forever_lost Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I didn't expect her to, nor do I think I really wanted her to, so maybe that's why I don't know how I feel about it. Because if she did call, then maybe it would just be breadcrumbs. It just feels cold, and cruel. It makes me sad and relieved at the same time. I don't know - where do I go from here? I'm at a crossroads between Queen's "Don't Stop Me Now" and any song written by Taylor Swift.
Poppyolive Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Don't be listening to any Taylor Swifty no good comes of that...;-) I know it's hard, my ex text me day before MY birthday asking for something pair of jeans and day after for something else stupid...and nothing on my birthday..wasn't expecting it.. But yah know after 5 plus years. It does suck. But you need to shake it off and celebrate you!! Happy birthday kiddo. Remember no Taylor Swift.
Brokenguy22 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Mine texted me drew a cake with a FU**ING heart on it. I replied we talked now I feel like **** again. Be thankful she didn't smh @ my self stupid, stupid me!
MidwestUSA Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 You're traveling at the speed of light, Mr. Fahrenheit. Godspeed!
Cerulean Blue Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I know how you feel. Though there could be a million of reasons why she didn't call (although sometimes I think it's better to assume they're cruel and cold, easier to move on ) When I saw a counselor a few years back for a much more traumatising break-up than the one I am going through now, I was taught a very useful technique called Challenging Negative Thoughts - we are full of them post break-up and it is always useful way of approaching any ruminations that make you sad. Often they are a product of our thinking and doesn't reflect the reality, when we lay things out and look at them closely. I did a quick google search and some of the very similar questions are here: Challenging Negative Self-Talk | Psych Central I hope that helps a little! 1
redbaron005 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 My ex more or less made our breakup official by birthday card. And told me that she was considering it (aka talking to the new man) for four months. Be thankful you did not have your birthday ruined. 1
David87 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 It's better this way trust me. My ex from a couple of years ago made me a cake for my birth day......didn't help the fact that I was broken hearted .....Silence is better.
realfriends Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Listen. This is all that could have come from it "Happy Birthday" and either you dont respond or you say "Thank you" and its done. Its better that she didn't respond. 1
KaliLove Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 My ex did wish me a happy birthday but I wish he hadn't. Trade ya!
Always Pondering Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 Trust me this will not be bothersome to you later! My ex didn't call or text me on New Year's or my birthday (back in January). Is she obligated to? Absolutely not. Did it hurt me? At the time yes, but now I don't even think about it or really care that she didn't. Honestly like the other posters, you should be glad she didn't. If my ex called me during mine, I would've most likely munched up those breadcrumbs and put myself back in square one. Be glad not sad. 1
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