veronicab Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I have a new professor this year and we have become very close. I enjoyed him as a professor since the start and he is always very helpful and willing to help me with any questions. We have had even long personal talks in his office about anything from movies to him even telling me some secrets of his. He wrote an amazing internship recommendation letter for me and has pulled some of his connections to get me an even better internship. He has told me that I am one of his best students and that he just gives me As sometimes without even grading my papers and quizzes carefully. He is the advisor to a club we started together and when we went to a conference he gave me his number for emergencies, but now we text each other somewhat regularly. One day he agreed to see me on a weekend in his office and we just talked and he also offered me to work over the summer with him on some research projects. He has only offered that to me, not to any other students. Many of my friends see that he does treat me differently from other students and that i am obviously favored. He is only 29 and I am 20 so he is not that much older than me. So does he really like me or? I wouldn't want to do anything serious with him, but I would be ok just hooking up with him. Should I make a move?
d0nnivain Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 You should not make a move while he is your professor. When the semester is over -- or better yet after you graduate -- do what you want. I doubt he has romantic feelings but even if he does he'd be pretty stupid to risk his entire career for a quick hook up with a student.
paigej91 Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I doubt it. It's just one of those really great and rare professional connections. Don't ruin one of those because you think he's attractive.
veggirl Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 No you shouldn't. And it's beyond inappropriate that he boosts your grades because he likes you, better not let anyone in class find that out. Him telling you that almost seems like a bribe or something, like "look what I did for you..." And yes a 29 yr old professor IS a lot older than a 20 yr old undergrad.
sagetalk Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I work at a college and dating a student is a no-no. Please do not jeopardize his career because of a fling. Date him after you graduate if you want. As a student, it's a terrible mistake.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Don't make a move. You could be putting him in a bad position, professionally. That is against policy in many colleges and not worth the trouble.
Eivuwan Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 There is nothing good that can come out of this. If you make a move and he actually does not like you that way then you might risk being kicked out of the lab and loosing a great professional connection. If he does like you then HE will get in trouble for dating a student. Nope nope nope.
CarrieT Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 So does he really like me or? It doesn't matter. You shouldn't do it. I wouldn't want to do anything serious with him, but I would be ok just hooking up with him. YOU might be okay with it, but he could lose his job and career by doing it. Should I make a move? No. Stop hanging out and being a temptation. As others have said - no good can come of it.
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