broken16 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 about a month ago my babys daddy came home from work and told me that we needed a break. i kinda knew it was coming because we were starting to fight a lot but the fights were mostly about hum changing. 2 months ago we were completely in love then when we moved to the city he became different. he cared about his looks and he started to become jealous and quit showing me affection. anyways, the day he broke up with me he had already started seeing another girl. she was one of his coworkers and so i knew they were seeing eachother for awhile since they got together so quickly. all they do is drink and do drugs and he is already claiming he loves her. i begged him countless times to come home and we could work on everything but he wont budge. i miss everything, im so damm lonely and he makes it even worser how hes handling it all so easily. i was a good woman, cleaned cooked and made sure he was satisfied. i used to cheat and drink a lot but i grew out of it and changed my ways for him. so this is all just shocking for me. my baby wants us happy and together she says, i do too. i just wanna know how long theyll even last or if he'll even come crying back, i never did anything wrong to deserve this.
Author broken16 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 yah, im not really ready to refer to him as my ex just yet.
BC1980 Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 yah, im not really ready to refer to him as my ex just yet. It's fresh, so it takes some getting used to. I think it actually took me months to refer to my ex as an actual ex. I would say "him" a lot. It just sounded so final, but I know that we do process grief in stages. Sometimes, it will hit you hard and go away for a few weeks. Then, something else will hit you again. It ebbs and flows like that. I think it would be too overwhelming to process it all at once. Hang in there. You were together for 6 years, so you can't expect to accept this and get over it quickly.
Author broken16 Posted June 3, 2014 Author Posted June 3, 2014 (edited) welll its been 2 months we've been broken up. first month was rough but surprisingly, i am happy and living life. idk what i saw in him and i am glad its over. he tried cheating on his gf with me but i shut him down. i deserve so much better and i am now getting to know another guy. he makes me smile and makes me forget i was ever broken. the pain and heartbreak does definitely get better and you will learn to love yourself through the process. it aint easy at first but it gets easier day by day. sure i miss who he USED to be, but not him. i will never get back with him and cant believe i actually wanted to before. thanks for the advice people, i am a strong woman now! not that weak little girl anymore. Edited June 3, 2014 by broken16 2
lovehurtsme91 Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 I'm glad to hear that you are going strong and also seeing someone else. I can only hope to be like you when my 2 months NC is up So confident and determined!
Omei Posted June 4, 2014 Posted June 4, 2014 Are you sure you're not doing a rebound right now? I mean six years together and your spending time with someone else already is really fast. You said you used to cheat alot this may have been a long time coming even tho you were good to him now stuff like that hardly ever gos away he may of metally checked out long ago so when this woman came along it was an opportunity. Im glad you found company but keep in mind about your feelings you dont want to end up hurting someone. Has your 2 months apart been with NC?
Author broken16 Posted June 12, 2014 Author Posted June 12, 2014 yah this may have been my karma for what ii did in the past but i completely changed myself. if he was a good person he could have accepted the fact that i made my mistakes and learned from them. but instead he did what he did. 2 months may be too quick from your perspective but the way i see it is that i deserve to actually be wanted and felt good about. i had my reasons for cheating, my ex abused me to the point where my self esteem was at its all time low. i went out to drink with friends just to have fun but he took that at his own advantage to cheat while i was away from him for the night which is why i cheated too. 6 years off that crap then i'm sure you would be happy to get away from it all and start something brand new with another. ive learned so much from my past relationship, ive learned what to look out for in my future ones.
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