

Even more proof that men want nothing but psycho bitches!!!

 

I'm betting you stay with her too.

[d0nnivain]

Thank heavens this isn't your career. I agree with you that she will most likely make work uncomfortable.

 

I'd break up with her.

 

Save any texts you have so if she makes a stink at work you can show that she's psycho.