Deeedubb Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Ok, Usually wouldn't resort to spilling my guts on a forum but I guess its worth a try So I've been getting drinks with an old co-worker of mine for about 3 months. I'm def into her. Id say we've got drinks 4-5 times, just the 2 of us. She seems to always have a good time, I make her laugh, I can tell she mirrors my movements exe.. On our last get-together, I told her that I was a pretty decent cook. She then said that she would like to come over for some wine, food and a movie. I was stoked! Anyways, I tried to schedule a night for her to come by. I told her to let me know what day worked good for her. I didn't hear from her for almost 3 weeks. She then txt back saying that she was "a horrible person and that we were supposed to hang out a week ago". I just told her that I figured she was busy and no big deal. We are both pretty busy people btw.. So about another 3 weeks pass ( I was gone playing some shows in Hawaii) so I decided to try to reach out to her again. I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink. We both agreed that one of the days in the week would work out but she wasn't sure about which one. We thought that Wed would work out but she needed to confirm when the day got closer. All good. So Wed comes around and I didn't hear anything back from her. I make sure that i'm not bombarding her with a bunch of txt's so I blew it off again. I also wanted to see if she would remember that we talked about Wed night, obviously she didn't. So I txted 3 days later on a Saturday night saying "Hang Soon??". She txted back quickly saying she did. I was kind of annoyed that this was the 2nd time that we were having issues on hanging out so I said "Didn't hear from you about wed so I wasn't sure.. What day is good for you?" We then Confirmed for this next Tuesday. I guess i'm just trying to figure out if I should even waste anymore of my time. Yes, we confirmed another get together, but I feel deflated and honestly, i'm really trying to guard myself from any hurt.. Should I continue hanging out or should I just move on? Thanks for reading!
Legatus Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 That is a long time to get together I have to say.. I would give it another try, just to see if that get together you've been planning for weeks will change anything. If you have a good time and your cooking is really good () then see if that shifts anything in your relations. If next meeting will be as hard to organise as this one? I would consider letting it go.. If she comes to you with questions why? Then you can put all cards on the table and ask if that's her pattern, does she do it on purpose etc..
Lansing Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I would give it one more chance and keep your confidence. Some times girls do stupid things to test guys and see their "interest" and how they will react to flaking/etc. Instead of saying "what day are you free" all the time a better line is "hey, I am free wednesday or thursday, either of those days work for you"? otherwise even though you are busy you sound like you will drop everything for her whenever she is free
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