lover_stfc Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Right here we go… Basically I started emailing a girl for work purposes (she worked in London and at the time I was based in France) we chatted on email and the convo turned a lot more personal. Anyhow, I asked her to add me on Facebook if she wanted too, and she did. I had no idea she was my type and she was, we chatted more (WhatsApp, Facebook) all the time, turned out I was her type too. We chatted daily and started to Skype. I asked if she wanted to one day meet and come to see me in France (I was due back in the UK at April) she said yes. However the company I worked for said I could have a holiday early if I wish in the UK. So I met her in my week off in March, we agreed to meet in Birmingham, she came to see me as I’m from the Midlands and she is from London. Anyhow I said I’d plan the night we stupidly I didn’t, we had a look around the City Shopping Centre but got on, we then checked into the Hotel and within say an hour we were having sex. We had it 3 more times after, made her climax 3 times. Went out for tea that night and basically cut things short it went OK but the day after we were going to go to Sealife Centre but bad planning was terrible and turned up too late. We argued a little however we then agreed to go for Sushi and just have a good time for last few hours before she went down South again. Left on good terms then kissed goodbye, as in sexual kissing not ‘friends’. She rang me the day after and said she was confused and didn’t feel it ‘click’ in her head. However wanted to leave it till I got back in April from France (I was only on holiday) anyhow I returned to France pretty gutted, however she cared and messaged me seeing if I was OK. I bought her Flowers to say sorry for not making proper plans when she came all that way to see me. We then spoke for work purposes a lot again and she started messaging me like we used too. She went on holiday to Spain and when she came back messaged me asking if I wanted to meet up as a friends again, (we seriously hyped the Birmingham meet up and we both agreed we did) so anyhow I returned to the UK. We was going to go to the theme park with no pressure on it, however the plan then changed for me to come down London and stay at hers. I come down and we had a look around London etc, I didn’t wanna put pressure on her and try it on too soon. Anyhow at the end of the day we watched a film at hers and I went in and placed my hand on her knee, she let me. We finished the film then went to bed, I started kissing her and she kissed me back however she then said “I won’t have sex with you as will confuse things” I don’t mind kissing and cuddles tho. I was OK with this, anyhow day after we went around Town again and just before I was due to go home she ‘said I just see you as a friend at the moment’ but ‘your right it would bother me if you were with other girls’. I really like her, I know she finds me attractive and cares about me. We have slept together so its not like totally ‘friend zoned’ as they say. Since I been back she hasn’t messaged me as I said I needed time to get used to be being ‘friends only’ however stupidly I deleted her off Facebook and she then messaged me instantly calling me immature, which it was. Says she did a lot for me cooking for me, coming to Birmingham etc, putting me up. What should I do? I’m not needy and she knows and sees that. I know she likes me more than a mate in some ways hence the kissing, the ‘friends at the moment’ comment and the other girls things. Any questions please ask, quite aware this is a long post! Thanks.
sagetalk Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I was OK with this, anyhow day after we went around Town again and just before I was due to go home she ‘said I just see you as a friend at the moment’ but ‘your right it would bother me if you were with other girls’. Women love attention, even if they don't necessarily want to date the guy giving it to them. Whenever I hear the word friend, I usually recommend moving on. Especially since you had sex with her. I don't see much of a healthy for you with her.
Author lover_stfc Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 True, presumed people got 'friend zoned' before they have sex with a girl and don't tend to kiss them how we have been. If it worth taking a step back and moving on but staying in contact with her? As you can see from the above she has made a lot of effort (costs her a lot of money) her side too so its not all been one way, I'm pretty good at not contacting her so there is no way I could come across 'needy' I just simply like her more than she likes me at the moment.
Author lover_stfc Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) Also when I deleted her, she added 'I went on your profile to see how your interview went in London and when I went to see it said 'Add Friend' that hurt me' Shows she taking an interest in my life...... Also it was her who suggested meeting up again after the badly planned first meeting Edited April 26, 2014 by lover_stfc
HappyLove Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 She's playing games probably has a bf. You're right to move on.
Author lover_stfc Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 No way on earth she has a Boyfriend, I've known her since Jan.......
HappyLove Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 No way on earth she has a Boyfriend, I've known her since Jan....... There are people married 20 years who have a boyfriend. You've known her since January big whoop!
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