Hopeful30 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Basically my best friend has been dating a guy for about 8 months now? 9? Anyways, usually he would invite her everywhere. Parties, get togethers - even when its just him and his buddies he would bring her cuz she's like one of the guys (they invited me to join them a few times as well). In the last little while though, she's been complaining that he doesn't invite her out anymore (and he hangs with the same people she is now friends with). I personally think this is weird because, why would u stop all of a sudden? He made an effort to show her off to everyone and she was very welcomed in the group (from what she tells me) and now suddenly he doesn't even invite her to join him anymore. Is this a bad sign?
mortensorchid Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Hard to say. At some point things are hot, then they go cold in terms of activity?
Author Hopeful30 Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 Hard to say. At some point things are hot, then they go cold in terms of activity? From what I know, he just stopped inviting her out. They still spend time together from what she tells me. She hangs out with his buddies even when her bf can't make it, and yet he still doesn't invite her out when they all hang? I dunno it sounds really weird to me.
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Maybe he's just gotten to that comfortable stage in the relationship and is enjoying some time with his friends away from his relationship. I don't see that as anything weird, personally. It's nice to be invited out with the boyfriend's friends, and to invite him out with mine, and it's lovely to accept that invite and go out as a couple sometimes. But equally I appreciate my own time alone with friends, and I would feel weird if I was with him every time he saw his friends as I'd be worried he wasn't getting any social time away from me. You gotta find a balance, where you're getting to know the partner's friends and vice versa but not suddenly acting like a married couple that can't bear to be apart. What's the score with her friendship group? Does she have plenty of her own friends or is she just hanging with his friends?
KatZee Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 My ex did the same thing to me. In the beginning I was invited everywhere. Once we started having problems he started saying that he wanted to see his friends without me. One occasion he said he would be calling me Saturday morning to go somewhere, so I woke up got ready and I didn't hear from him all day. He claimed he "never invited me" come to find out that his ex girlfriend had been there. He purposely didn't invite me and he cheated on me that night with her. (I didn't find this out until years later). When we started fighting he wouldn't even ask if I wanted to go out with him and his friends, he would just flat out leave me out. I had his girl friends texting me saying things like, "I feel weird not telling you this, but we're hanging out with XXX. I just thought you should know." If he's not inviting her out, obviously he wants to be away from her, and that's never a good sign. I could see if he went out with just the guys, or wanted guy night, but if there are other girls there, and it's a get together just like any of the others, it's not a good sign. He's essentially pulling away and separating his life from "their" life. 1
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